Why Is She Crying?

my little girl done the samething and then when she had to wear socks and shoes it was another battle. I took her to the doctor she had a problam with the way the cloths felt on her skin. She went to a doctor and they worked with her on diffrent texters and now she gets dresses by her self.

Congratulations! Your daughter has become mobile and now wants to exercise some of her freedom. I would start dressing and changing her standing up! Make it a fun game and focus on her new positive abilities.

Your daughter is perfectly normal. This is just a stage she is going through. Trust me it will get better. My 2 yr old daughter was the same way; she still is sometimes. I really have to get her in a good mood in the mornings because she will be cranky if I don't. Once she is laughing and playing I know it is a good time to dress her. This is working for me. Far as for the diaper changes I use to let her hold the diaper for Mommy; it made her seem she was helping. I hope this will ease her crying.

E.

It's a totally normal, yet annoying stage most kids go through. I don't know a kid that hasn't gone through it. My youngest has just started it. He doesn't sit still through a diaper change and cries when I change his clothes. If she's being a real bear, a little naked time won't hurt!

Hi! K. W,

My name is K.. I find it pretty odd that your baby girl cries when her diaper is being change. When you change her check for any signs of swelling or redness. I would suggest that maybe you should take her to a doctor. Do you have other people watching her. If so check in to it and see if she does the same thing with others when they change her. If so somethings not quite right there. I hope everything is alright with your baby girl K.. good luck!!!

concerned K. at ____@____.com

It is a stage and could be any number of things. She might be getting chilled when her clothes or diaper are off. She might just not like laying on her back and gets frustrated that she has to stop what she is doing to have these things done. There probably isn't a way to tell what is wrong. But it is more than likely attitude related and not actually something wrong physically. A lot of active children hate to be stopped and just the inconvienence of stopping to do these things could be causing the crying. It may just be something that you will have to deal with through this stage and it should get a little better. I say do it as quick as you can and let her get back to what she was doing.

Both of my boys went through, ok, the youngest is still going through it. It starts when they realize they can start making their own decisions and they don't want to be changed!! Right now my almost two year old fights me when I change his diaper. I have to hold him with one hand (as in wrestle) to keep him still and change with the other hand. They grow out of it, well, I guess when they get potty trained!!! FYI, we are doing the potty training thing and he is naked for about two hours a day and when I try to put the diaper on after that it is the most horrible experience in the world!!!

It is normal for toddlers to resist diaper and changes of clothes. My two year old still has his days. Its easiest for me if I give him a toy to hold and let him pick his own clothes (which can be pretty funny).
But I also think that the mom who mentioned the fact that she could have been molested has a point. In fact, I thought of it to. Does your child seem angry and frustrated, or is she more afraid? It wouldn't hurt to mention it to your pediatrician, who could help you rule it out.

ok I completely understand this cause my daughter doesnt cry unless she is sick or tummy ache. When my daughter did that i would let her go nude sometime to let her breathe and then try in about 15 to 30 min later to let her have a little time to feel more comfortable about it but also try letting her watch cartoons or letting her help you put on her clothes with youmy daughter loves to put on her clothes and has since she was one

As others have said, it's just something that they go through. All 3 of mine have gone throuh it. Infact, my youngest is just now getting out of it. If you just can't stand the crying, and it's only a wet diaper, trying changing her on your lap. Sometimes, I would change their diapers while still cuddling with them. You learn quickly how to change a diaper one handed. :) GL! It won't last forever.

Don't worry about it because it is normal. Any child who is old enough to be mobile hates to stop in order for a diaper change or change of clothes. I have to change my baby girl on the my bed or on the floor in order for her to somewhat stay still long enough to change her. And yes, she cries because she would rather crawl and play. If I have to change her diaper AND her clothes, I change the diaper first, let her play for a few minutes and then change her clothes. That seems to work better for her.

I have been having the EXACT SAME problem with my 13-month-old for the past few months. I was glad to read your post and read some of the responses from other moms. At least now I know he is totally normal!

Here are a couple things I've been trying. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't!

I start saying, "Okay, let's change your diaper" about five minutes before I actually do it so he knows it's coming. Then I have him help me carry the wipes or get his diaper. I will also give him a wipe to hold on to and tell him to clean his face or something. He likes holding the wipe and pretending to clean up.

I also keep several objects around me that aren't normal toys. For some reason he loves to hold the nasal aspirator. As he gets fussy or tries to squirm I say, "Ooh..can you hold this for Mommy" and give him one of the distractors.

We also sing songs and all the stuff you described in your post. I guess you just have to do whatever works and try to do it as quickly as possible!!! Hopefully it will get better!

Good luck and let us know if you find any good tricks.

J.

Our son who is now 16 months old started doing the screaming and crying thing when we would put him on the changing pad on his dresser that was made for baby changing. He also started this just shy of his one year birthday. We could not soothe him at all. I was so afraid my husband would think I had done something to him while I was home with him to set him off whenever he was being changed. I asked the doctor and she said some babies get to where they cry in protest when having to be changed. I knew this was not protest because he was screaming as if he was in pain and nothing could make him stop.

It dawned on me that he didn't do this when I put him in the floor. Once he started being able to hold his bottle we had a flat pillow we would lay in the floor to raise his head and while he would take his bottle in the morning we would change him. So I started taking a bottle in the room with me when changing him on the table and he would still scream.

Long story longer....we started changing him in the floor or on our bed. It seems that he became afraid of heights for no reason. He has never had a close call or been dropped off the changing area. It really proved it when I had to change him in a store on one of those changing tables that fold down from the wall or even laying him back in his stroller to change him he would grasp at my clothes, the side of his stroller, or anything else he could grab to make him feel secure. Now I change his wet diapers while he is standing up or I have my husband hold him up while I slip another on if we are out anywhere.

Not sure this resembles your situation but if it does I hope it helps you.

When my son got about that age he wanted his independence. So if he could just stand being in his diaper he would...I would have to practically chase him and play with him tickling and blowing raspberrys on his tummy for him to let me change him. (diaper or clothes!) He wanted to play and didn't want to feel like he was missing out on his play time. If I would just lay him down to do it he would scream! If I made it play time still he would be okay with it! I think it's perfectly normal, but still talk with your doc. and get their oppinion, it can't hurt. :) Good luck!

Totally normal. However, if she crys every time you lay her down, then I would have her pediatrician check her. Could be an ear infection, or perhaps if she is walking she might have fallen and it might hurt her back to lay down.
All this said, I really think it is a power struggle and she is trying to have some control over this area. And all three of mine went through it. Do what you feel is right to make the changing less of a struggle. But this too shall pass!
Take care,
Mel