Would YOU Crash This Party?

Why is the coordinator still acting like she is in high school? You went to school with these kids not the next year. High school reunions are about seeing the people you went to school with not enforcing some technicality. Why would they even think it was reasonable to make you go to a class reunion where you don't really know the other people?

Very strange...

So yeah, crash it! Then again I would be raising all sorts of stink about it but then I am mean like that!

I think you should go. Especially because high school reunions seem to be a tradition that is fading fast thanks to Facebook and whatnot. My high school didn't do one and neither did my husband's. And since you have good friends to go with....I would go while you have the chance. :)

I'm in the same boat - graduated the January after I should have. I wasn't pregnant but I had dropped out for the last semester of my senior year and then went back the following 1st semester. I did get invited to my class reunion, but sadly elected not to go. If you want to go, which it sounds like you do, I'd go.

The whole reason for having a reunion is to get together with your classmates. They are your classmates, you definitely should go. Have a great time!
Btw, you are not petty for wanting to go, the coordinator is the petty one for getting so hung up on a technicality.

Yes! Crash!! Coordinator is being petty and totally ridiculous. Go hang out with your bestie girlfriends and your classmates. To me, one flippin' class you took does not equal the 4 years and 30 something classes you took all along the way with your '02 grads.

Good luck and best wishes at having a wild time at the party!! Let us know how it goes and your run in with said coordinator.

I go and make sure I looked my best!

Absolutely go and have a great time with your friends! I can't believe they are making such a big deal about you not attending because you "officially" graduated the next year. Our class has invited a couple of our classmates that transferred their senior year to another school. They still went to school with us for many years and had a bigger connection to us than their "graduating" classes. The more the merrier!

I probably would if I was in your situation...

Here I went to a relatively small school, you know the everyone knows everyone but does't like eachother...anyway my point is. We don't even have them as specific to a year of graduation. We all just tend to say "Hey graduating classes of such and such, we are getting a 'thing' together" come one come all.

So the rules for only if you got your diploma during this year apply are unapplicable now.

GOOOOO!

I say go and have a ball. Your not actually crashing because you were invited it just wasnt from the coordinator. Oh well. Sorry for them they should have made it no quest allow if they really wanted to keep you out. PARTY HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!ENJOY..

I went to three different high schools. My 10 year reunion should have been last year, I never saw anything for it. I wouldn't have gone even if I did :).

But if you want to go -HECK YES!

Wow! From my experience w/reunions, the coordinators are either really flexible or really anal. Sounds like you are dealing w/the latter.

If you crash, would you be okay w/not having the acknowledgement that everyone else would have? Or someone ready to throw you out?

I would crash...and I'd make sure I'll come with my own name tag in case they wouldn't have one prepared for me. They might not have your senior picture displayed but you'll be in all the group yearbook pictures. Go for it!

You definitely have to go...it reminds me of the scene in the movie "Never Been Kissed" where the snotty kids won't sell the braniacs a ticket to prom, but she takes the ticket, puts the money on the table and has a smarta$$ remark for it! :)

GO! And don't let that "mean girl" get her way...and as some others have said...the drama never ends...I haven't gone to a reunion yet (been over 20 yrs) because I keep in touch w/ who I want already, but there is so much ridiculous drama w/ some of the other women I know, I don't NEED highschool...I think it's actually WORSE now! LOL...some people just thrive on it I guess!

HAVE FUN AND FLAUNT YOUR BEAUTIFUL SELF!

Girl, go!! That's what the reunion is all about, meeting back up with the people you went to school and had class with!

Make sure that you look flawless, down to the smallest detail.

We just had our 15 yr reunion ( where does the time go?!) and I haven't gone to one yet.

I could care less about 90% of the people in my class. I didn't like them then.. haven't talked to a one of them since graduating... why do I want to surround myself by them again? The other 10% I see and talk to and once a year we have our own get together. I like it that way much better.

In your case... I say CRASH IT!!!

I would probably opt out. (High school was never really about INclusion, right?)
I probably wouldn't go to the 2003 reunion either.

But as someone's date......hmmmmmm.......STICK IT TO THE MAN, R.!

By all means, go see the people you actually have memories with. Besides, the reunion is usually a whole weekend of activities.
I tried NOT to go to my reunion. I was in a downtown gay bar with some friends dancing when my whole reunion walked in. I had avoided them because I didn't want to answer all those - what are you doing with your life questions. Well, I guess they drew thier own conclusions based onwhere they ran into me! They were wrong, but I didn't bother correcting them.

Hubby and I went to my 20 year reunion. AHHH, reminded me as to why I hated high school so much! We left by 11:30 p.m. and mind you it wasn't a cheap trip. Hotel, car, airfare. But I am glad I went and will NEVER go to another one. We have been the several of my hubby's and have a blast. Go! What are they going to do, kick you out? I don't think so!

Crash away my friend! My 20 year was in '08. Several people were there that either moved away or quit. Tell the 'coordinator' to get a hobby.

Hi, R.:

Our HS reunions for Stony Creek HS is every 2 years, everyone is invited.
Our HS was built in 1921, 12 grades, all white. Now, of course, we have built a complex of all schools in one area where all students are able to attend.
I am sure, people will enjoy seeing you. You may even hear from someone who felt that you were important in their lives. I was surprised when one girl told me that she thought that I was really nice to her when she was in one of the lower grades. I was shocked that she had such thoughts about me.
You are not crashing the party, you were a part of the school regardless of what class you graduated with.
Have a good time.
D.

