Woman Taller than man.....i Am Being Silly!

Yes, my sister is an inch or maybe more taller than her husband and at first, she was self conscious by now no one cares or notices, including she and her husband.

I'm about 1/4 inch taller than my husband, but I love heels and platforms, so he's had to get used to it! He said it never really bothered him and now I don't even notice when I wear heels that I'm quite a bit taller. A friend of mine is 6 feet tall like you, and she just married a man who is about 5'7". They've been together for several years and are very happy! I think it's great you're so tall. I'm 5'8", but I would mind being closer to 6'!

Dear S.-

I too...am tall. My ex husband was taller than me...but lacked MANY things in so man ways.

I am now happily in a relationship with a man just shorter than me...I worried for a while that friends would 'ask' about the height difference (no one did BTW...they saw my HAPPY smile...they had NO need to ask)...but I DID have a response prepared...that 'height' is NOT most important arena where an inch counts'...

No one has ever commented...so I never used my reply...but a big smile does count!

lol
michele/cat

My husbands first wife was very beautiful and she was 5'10".. My husband is 5'8". All of his friends were jealous of his "tall drink of water".... and it never bothered him that she was taller.... he loves to dance so I'm sure they did their share of that. You wont look funny on the dance floor, if you both have a smile on your face you will look like a happy couple enjoying a dance. I'm sure you will be wearing flats most of the time (one inch is barely noticeable anyway!). My hubby wears cowboy boots since they sort of have a heel on them that gives him another inch (Maybe your b/f has a pair?).
It's your hang up but it wont be anyone else's. I say don't stress. He loves you just the way you are. Fat women can lose weight but tall woman can't lose height, and he knows what he's getting and apparently loves you so DO NOT DWELL OR STRESS ON IT or make it an issue---ever. Wear that tallness proud Sistah ;)

My SIL is 2" taller than my brother. He put in lifts at the wedding for the formal pictures, but that's the only time he's ever done anything about it.
No one seemed to care then and now 3 beautiful children later, all are very, very happy!

You're not being silly!! Just because we are blessed with height, doesn't mean we are comfortable with it ALL the time!!! Be proud!

I just kicked off my heals for the wedding pics (still kick them off for pics if I'm wearing tall heals). Everyone you know, knows you're tall, so it's not like they will expect anything different.

I am 6ft even, my husband is 5' 10" and we've been married 11 yrs. To tell you the truth, it's never been a problem. I don't get weird looks or comments, in fact most people never notice (even when I am wearing heels). He LOVES the fact that I'm taller than he is.

He may just love you BECAUSE of your height, not just in spite of it!

Congratulations! I hope you can stop thinking about how you LOOK while living a great life!!!

What a sweet post! Just reading this I could "feel" how much you love him!

Your post made me think of a Pable Picasso quote:

"Love is the greatest refreshment in life".

Sounds like you two are very "refreshed" despite the small height difference =-)

My husband and I are the same height but I LOVE wearing heels when I'm around him. Makes me feel like I exude confidence!

My husband is a bit shorter than I am, and I chose small heels for my wedding shoes knowing I would be taller than he anyway. Our pictures came out wonderfully, in the posed shots, we look the same height. In the candid shots, some of them are so great, even I didn't notice our height difference. It used to bother me, but two beautiful kids and over 10 years together have put that in perspective! I haven't thought about it in years. Have a wonderful life with the man you love, tall or short!!

Oh no worries!!!!
He sounds like a great guy... you are fine!
He has no issues with it... why should you?

I am same height as my DH (5'11") but I always wear small heels. I really do not care and never hunch or pretend to be shorter than him. I always sit and walk straight, I am slightly taller on the pictures always, I learned to fake confidence in life and now it is just in my blood. DH sometimes jokes that people think that I was a model in the past and he is lucky to be with a tall, pretty lady. Other man give us second looks when we pass by and my husband is secretly proud :)
We have neighbors and the woman is probably 6'1" and the guy is shorter than me - they have 2 kids. You can tell she is not comfortable, constantly hunches and sits down when they are together - and THAT looks bad.
Just act like you are happy to be tall and pretty and everybody will believe that. And soon enough - you will believe too.
Good luck!

