My sister just dropped by my house and brought me a plastic grocery bag about half filled with white underware...mostly used but some new. She declares that she can't bring herself to wear them anymore due to the fact that she had ovarian cysts 3 years ago and bleed alot. In short...she has developed another phobia....and like everything else...she can't stand to have anything pending (like this bag in her house)...now she has the fear of seeing blood on them if she wears them...so she had to drive them over immediately. My gosh...what is wrong with her....I'm almost beginning to think it is early warning signs of Altizemiers. She had always been the strange one....and I mean strange one of the family. Didn't stay long...and when she left I was just sitting here with my mouth hanging over. Why can't she just be normal?
Added:..well, she has many phobias....hospital...doctor(won't go)...blood...meat...dentist...xrays...surgrey...and I see her biting her hand when she is nervous. So she will NOT get any outside help.
Your normal is not going to be her normal.
Maybe she's going through a tough time right now.
If you don't want them--just pitch them. No biggie.
My heart hurts for your sister for what she's going through, but even more for the way you're talking about her. She isn't the way she is on purpose. Don't you think she wants to be more typical? I'm sure she's very much aware of what's wrong, as she's the one who is crippled by this anxiety. I would bet that she would appreciate compassion and a loving sister more than anything, and if she left seeing you with your mouth hanging in shock she probably left feeling like the strange one and unloved.
"Oh honey, of course I'll take those from you. I'll even take care of them and you'll never have to see them again."
I'll bet that's all she needed to hear. With a hug.
That is very odd...I would be concerned too if I were you! I don't have any advice, but I hope you get some here. Regardless of everyone having a different "normal," why wouldn't she just trash the underwear rather than give them to you? Seems quite bizarre...unless this is a cry for help in some way? Depending on the degree of the other strange things she does, I would have a talk with her at the least....or encourage her to talk to someone? Dr.? Shrink?
What is normal? Everyone has issues they deal with. Clearly your sister has some serious "issues". Has she been diagnosed with anything? If it were me, I would just contact her and say you are concerned about her, you know she has a problem dealing with some things and has she gone to a doctor for an evaluation? I mean, I don't have any siblings but have my share of a dysfunctional family, most of us do. You just need to try to help her if you can and be there if she needs you. Good luck.
I would say she does need to have someone professional to talk to. She is dealing with all kinds of things. I think if she wears underwear and sees anything she might think is blood she will start thinking the cancer is back, she is dying, she needs to go to the doc NOW, etc...the mind can drive us crazy!! Poor thing, she really does need to see someone to address these anxiety behaviors. She may also be very depressed.
To some people who are depressed and thinking about suicide they start giving away their possessions, kind of settling their unfinished business. I think you need to spend some time with her and get a feel for how she is doing mentally.