If you want to go, and you've got a "legal" date (your bf, lol) then go. Have fun. I didn't go. Why??? It just kinda snuck up on me. And I was pregnant for my 15th. Hmm. Guess I'll try to hit the 20th? Honestly though-----TWENTY YEARS? Not sure what I'd be doing with people I haven't been in touch with in 20 years, lol. Have our OWN after party I suppose.

You will not be crashing the party. Most high school reunions welcome graduates from any year. You were not invited, simply because it was an oversight. Anyone planning a reunion is simply using the list available of who graduated in what year. Go to the reunion, have fun, forget the drama, and leave any grievances at home.

Of course GO, enjoy!

Gag - I would stay far away and plan a girls weekend with your buddies - I get enough high school catch up through FB.

In fact - we actually might be in NY next summer when they do my 20 year reunion (hubby too - we went to highschool together) and I have no intention of going - I'm sure those people have all changed and are wonderful human beings now but I still think of them as the stuck up little snob asses who treated me so poorly...my...I'm not bitter at all...nope. :-)

Yes it is your class and she can't stop you since you are a guest.

I had the same thing happen to me. I had to move because my brother was abusing me to the point my life was at risk. My diploma says my school and class year, but I took classes off campus to graduate since I could not afford tuition. I was forbidden to walk at graduation, attend prom, or attend the school party unless I was a guest. I flat out told them I would be attending reunions with my class if I wanted. I haven't been to one yet, but I would go if I wanted to(maybe after I get looking good;0)

Heck ya! I was going to take my best friend to crash my high school reunion...and she didn't even go to school there! But, a lot of her friends did (she hated the high school she had to go to). However, I was eight months pregnant when my reunion rolled around, and my husbands was on the same night. The girls who "put the reunion on" ended up having it at a bar. They tried to do some fancy thing...but wanted 100 a ticket! Yeah right! Idiots. So when that didn't work (surprise!), they had it in this hole in the wall bar. I didn't want to a smoke filled place in my condition, so we didn't end up going.

As I read your post, it reminded me of ME! lol.. I too, was in a similar situation - I didn't get an invite to my highschool reunion because of the same thing, actually I found out about it after seeing one of my facebook friends photos that she took while there! Apparently I didn't miss anything, because the people that did go were people that I didn't associate with anyway. BUT, if I'd known about it ahead of time, I would have gone just for giggles!.. lol..good luck and go crash it & don't forget your camera.. btw, the drama never ends...

Oh yeah definitely crash it. What are they going to do throw you out!
Really how petty of them. Go enjoy yourself with the kids you went to
school with.

Go to the reunion that you want to go to, sounds like the '02 one is your best bet, have fun and don't sweat the small stuff. I graduated a year ahead of my age group because I skipped a grade. I also had a lot of friends in my younger brothers class, so I figure I could go to one or all three of them if I choose. What are they going to do...take away my birthday???

That's just ridiculous. That's not your class so why is this girl insisting you go to the '03 reunion? I organized our class reunion and invited kids who didn't even graduate with us (dropped out/got held back). As far as our coordinators were concerned they were still part of our class. Using those lists the school gives you got complicated though. I know we missed a few people because we swore they were in our class but weren't on the list and couldn't find the student to confirm. We didn't want to leave ANYONE out!!

GO to the '02 reunion with your friend!! That's your class! Have a great time!

If you go as your friend's +1 then you aren't crashing! No worries - go and have a good time.

Just go and have a good time. Ignore the coordinator, she has no authority here… what’s she going to do, hire a bouncer to keep you out? Check your diploma at the door?

I’ve attended most of my HS reunions (and I’m closing in on 35 years!). To be honest, after 10-15 years, you stop recognizing people and have to start reading nametags (yeah, we change that much!) In fact, I went through K-7 in one school district; moved; and attended 8-12 in a neighboring school district. I remained close friends with kids from both schools. As a result, I get invited to (and attend) BOTH reunions. I was surprised to find out that many “classmates” from the first school don’t remember that I didn’t actually graduate with them!

Oh, and although some people don’t outgrow the pettiness and snark from HS, the vast majority of people do. I predict you’ll have a marvelous time!

That's so ridiculously petty of her. When my class has reunions, they let people from other graduating classes buy tickets. They figure "the more the merrier."

Go with your class. Enjoy yourself. What's she going to do, have a police escort to walk you out?

I would go just to show them they can't tell you not to come. Most reunions are for several years at a time now. I think that is nice because I was not just friends with the kids in my class, I had friends who were older and even younger than me too.

I got an invitation to the 25th reunion of the class behind me via Facebook. The organizers decided that they wanted to include everyone from the class before them and the class behind them (3 years), since everyone overlapped in many subjects (for instance a biology class might have freshman and sophomores. I didn't go (too far), but it sounded like a great idea!

My 10 year reunion is next weekend. Even though everyone from out of town (at least half of the class) didn't want it between Thanksgiving and Christmas so they wouldn't have to travel three times in two months! There was a whole bunch of drama just even planning the thing. It went from a whole weekend of activities to dinner at a restaurant. So, definitely not worth it for me to make the trip to go. I say screw them and do what you want!

uuuuuummmmm yeah. I would DEFINITELY crash the party!!! This is semantics....GO!!!

If your friend is allowed to bring a date, it's fine for you to go as her date. If you officially graduated in 2003, then that's the reunion you'll be invited to. You were not technically the graduating class of 2002, so that's why this coordinator does not have you on the list. She is looking at the list of graduated for each year. No need to be snarky with her, she has taken on a task that not many would volunteer for. Honestly, as long as you are willing to pay, I'm sure they'd be happy for you to attend. If you are going as someone's date, and are paying for it, you are not crashing.