When You Are Having a Bad Day, What Do You Do?

Chocolate and wine (Yes together!)
also IF I can get into a room alone and read I feel like I've had a mini vacation

Last night I swear I had the worst night I can remember since I had kids. It was absolutely terrible. You know what I did? I put the kids to bed a little early, I went in my room, cried like I haven't cried in years, then fell asleep by 8:30 (I left the dinner dishes right on the table, left all the toys and mess, I just didn't care). When I woke up I still felt awful and down and out. So I decided that I had to just make myself get over it and move on. I took a shower and basically "washed it all away".

I hope you can wake up tomorrow and feel a little better.

I treat myself to a glass of wine-WAIT!I do that on a good day, too.
I get a work out in-makes me feel instantly more positive and happy.

Pour a glass of wine find a TV not taken over by a sports channel or video game and take a "mom timeout"

I know it sounds crazy, but I put my kids in safe place and then I go to my room. Lock the door. Scream at the top of my lungs into my pillow, say every bad word i can think of, how lifes not fair etc., have my own stomp around the room tantrum and then when i get it all out of my system, I calm down-do some breathing techniques and go get my kids when i am done. I try to remember if i am upset because of the kids fighting or whatever, that they will only be little once. This too shall pass and each day is a totally new day~ Those things get me through to the next day if my day was just awful.

Hang in there and life will get better!

Molly

Good question.

When I am PMS'ing... my Husband tells me I am crazy. Like that helps.
I am a SAHM, 2 kids, and my Mom that lives with us.
Pets too.
Everyday, is a juggle of the brain/nerves/stress/attitude.
Then Hubby comes home and wonders WHY I am not prancing through daisies whistling and have a plastered smile on my face and making conversation full of surreal pleasantries.

So my Hubby recently tells me how 'I" can improve... like not be so grumpy/irritable. Fine.
So then I tell HIM... "Honey, so what are YOU going to do... to improve yourself? Its not all me..." and he looks at me and says "What? Me?" And I repeat myself. And he still looks at me like a clueless deer in headlights... and says "I don't know..." And I say "YOU have things to improve... too."
DUH.
Nuff' said.

all the best,
Susan

Cry, try to be alone, or hang with others who are happy that day! I also talk to friends.

You mean you get to reboot? That's news to me! I've been waiting for 10 years for someone to tell me I can do that!

Me too. Awaiting replies!

Mamapedia does help!

Having a tickle fest and telling silly jokes with my kids always seems to make my day a whole lot better =-)

Hearing my kids laugh till their belly hurts always puts a smile on my face.

i have had a hard time lately - broke after christmas, failed new years resolutions (yes, already), car problems, day after day of crappy gray winter weather...i very rarely ask for help with my son from my husband, but lately he has stepped in and hung out with little man. even if mom just needs to go walk around walmart or hole up in the bedroom to read a book. it hasn't solved anything but it's at least kept witchy mom at bay....can't wait for spring!!!!

My first thought is wine or a cocktail. One thing I love to do is to look through old photo albums of my kids when they were babies/toddlers. It takes me back to such a happy place and reminds me of what a joy they truly are. Makes the rest of the problems of the day not seem so large.

Last night I too was in a mood and I locked myself in the bathroom (literally the only way to get a minute of peace, my son would not leave me alone!) and I called my sister and had a fun chat. It made me feel much better. Get out and have some "me" time. Get a manicure, go grab a coffee, do something to get away and regroup. And think about things that make you happy.

i light tea light candles and have a glass of wine....or take a hot bath :)

Happy Hour with friends while the kids play

I usually sit on the porch for awhile, then make a nice hot bath and soak in it while having a glass of wine

I try a few different things...

First, I will try to talk my way out of it..."C'mon Karma, you know you are grouchy, it's no ones fault, get it together so it doesn't effect the kids, take a breath" etc, etc...

Then I will try to force myself into a better mood, usually by mixing up the schedule. Say it's almost dinner time (usually when I hit my wall), I will sometimes change it up and do breakfast for dinner and put in a family movie and turn down the lights and announce to everyone we are switching to "mellow-out" time!

When all else fails, I call/text the hubby and tell him to bring me home something chocolate :) and as soon as the kids are in bed I hop in the bathroom and take a nice hot bath or an extra long shower!

I hope this helps!

~Most times it really helps to talk my way thru it...it usually helps to lay on the "Mommy Guilt" and tell myself it's not fair to the kids when I am grouchy and I can fake my way thru a bad day...but sometimes nothing works, on days like that (those days where I am so grouchy I can't stand myself) I usually tag my husband when he gets home, tell him "your it" and I just go to bed!

Wait til that 'JUST ONE MORE THING' happens, which will make the entire day completely ridiculous to the point where you are rolling on the floor with crazy laughter, gasping for breath, clutching your stomach while your children frolic around you joyfully filthy dirty hungry tired wounded with wet diapers and unfinished homework!!!

giggle

:)

Exercise and listen to great music.

Little things make me feel better, like going out for a starbucks, taking a break and watching a show, even getting out of the house and going anywhere in the car helps... usually end up getting a coffee and going to the park with my 2 year old. The best thing is talking to my best friend, I always feel a lot more rational and back to normal after having a good girl chat!