My sister feels the same way. She hasn't worn heels in years. She actually looked at the bright side. Heels are miserable. She is always comfortable where ever she goes. Her wedding day she wore white slippers.

Red converse go with wedding dresses... as do indian jewelery & ballet slippers and strappy sexy sandals.

The vast majority of the men I've dated have been shorter than I. (I'm 6'1). I mean, I'm sure there are decent tall guys out there, but the ones I dated were all jerks to the nth degree.

One inch shorter is not a big deal at all. I have a very good friend that is 5'11" and her husband of 9 years is 5' 9". She looks for dress shoes that don't have much of a heel on them, but after that many years, they've gotten used to each other even when she does wear an inch or two heels but us usually in flats.
My situation is a little different with the first guy that ever asked me out when I was 16. He was 22, but I figured it was ok since he was in the seminary to be a pastor or something. (These days, I would have thought differently and would have said no to him) anyway...he was only 5' 3", so he was done growing and I was 5' 8" at 16. Now that would be something to think about for wedding pics.
But as long as he is nice and treats your kids well, that's all that counts, don't let his height hold you back if he asks you to marry him. Good guys are hard to come by.

Hi S.
He must be so perfert for you if the only problem you can think of is just ONE inch LOL
To be 6ft is fabolous so try to embrace your height.Think of all those models out there that would love to be your height.
Enjoy this blissful time,
B.

ok...so my first thought is I would never date anyone shorter than me...but I have an excuse...I am 5 ft tall...that being said...all my life I have wanted to be tall, if I was blessed with height I doubt I would care about an inch difference. It is Hard to find an amazing man, if you let an inch keep you from having someone amazing in your life...maybe he deserves someone better...and you know what? He would probably Love you in high heels!!!

First of all it is very silly to worry about an inch. BUT I know how that feels. I'm actually not that tall (5'8") and I dated a man that was 5'3"! Oh that didn't last long (not just because of his height .. . well he did have little mans syndrome which is why it didn't work out) but I was sooo self self conscious about it! The fact that when we hugged his face was always in my breasts didn't help.
But to help out with pictures just get shoes with a lift in them. One inch isn't that bad to hide.

My husband and I are exactly the same height, and I'm not short(5'9"). I can't remember the last time I wore heals. I have found some really cute flats whenever I need dress shoes. But then again I've never really liked heals because I was always tall enough and they are such a pain to walk in. For our wedding I wore ballet slippers (not toe shoes obviously LOL) and sewed ribbons on them to tie up my leg. They were so pretty and comfortable! I have come to love being taller than "normal"....except when I want pants that are long enough ;)
If he's the perfect man who cares who's taller!
Congratulations!

You are not being silly about worrying about this, as our society has dictated FOREVER that men are larger, taller, broader than women.

And I am in your same shoes. My perfect husband is about 3 inches shorter than me so I really feel odd wearing heels. And def did not wear at our wedding. I now care less and less about our height difference.

But one of the best pros: He has perfect access to my breasts and neck.
He sings beautifully right into my ear.

When I want a tall hug I have him stand on a step.

Remember: Contentment is the greatest form of wealth. Be happy with yourself. You must be a gorgeous at 6' ;)

This obviously bothers you enough to post this question. Sounds like this could be a definite self esteem issue and it continues to be worrisome to you, maybe you should talk to someone, especially if you really want to marry this man
too. I dont have the same dilemma but I could imagine that if it is not handled now, it will continue to permeate your life. He sounds wonderful, so
where does the problem
really lie? It seems like one
inch shouldnt come between
you and your life's
happiness. Being confident in
yourself and your relationship
means that other people
wont even notice the physical
discrepancies. Enjoy your
time with each other and
hopefully this man can help
eliminate your anxiety.

you're not being silly! my husband is 1 inch taller than me and i still get self conscious about it if i wear heels which makes me taller than him. heck, even when i'm in flats, i wish he was at least 3 inches taller and not just an inch. but i love him and he's great in every other way. if you think this guy is amazing, go for it! its hard to get the image that society has taught us out of our heads but sometimes the perfect man doesn't come in the package that we imagined.

