What Thing(s) Do You Need...

Thanks, hugs, making love, and "just thought I'd show you something you'd like to see". ;-))

Otherwise she's wonderful. Been married 38 years this summer.

Help and appreciation/recognition for all I do for the family/household.

a response when Im talking. If he doesnt have an answer or like what Im saying, he doesnt even grunt. grrrrr.

Hmm... How about some nonsexual compliments! I love when he compliments a meal, how clean the house is, how I managed to watch 2 kids and get all the laundry done and put away. Usually, I have to point things out or ask if he likes something to get a response.

Time!
And validation for all I do around the house.
He's appreciative, don't get me wrong.
And he works really hard to. I work PT and I think sometimes he doesn't consider what I do in the house to be *important* enough to recognize...

cleaning! I always said my fantasy is two men - one cooking and the other cleaning! ;o)

touch/affection. Our sex life is ok, but we are lacking in the every day hugs and kisses department. We work opposite shifts with different days off and when we do finally have time home together it's crazy busy.

communication, meaningfull conversation
Praise and support of me to the women in his family. I feel like he only tells them the bad things, not the good things, and then when the old biddies in his family put me down he doesn't defend me.

Intimacy and sex (two different things). Friendship is great in a marriage but it can't be just that. You end up being just roommates that way. And after a while even the friendship begins to fade because a marriage can't last on that alone. Who wants to be married to their brother, right?

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

manly chores! The table is wobbly, the yard needs grooming, the garage is not organized, the closet lights are all broken, the bathroom floor needs re-tiling. Stuff like that.

My husband works offshore though and hes rarely even home, so when he is home we take care of the most important things first, like lounging around, dinner parties, sex and going out on the town to party.

TIME. ....With just me and him. He works a full time job plus a side business and we have 4 kids who play sports all year long amongst other things....I'm super lucky though he's a great guy.

confirmation and affermation that I am good enough.

I know he loves me and thinks I am a wonderful wife and mother (he proclaimed it publicly just a couple months ago when he was awarded an honor at the College we attended), but I don't always feel good enough...being a mom, wife, career woman, is tough...

DOING THE DISHES!

and being able to cuddle with me or kiss me or rub my feet or my back without it turning him on to the point of it having to turn into sex...I'm glad I am so sexy that he cannot resist, but c'mon!

Recognition for how hard it is to nurse a rapidly growing baby! I try explaining to him daily the physical and emotional toll it takes on a woman's body to produce healthy milk for a baby, all while trying to do a million other things. How I need lots of extra healthy calories and more help around the house so that I can nurse - and more food in the house!......but, he is a man and I do realize he won't understand nursing. =)

More appreciation for all the things that I do in the house or errands that I make to keep the house running. Tell me that I am still beautiful to him even though I don't feel it myself. Other than that I love my husband dearly and wouldn't trade him in for anything.