OMG girl, that's about every other day for me! LOL!! I have 5 kids, 2 of them step and 3 my own.. so I have lots of "issues" to deal with, attitudes to put up with. Aya caramba! Why doesn't that Calgon commercial really work?? Here's what I do: something creative. I cook, looking recipes on www.allrecipes.com, my favorite site, or I get into craft projects... decorating letters for my kids' rooms (letters of their names), decorating other things.. the house.. writing in their baby books.. .there is always something to do. I also drink lots of chocolate coffee beverages, and eat chocolate, it makes me feel better too. I write.. it's a creative outlet.. I have my mom come and watch the kids so I can have peace and quiet for awhile. And I like to talk. I call a friend, get things off my chest. And when all else fails, I take a nap. ;)

1. Let daddy take over when he gets home.
2. Eat chocolate and a creamy bowl of mac and cheese.
3 Take a long, hot bath and breathe. (Maybe eat the chocolate and mac and cheese there:)
4. Tell everyone how sorry I am for being such a grouch.
5. Put on my favorite comfy clothes
6. Plug in Steel Magnolias DVD and watch it alone.

If the time is really hard, I might have a good hard cry/pray in my car parked in the garage first.

C.

Must be in the air. I've been preparing for the last 3 months how I was going to handle taking my 16 month old & 3 year old to their well baby visit together with no help (no sitter and hubby has no PTO) :) I had a perfect plan and before I could even walk out the door it all fell apart. My very calm cooperate 3 year decided he'd scream all the way there, and then refused to do anything the nurse ask. All the while my normally extremely loud 16 month old decided to up his anty and then some. I think its pretty bad when the Ped tells you Calgon needs to make a visit! Finished afternoon off with having to do a blood draw for the 16 month old!. Let's just say it was nothing but a circus & I will never do it again!

I did a drive thru run at Starbuck's and plan on taking a really long shower when Daddy comes home :)

Find some Me time. My vise is a soak in the jetted tub.

Honestly, if I am having a bad day, I open a box of chocolates. I have them stashed all over, so I am never out of them. I also try to take deep breaths, remove my thoughts from what's bothering me, or play a game of scrabble with my kids. I know when they try to come up with words they'll do silly things and that always makes me laugh. I also try to go to bed very early to make the day get on its way already.
We had a snow storm today, my fireplace died again, one of my daughter's teacher gave her a 3 instead of a 5 in her math test because she forgot to put "=" I looked at the test and saw that the teacher had written 1/2 points for that missing "=" I got on the email and asked the teacher to explain to me how she went from 5 to 3 because of half a point. More I thought, more upset I became about it. Made sausage and peppers for dinner. My kids sat to eat only to tell me: they hate sausage and peppers, which was odd to me because I have never made it before. So, I am thinking their bedtime will be 6:30 instead of 7:30, and my bedtime will be 8 instead of 9. Oh yes, I forgot, I have been eating chocolates since my fireplace died.

Me three! What IS it about today??

cry alot and sometimes drink depending on my mood i cant refocus unless I cry by the way that is what I am doing now. so your not the only one having a bad day

Take B vitamins and go for a run!

Well I calll my mom and chat.
1. bake cookies
2. read my book
3. PRAY to god to be a more patient mom
4. if possible i will go to the gym.
5. say tomorrow is another day and it will be better.

time alone..

watch cartoons..
eat what you wanna eat...
then think over things...

you will be better the next day...

M., when my 5 children were young and I had had enough one day I literally went on strike.. I stayed in bed and read a book and told everyone to go away. Was even willing to make a sign When my husband came home he asked whats up and the kids asked about dinner-- I just said lets go look for it cuz it didn't come past me! To say the least he got that all under control. I just stayed in bed for 2 days and slept and read. Now when I have a down day I take the phone off the hook and turn off the cell phone and put a sign on the front door asking" R U Sure you want to knock on this door - it's not going to be good for either of us"? Sometimes we get so busy doing so many things we forget why we are doing themm and that it was once a good thing. Step back and just go out and look at the clouds and see the formations and the stars and the beauty of it all.

When I'm having one of THOSE days, I find myself thinking negative thoughts. So I think of something fun to do, even if for 5 minutes. Turn the music up and dance, do a speed clean where I can laugh at how rediculous I look and how ineffective it is to speed clean, or throw the little one in the car and treat myself to a super unhealthy coffee! Then when things are calm I think about 5 things I did right and 5 things I can do better the next day. It's usually not too difficult for me to think of things I can do better, but complimenting myself on 5 things is typically pretty difficult for some reason. So I find myself thinking of positives that are just funny.

So I guess the main theme for me is I try to make myself laugh. It usually works:)

I have had an extremely stressful 2 1/2 weeks now and I am looking forward to going home and using my punching bag that I bought with a gift card from Christmas. Usually, me time does not exist ever. But I guess there can be good things from my husband losing his job. Before, I had no way whatever of taking even 5 minutes for myself. Now he can deal with the kids when I get home. Also, in a prior life (before my little one came along) exercise was an awesome way to work off some steam.

if I have the opportunity, I go for a run (more like a SPRINT) to get all my frustration and energy out.
If I can't go for a run because of the kids, then I have a glass of wine. The run always helps more but the wine is a nice consolation prize ;)

Funny. Yesterday I was having a really bad. My mom, 14 year old brother, husband, dog, visiting sister and her baby. It was getting a little out of hand. All stuck inside becuase of the snow storm. After lunch my seventeen month old and I took a nice hot shower, and then took a really long nap. It was really nice, it was only my baby and I. Away from everyone in the household.

long walk on beach with my dog...he doesn't talk back and loves me like crazy

long soak in my new beautiful bathtub

curl up in bed with a good book and ignore the laundry

I think it's great that you recognize that it's just a bad day...that's already a step in the right direction. I start by reminding myself that I don't like feeling that way, and that I really want to change...that helps me. But I also make sure that I do things for me, even if it's only a short time...exercise, read, walk, listen to music, watch TV, etc. I also try to exercise first thing every morning, and sometimes that may be 5am. It's hard to get up, but I feel SOOO much better afterwards.

I hope you day/week/year gets better!!