Would you live your life alone because you broke off a relationship with a man who is 1" shorter than you?

It doesn't sound like it bothers him.

Granted I don't know how it feels to be 6ft tall. But in this day and age it is acceptable the woman is taller than the man.

I have friends who the hujsband is shorter than the wife (by about 1") and he is only 5ft 4". They've been married for years.

If you're really that concerned, maybe this goes deeper and back into your childhood. You may want to consider talking to a therapist.

All of us have "baggage" in our lives and sometimes need to talk to a third party who is an expert.

Many blessings to you.

I'm taller than my husband as well (I'm 6ft). The only one that had a problem with it in the beginning was me. There was one day, when we were intially dating, I hadnt realized how much taller I was until I wore my heels (which I LOVE to wear). When I walked by him and saw just how much taller I was - I laughed out loud! He looked at me strange and I asked if I should change my shoes. His response was he didnt mind the difference at all. From then on, I never worried about. I'm comfortable with my height - and in the difference of it between my husband and I.

I have 2 different sets of friends where the woman is taller than her husband. One lady is a full 6 inches taller and they've been married almost 20 years. The other is about an inch taller than her husband and they've been married almost 10 years.

In both cases, they are as happy as I've seen a couple be. They love each other dearly. I didn't think that they looked stupid dancing at their wedding - they are so right for each other. And the wedding pictures were gorgeous.

I would say that if you love him, it doesn't really matter. And I suspect that on some level this is actually not an issue you because you haven't broken up with him yet!

I would say not to let it bother you...but if it does, just have him wear some lifts or gel inserts in his shoes...1 inch isn't that much, I bet either of those would fix the problem?

Lift shoes make men taller and are in all styles now. Tom Cruise wears them. Plus, you can have him stand on a box in photos.
Congratulations!

I could not get over a man being 5'4 when I am 5'3. I felt unprotected by him.
I had been abused and needed to feel safe so I could not get over it.

Wear lovely ballet flats or an adorable kitten heel in your wedding dress.

My sil is 6'4 and luckily married a 6'5 guy. But my former roomate who is also very tall married someone several inches shorter. They are adorable together and their wedding photos don't look weird at all.

Most wedding and portrait photos stagger the bride and groom anyways, or they are artfully taken sitting down together, the bride being swung the the air...

If it's that big of a concern to you, ask for a great photographer and see if they have experience in that. Otherwise, enjoy that you found a great man, they are rare!

As for the clothes issue, have the hem of the legs altered so they don't require heels or get some cute flats... flats are very popular and trendy right now, and many look just like heels from the front.

Or think of Nicole Kidman and all of her men, she always looked cute in couples pictures and wears sexy heels all the time.

If he were a few inches shorter than you, I would understand your issue, but just 1 inch shorter doesn't seem like a big deal to me (however, I am only 5'4, so maybe if I were your height it would bother me, too). Be grateful that he is only an inch shorter, and have him wear special shoes that give him height. I'm sure he can be your height with those shoes! And, it's all the same when lying in a horizontal position in bed! Focus on the amazing man he is, and I'm sure he doesn't care that you are slightly taller than him, so why should you? Congrats on finding an amazing man - that is the hard part!

I met my husband's ex-wife and she's a full FOOT taller than me... Being the same height as my husband... Her husband NOW is only a couple inches taller than me... The night I met the two of them, she was wearing 3" heels!!!

Moral of the story... BE PROUD of YOU!!!!

I can only wish I were taller than someone other than a child or a little person.

I wore flats with my wedding dress :)

I totally get your insecurity! I am 5'11" and when in the dating scene I refused to date anyone shorter than me. I just didn't like the feeling of being bigger than my man. Needless to say I ended up marrying a man that was just a quarter inch taller than me. I still bought him shoes with big soles like Dr. Martin's and loved the little extra height. For the record, my husband has always liked that I am so tall and never had a complex about me appearing taller. Regardless, my non-cowboy husband wore black cowboy boots to give him some height for our wedding. Silly huh?

