My personal success story is via eHarmony! I was like you with only one kidlet when I met my guy and now we're happily married and just had our own baby a few months ago. I HIGHLY recommend the website if you're serious about finding, meeting and dating men again.
The main drawback is that it's not free and if you pay by the month it can be expensive. I always paid for 3 months at a time to get the better deal, but the way the matches are made is what really works in my opinion. I did all the goofy little questions, followed the "rules" and couldn't have asked for a more perfect guy for me. I think that because it costs more that it kind of weeds out the losers, players, married guys looking to hook up on the side, etc. All of the guys I met and went out with from eHarmony seemed to genuinely be looking for a partner, not a fling.
I liked that I couldn't choose my own matches, but that the website chose guys for me - I don't know about you, but all the past guys I had been with were NOT right at all. And now that I'm with the right one, I know why the rest weren't it! We clicked right from the start. I will admit he looks nothing like anyone I've ever dated, but evidently getting out of my comfort zone as far as "type" goes was the best thing I ever did. LOL
Ignore other people if they think you're somehow "damaged goods" because you're divorced with kids. That's total B.S. If you decide to join eHarmony, you'll meet plenty of guys who either already have kids or don't mind if you do - it's all part of the match-making process and they'd never match you up with someone who didn't. Anyway, it was SO worth it in my opinion - best of luck to you!