Why Does He Do This??

Sounds like he's ready for full potty training. Tell him next time he freaks out at the dirty diaper, that maybe he'd rather go poop on the potty so that it doesn't stay in his pants. Take the dirty diaper and have him watch you dump it out in the toilet. Have him flush it down. Brazelton's toilet training book is wonderful.
Thank goodness you and the baby are okay after the accident! You poor thing! Take care!

Read him some books about potty, and teach him that food goes in, our bodies take the nutrients they need to help us grow strong, and then what the body doesn't need comes out as poop. It might help if he understands why.

I know it sounds gross, but maybe letting him accompany you to the toilet to show him that when you poop in the toilet your bum is clean might help him decide that the potty is the way to go.

Don't wrestle him down and force a diaper change. When he screams about it, comfort him and ask him what he would like you to do. If the diaper change is his idea he will be a lot more likely to cooperate. If he chooses to stay in it, let him be and just occasionally ask him if he would be more comfortable with a clean diaper.

Be sure that his poop is not too firm and hurting him. If that is the case, then get that resolved before he starts holding it in... That is a bigger problem.

If you think he is ready, and his poop is solid (not baby paste), then leave him naked with a potty near by and just keep a close eye on him. Not having the diaper or underwear to mess in may force him to choose the potty.

I am a mother and a preschool teacher who taught 2-yr-olds for many years. Most children do not become upset about their owm bowel movements, but it is still not uncommon. My youngest daughter had this issue. She would stay dry, but not "clean." She was sure it would "be too hard." With all of my early childhood education and experience, I bribed her. Yes, you read that correctly! She really wanted to go to Chuck E. Cheese, so I told her that when she "went brown" in the toilet, we would go. I sat with her and held her hand while she went. I used bribery for her to go a few times, then she began to become comfortable with it all and realized that it was not as bad as she thought it would be. That was it! She just needed to have several positive experiences in order to realize that it was not so bad after all. I wish you well! Thank you for being such a good Mommy to your children. You bless us all by raising children who feel loved. :)

first, he isnt slow. Average age for boys to potty train is 3-4 years so he is still ahead of the game. My son did something similar after a bad case of diarrea left his bottom sore and pooping and changing it (wiping it) really hurt. We used lots of desitine which he hated too. He did get over it though. Now he is learning to potty train he has decided not to poop and spent a whole night (literally all night) waking up screaming because his tummy hurt and he needed to poop but didnt want to (he had a diaper on even). Talking to him about it seems to help (at least it helps me stay calm) and promote the toilet as a way to not need a diaperchange but without pressure or frustration. My son has backslid a bit and pretends he is a baby like his sister (shes 20months but still not talking much). If his diapers get too hard to change I would put him in the tub and rinse him that way.

One of our sons has had problems too. There is a great book called "It hurts when I Poop" which might help. It might hurt when you wipe if he has big poops b/c his butt might be sore - that is what happened w/our son. It does get better. L.

Can you have him put his poopies in the toilet, then sit on it and wipe him up that way? He may be more willing if he feels like a big boy.

has he ever had a really bad rash that caused him pain when you changed his poopy diaper? that is the case with my son any time he gets a rash; after it heals he still freaks out at changing time because he's afraid it will be sore. he is still potty training, and hasn't gotten the poop thing down yet either. also, does he tell you right away when he needs to be changed, or does he wait until it's really messy and harder to clean? only because if you are able to change him right away when it's just happened, it would probably be easier on you. and it could always be because he senses that things are about to change with a new baby, and he probably senses your stress at the situation (so sorry about your accident, i hope you're okay!) and could be just reacting to that. kids have a weird way of acting out their feelings sometimes. i hope this was of some help! :)

We had problems with potty training only when we had a bm...turned out my daughter was getting slightly constipated and it hurt to go. You may want to ask him if it is hurting or having pushing issues. It's common at 2yr to go through diet/pooping issues... I just encourage you to try to communicate with him about what the problem is- they can communicate sometimes better than we think! :0) Good luck!

I do hope you ask your pediatrician! Has he had alot of consitpation lately? I don't know what to tell you but we always tried to turn things silly so the little one would laugh. My oldest when he was that age would yell," ooh, I've got a monster on my butt!" I in turn would get silly and say ooh, you bad little monster! I am going to get you!'

Don' forget that these little ones like to test us and our limits. I don't know if it would help being silly, or more fruit and fiber? :)

Good luck!

J.

When I did my preschool practicum with 2's, we had a child who freaked out whenever he saw his poop flushed down the toilet. My mentor teacher told him, "Don't worry. Your body will make more." This helped him to let go of his poop. My teacher explained that 2-year olds think that their poop is an extension of their body and it scares them when it is removed.

You might also try:
* making him part of the diaper changing ritual. Have him get the diaper to help you like a big boy.

* talking to him about each step of the changing process, including how much better he'll feel when he is clean.

* offering him a toy that he can play with only during changing. After changing have him put the toy in a box, because it is tired and needs a nap. Once you establish this, he can wake the toy up for changing time.

Good luck!

My daughter is the same age, and does the same thing. She thrashes around yelling NO and OUCH and of course, since I have to pin her down -- LEGGO ME! (let go of ME)
This has been going on for a while, I just tried to do it as fast as I could.
Then, about a month ago while changing an especially gross diaper, I said - Byebye poopoo, bye bye!
And much to my amazement, she STOPPED!!
She still struggles at first, but as soon as I tell her to say bye, she starts singing bye bye poopoo.
It is kinda embarassing in a public restroom, but other than that, for some reason it's worked great.
I've also gone back to using the changing table instead of the floor, so that when she starts to wiggle, I tell her -
Be careful - uh oh you're gonna fall - be still...
Hope that helps!! C. (and Gracie)