Now 21+ years later, I just don't care that much anymore, not sure why. The funniest part is, he is now 46 and has lost and inch in height due to age and I haven't. So now he is 3/4" shorter. Yikes! I still don't care. I am thinking if you love him you will get over it, just wear super flats and get him some rockin' cowboy boots. = )

Enjoy love!

Honey, always wear heels and then blame it on the heels for being taller than your man.

I totally understand the self conscious thing. I'm 5'9" but look taller and married a 6'5" guy and it's nice to feel "small" sometimes after always feeling so tall my whole life. Downside is we had two girls and now I wonder if they'll be 6'2". Something I hadn't considered so now I wish he wasn't so tall. Also, just think of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes and Nicole Kidman and her husband and hold your head high like them and don't be afraid to put on heels and be even taller. I know it's hard but it's all about attitude. My SIL is taller than her husband and not an issue. You can definitely arrange pictures for the one day and then go forward in life not caring.

Your first complex is your height. That's your first obstacle to get over. The sooner the better.
If the guy is otherwise perfection personified, AND he plans to marry you, I'd start counting my blessings real fast.

At my own church is a couple that are the same way, in height, as you describe. She's taller. And their daughters are tall as well. Dad's the short one in the family.
The thing is, it can't be helped. You were born this way, your sweetie was born the way he is. You'll have other differences to deal with, don't make physical 'longitude' an issue if everything else jives.
Wear flats. That might help you until you get past your uncomfortability. And listen to your sweetie when he tells you it doesn't bother him. Realize for many guys it WOULD, and you've got someone who's confident enough in himself to see the heart of the person instead of whining you're too tall. Guys like this are rare, so you have a gem and you'd better grab it before it's lost.

My sister is 6" (I'm 5'10") and she ALWAYS seems to date guys much shorter than her... Normally her boyfriends are like 5'8".. Your boyfriend only being an inch shorter doesn't seem like much of a difference at all... Honestly, there's so many duds in this country, if you find a great guy, who cares what his size is. Especially an inch... :0)

There are certain things you cannot ignore in terms of physical attributes with your mate, it's just the way it is.

Having said that, one of my greatest regrets in life is breaking up with a guy who was shorter than me and he was fantastic in every way, he was like my best friend but I was stupid and let him go.

Just spend more time with him and see if it really bothers you. If it does, you can't do anything about it bec. it affects physical attraction you may have for him.

You said that he is perfect for you and so amazing. Go with that. Have you told him about your height insecurities? Are you looking for an excuse for this not work, are you worried about marrying him? If not, then I say you are being silly and you should thank your lucky stars for a great guy that is only an inch shorter than you.

Doesn't matter in my book. Plus it is only ONE inch. You probably will look to be the same height in the photos...if not, your photographer could position you so it looks more balanced. BUT anyone who cares about you and your man...won't care he is shorter than you. Go for it!

My husband and I know ALOT of couples where the woman is taller than the man...doesn't seem to bother them or anyone else for that matter! (And, I've certainly never heard any jokes.) Besides, wouldn't you hate it if the two of you broke up and you never found anyone who made you as happy as him???

***Another idea***
Tell you what- if it bothers you that much wear flats at the wedding and get him specially made shoes with 1-1 1/2 " lifts. Then you won't be taller!

I'm 2 inches taller than my husband (of 15 years) and I wear heels whenever the outfit calls for it. Both of us are fine with the height difference (he even endured my sister's teasing about it when we were dating). It has never been a problem with us as are relationship is based on so many more important things. I have a friend that is your height and her hubby is shorter too!

my ex husband was 1/2 inch shorter than me I liked it cause he was one man I was eye level with. :) I never worried about what your worried about. its not that noticable I don't think

You must have a great life if this issue is a big concern for you.

I know a gal like you whose hubby told me he encourages her to wear heels when she wants to because she looks beautiful to him and he loves her height! He's a few inches shorter and I never even noticed it till he pointed it out to me. They've been happy for many years. Yes, you're being "stupid" about this. At your height, your chances for finding a mate that's taller are very small. Forget it and be happy! You're blessed!