C.S.
I can totally relate to your question. I stayed at home with my boys (now 3 and 5), but finanical security sent me back to work. I now work full time and had big issues when deciding where my children would be best. I started out with a daycare facility, I wanted the structured environment and felt they would "teach" my children more. After over 2 weeks of them still crying, screaming and clinging, I knew something wasn't right and looked elsewhere. I live in a very small community and had tons of references of an in home care provider just down the block from me.
My children love it!! They cried for 2-3 days, which is to be expected, I cried too. But a year later, they give me a hug and kiss and are on their way to play. My sitter is a gma who has been watching kids since her kids were born and her daughter in law cares for children alongside of her. The gma is also an EMT, so I know she can handle CPR and just about any other emergency that may happen. They don't physically "teach" my boys like a classroom setting, but they are loved, cared for and played with. My worry is that by me having to work full time, they wouldn't learn everything they needed to, but her philosophy is to let them play when they are young, when they get to school, they will never get to go back to the days of just playing. Plus this year they are going to Kindegarten and the other one to preschool part time, so they still get the structure I want them to have.
This is my experience, I was terrified of trusting others to watch my children, but have been truly blessed to fine the in home care provider that I have.
You know what is best for you child, and you will be able to tell right away if they are happy or not.
GOOD LUCK