Why Does Everything Go Wrong at Once?

I just read a post that said a mom will pick up her daughter from the sitter drunk!
unless you forgot to clean the car seat because you were on a stripper pole last night and went to the store after work and spent the trip money on liquor I would give myself a break!

We ALL have mommy moments like this!

Happens to me from time to time! It's bound to happen as life can well...just be hectic LOL! Hang in there. The rest of today should go better and then there's tomorrow :)

Girl... we recently took a four hour car drive and my 2 year old spit up at the beginning of it. We wiped him off and kept going. When we got there, and took him out, we realized the poor thing was pretty much sitting in puke the whole time (we had missed a lot of it when we wiped him off) and had to hose down the car seat.

Sticky buns happen. It gets a little better as they get older.

I just went through this this morning!!! My little guy (he's 3 also) had a field trip ( I knew about it, just forgot), and I had to wrestle his car seat out of my car.... I don't check his seat every day when I get him out, so of course there are pop tart crumbs and tootsie roll wrappers in there, and stuck to the back (don't ask me how it got there) was a sucker he got the other day from the pharmacist!! I thought he finished it!!! LOL Anyway, the whole leaving that much earlier.... yeah, tried that... I got caught in more traffic leaving earlier and still ended up being late! Just do like I do - laugh it off, try your best (we usually do!), and be thankful your boss is like mine and understands how hard it is to get anywhere on time with little ones!! Remember, she won't be 3 long!!

Nobody's perfect. I will offer this one piece of advice: If you're always running late, it's time to start setting the alarm a full half hour earlier. If you have a habit of hitting the "Sleep" button, buy an alarm without one. Put the clock across the room so you HAVE to get up.

I used to have this problem too. Let me tell you from someone who knows, life is SO much less stressful when you're out the door 15 minutes early. It also means you have a buffer if you have to run back in for something, or run to the ATM for some cash. ;o)

Best of luck!

If you didnt have the car seat with you when you dropped her off, I would think you werent a great M..
If you opened the car door and beer cans fell out, Id think you werent a good M..
A little sticky on the car seat is no big deal.
I think in this hectic time of working parents, daycares, drop off and pick ups by different people, more information gets lost and more people dont know what the plans are for school trips,parties and such. You are probably in the majority of parents who didnt know, or forgot the kids were going somewhere. Dont worry about it. In the big scheme of life, this is not something to be upset about. Be sure to repay whoever loaned you the $3.

You are doing fine!! My kids are much older, so those days are long gone for me. A girl that works for me is one of the most organized people I know and I have seen her car seats. Believe me they are not sparkling clean either. Lots of crumbs and unknowns on hers too!!

Cut yourself some slack and know that you have plenty of company in that boat even if you don't see it.

OMG honey you should see my house right now.
There is yogurt smeared on the kitchen table from last night, there are crumbs and who am I kidding, probably whole chunks of food on my son's booster seat. There are dirty dishes in the sink. The honey bun on the carseat, forget about it. Been there!
YOU are a hardworking mom out there earning money for your family and taking good care of your daughter all at the same time. You are a wife and the heart of your household. You are making it happen and you should be proud of yourself. The fact that you even feel bad about the $3 and the carseat are just proof of what a great mom you are.
NO WORRIES! :)

ADDED - If your daycare is like mine they do ALL notifications using paper. Little notes sent home, papers posted to the door, etc. I totally get that that is the most convenient method for THEM but the fact is it is not the best way to communicate with working parents. Email/text would be so much better, it would actually integrate with our lives - and then there would be less mistakes.

haha, I remember my kids car seats being pretty gross. You really dont realize it till you go to take them out of the car.
It's normal.
Don't compare yourself to other moms and I'm sure the preschool teacher has seen worse :)
Isnt it crazy that we never have cash on us these days?

if you are 5 to 10 mins late each day, why not get up that much earlier each day? then perhaps you won't feel as stressed.. Also, I highly doubt the preschool teacher is judging you for forgetting there was a field trip.. this happens even in elementary school.... keep in mind, there ARE factors here that you do have control over... one, your time....get a move on earlier... school begins at the same time each day, allot for it.. problem solved... two, if that was a reminder note, then obviously there was the first note sent out? that said, when you get these notices, why not put them out in the open where you can see them as a daily reminder (that is what I do)
Truly, these are manageable situations..... you do have more control than you think...

My youngest smeared a cereal bar on the car seat this morning when we were dropping off her sister at preschool. My husband picks up the oldest from school and he receives the school papers which sometimes make it into the house and sometimes do not. The teachers assume that when dad gets the stuff sometimes mom never receives it. I'm guessing your teachers think the same thing (poor men, always assumed to be irresponsible).

I just wanted to give you a vote of confidence and I feel your pain! I feel like the worst mama in the world on a daily basis. I'm late picking my son of from school every day, my house is a disaster, my kid has knee holes in nearly ever pair of his jeans because he gets the holes faster than I can fix them, you name it! I dropped my son off for a Cub Scouts den meeting last month...an hour late because I had the time written down wrong...the leader called me 15 minutes later to tell me the meeting was over and I needed to come get my child. I felt like a total loser! (Granted, I'm trying to balance the the older kid with my other toddler and the infant niece I watch every day...and I just don't know how other people are able to do it with such grace and poise, like they know what they're doing!!)

