How have you dealt with your whinny child?
The whining has decreased a lot lately. We have been trying to put her to bed a little earlier when she is whinny, which tends to be on days that she didn't sleep as well at nap time. We also did the stop whining or you are going to "time out". Then sometimes she falls asleep and sometimes she just gets over the attitute. Thanks everyone for you ideas and advice!
stop giving her attention if there is another adult around. make her go to them for attention. Leave the area.Go take a nap,or nice long bath, get lost so she can't find you.
That's how she gets the most attention. When she's home with you she doesn't have to compete with anyone else for any attention. Other people come in and she wants to make herself the center of attention for everyone. Children don't care if the attention is for positive or negative behavior as long as they get it.
How to stop is by telling her firmly to talk in her big girl voice or she doesn't get what she's asking for. Then don't give in. It'll take a few times of doing that and then every once in a while reminding her to use her big girl voice to get it to work. But once she figures out that the whiney voice isn't getting the results it used to, she'll move on.
You have to get dad and grandparents on the same track so they don't give in to her whiney voice either or it won't work. Have each of them tell her to talk in her big girl voice so they can understand her and then ignore her if she starts whining or put her in time out.
Good luck.
Give her more one on one attention and show her that she is important to you. When she tries to get your attention, give it to her. Mute the tv, stop a conversation, acknowledge her and listen to her. She will tell you what she needs from you and the whinning will stop.
Do not answer her when she whines - pretend you don't hear her. I understand she only does it when she is home but set the example for your husband and grandparents. After she as ask for the second time explain that you can not hear her when she whines and she will have to talk like a big girl for you to help her.
Ask your husband and the grandparents to support you in this effort. Even if they choose not to because they think it's cute continue with your plan of not being able to hear her when she's whining because it will show her that it's not acceptable with mommy.
M., It's obvious that she feels whining will get her what she wants with Daddy and Grandma and Grandpa so you have to enlist their help to nip this in the bud. When one of my kids starts to whine I simply tell them "I'm sorry, I cannot understand that voice. You need to speak in your normal voice," and than I ignore the whining until they change their tone. that's what works for me, you should tell your husband and the grandparents to try it, but you all hev to be united in your efforts, hope it helps! Good luck!
It's a running joke in our family now that when I was young my mother used to tell me not to whine, and for the longest time, I didn't know what she was talking about. It wasn't until I was about 9 or 10 did I actually tell her that I didn't know what she meant.
So now that I am a mom and my son began to whine, I would actually tell him not to whine in a whiny voice. He thought it was funny how I talked to him, then we talked about whining. He didn't do it much after then. When he starts, I start whining back at him and it stops it pretty fast.
I have four girls, and five grandchildren who all understand NO WHINNING. I do not respond to whinning, other than to send the whinny person to their room/bed whichever is appropriate. I give one warning "don't whine" then off they go. If they are whinning because they want something I said no to, I will die before I give in, period. One of my grand daughters whines all the time, until she gets around me, then it stops right away. It may sound harsh, but it never took any of them more than three days to understand.
my granddaughter seems to whine more at the end of the day and she is nearly 6. She usually is tired and needs to go to bed a little earlier, in the meantime we tell her that we cannot hear her unless she talks right(normal). we just say i cannot hear you until she does say things in a normal voice. She does try to change her whine each time you say that. until finally she will say things normal
Some kids are just whiny. I have a 21 month old daugther that is a whiner also. We just ignore her and don't respond to her or give her what she wants when she whines. If she continues - we make her to go to her bed for a time out. This works pretty well and she has grown out of it to some degree.
Hi M.,
My name is A. and I am a mom of 3. I have boy 7, boy 4 and my daughter who just turned 2 last month.
When Tyler my eldest son was waiting to become a big brother he did the exact same thing. He felt like he needed to act big and help mom. Then, Daddy came home and it was like some other child took over his body. Same with my parents and even worse with my inlaws. With helpful advise from my sons doctor and my mother (she also had 3 of us), It was clear this is the reason.
Although they are so excited about become a big sibling they are still babies. THey are trying to help that one person they love the most and spend ever minute of the day with. So, by the time they are around others they release everything that they have kept in to 'help mommy out!'
She has been number one for 2 and a half years now so the change it is for you is just as big for her in a totally different way. Not to worry though because once the bundle of joy is there I bet she snaps right out of it. She will really want to hold the baby all of the time. She will learn that your love expands instead of sharing the love you have for her.
I actually started 'Tyler Days' for him. We didn't even talk about the nursery or shop for baby clothes. We would go to Chuck E Cheese or just a picnic at the park. (With the whole family! G'Parents included!) It's very important that Dad has a day out with just her here and there. This will shift the feeling of needing to whine. She is doing it because it gets her attention, but instead it cause negative feedback. We actually went to Disney and stayed a 3 day weekend with my inlaws. We camped at Fort Wilderness where we could stay in the camper and still enjoy the laziness of the outdoors. My inlaws actually took him a day before we went. They took him to dinner at downtown disney. 4 weeks later here came little Tegan and all was right with the world once again.
Oh and Tyler turned 3 one week before Tegan was born. I worried about going into labor for his birthday the whole pregnancy. LOL
Hope this helped some.
i've never done this, but i have friends who give their kids whine medicine. It's just a teaspoon of vinagar. I'm not sure how I feel about this, but I have another friend that gives a teaspoon of hotsauce.
I personally like Lisa Welchel's book Creative Correction.
God Bless,
Rach