You're definitely not alone!

Well if that is a bad day...my days are horrid! :) it will get better

I know, right? Don't they call that Murphys Law or something?
What I've discovered is that my mornings have an oops capacity of 1. I can handle one issue on a regular morning. I can oversleep a little, OR find a last minute note in the backpack, OR forget a backpack, OR not ba able to find somebodys shoe OR have to stop for gas. If only one thing goes wrong, I'm ok, we're ok, the rest of the day is ok. But if 2 or more issues come up, I'm over capacity and everything falls apart!

$h!t happens. You are not a bad mom. If you are, so are the rest of us.

A.,
We all go through times like this. Your best bet is to learn from the situation so things go more smoothly next time. Write down what you think will help avoid this situation in the future...talk to your husband about handing you any notes from preschool immediately, or ask the preschool teachers if they would be willing to send a text or email reminder to save paper. Start getting up earlier by 30 minutes and always aim to be out the door before you really need to be. I used to be a chronically late person but have been able to change this by making a timeline of what needs to be done each morning and always having some leeway time for emergencies/bathroom breaks/meltdowns.
Pay the preschool teachers back tomorrow along with a small treat and apology and all will be well :)

Are you there for the hugs most nights. Cuddle her when she cries? Celebreate her victories? Love her? covered body by roof and fabric? Tummy fed? Your doing an asesome job. Everything else when she is an adult won't matter in her life.

I think you just need to get organized and ask the day care to send emails to YOU about events since there seems to be a miss in communication and his name is "Daddy" and that is not going to change! I am sure hubby will play scapegoat on this one. I have days where it all goes wrong and it's due to my "organization" or lack there of.

I hope these stories makes you feel better: I forgot to pick up my daughter from her second day of preschool... The new routine totally slipped my mind! Then, on my daughter's first day of kindergarten, I locked her little brother in the car. The cops came as all came with their lights on as all the moms who'd just dropped off their kids without incident looked on. Talk about feeling like the worst mom ever!! Don't worry, we all have our moments :)

Honey, I'm with ya... I've had the week from.... hmmm, shouldn't swear. Heck. Week from heck. It could be worse, someone could be dead, but how much worse it could be doesn't make right now any easier. I won't tell ya about my week, because it was bad bad bad... but suffice to say; everything all at once.

i do the same thing, forget to send in money for things, work full time so i cant attend all of the in school events and feel horrible, forgt to send back the library books...ugh i'm starting K off wonderfully...luckily my daughter is the opposite...I feel like we're going to be the gilmore girls, i'm outside jumping in leaves with her and then she reminds M. we have to do her homework...lol. OOPS! I feel crappy, but shes happy most of the time, excluding pout-fest moments=)

Sorry you had a bad day. Look at the glass half full, you've got a job, your family is in great health, your daughter goes to a great school, you have a husband who shares school pick up duties. This will be the first of many - my 7th and 5th graders keep close track of field trips and money and permission due, because they want to go and we never remember all that stuff.

Keep it up and you'll raise a child who takes responsibility for her time and activities, and if you approach it with good humor, so will they!

Well.... all four of my car seats are not pristine and neither is my van for that matter! Every day I tell myself I need to vaccuum it but I never seem to have time...So that is perfectly normal! I think it is more unusual to see a mom with a clean van! And so is forgetting stuff! I have sent kids to school in the wrong uniform more than I care to admit. I have packed the wrong lunches in the wrong backpacks and I once sent my son to preschool on picture day in a grubby t-shirt. Whooops! I'm sure there are moms out there that have it all together everyday but its not most of us so don't sweat it and you will laugh about it later!

This past weekend I tore the house apart for my daughter's basketball jersey, and finally gave up and begged the sports director to either find us a loaner or let me buy another. As we drove to the game in my husband's car, guess what I found on the floor? I routinely DRIVE my child to school, which is only 3 blocks away. Because otherwise we'd be late(r) every single day. Yesterday my daughter told me she got points taken off because her weather project wasn't turned in on time (we did it every day, but I simply forgot to put it in her folder that morning.) All this and I only have one child, and work part time from HOME. We just need to be able to laugh, to try to do better, but know that loving and caring for our kids is the most important thing we will ever do in life. If those teachers have kids, they undoubtedly get it. If perhaps they and the other parents don't get it (and remember, you probably won't ever really KNOW what they think about you), all you can do is try not to care!! It sounds like you're doing your best right now. Please give yourself a pat on the back for doing all that you do.

Sounds like you need to go to the school website and log into his classroom. That way you can get the teachers notes and email address. You need to take the step to bring yourself to the classroom so to speak. It is that way with us here too. I have to go to the classroom for the 2nd grader just to find out what the spelling words are for the week sometimes.