What Things Do You Do...

One thing I always found fun....

Cook dinner in NOTHING but an apron....
and act like nothing's out of the ordinary.
I know that can be hard to do if you have kids.
Sometimes I just go into the other room, change into something that I know my hubby will love, and just walk around the house.

Don't give in to him right away...act like there is Nothing "strange" going on..
make it a game...its fun to feel wanted and have them chase you

You know what's funny, I'm usually not in the mood per se, but as soon as we start, I GET in the mood real quick. I know that about myself, so I just go with it and let myself enjoy being courted and pursued by my hubby. We do it almost every night. He knows that I'm pretty much always available and I know that I have veto rights if I want them, but I rarely exercise them, because he ALWAYS shows me a good time! ;) Sometimes just letting go and going with the flow can be one of the biggest arousal factors.

That being said, when I say I'm not in the mood, I mean I'm not always ready to just hop into bed right then and there. I'm always on a slow boil though because we flirt with each other constantly throughout the day, just like when we were dating. We call each other through the day and thank each other for all of the fun the previous evening. We kiss passionately when we are together, he likes to sneak up on me and kiss my neck, I sneak up and pinch his bottom etc... Just try to be playful with him throughout the day. This is like extended foreplay for us.

Anyways, hope this helps in some way! :)

A glass of wine helps me relax and it seems to help me "forget" the motherly things which in turns leaves room for the wifey/loving able to set in.

Nice lingerie that I actually like the way I look in them. Hubby will like it no matter what so if I really like it then I feel more sexy.

Exercise does help, not sure why but for me it does.

Pamper myself... take a bath, with candles, glass of wine and a good book. When I get out I help put my daughter to bed and then hubby and I cuddle on the couch watching a tv show and by our "bedtime" I usually am more in the mood then without all of the above.

Little kisses through out the day, maybe leave little love notes for each other. Just being nice to each other make me feel more loved and in turn sexy and wanting sex.

For me body image plays a huge part in it and I am still struggling with it but at least ever other week hubby and I have sex.

If am stressed out even with the above I will never be able to get in the mood.

I'm a newlywed so I'm sort of always in the mood for hubby! But I think the sexy text messages we send eachother back and forth helps as well as those "looks" I give him when the kids aren't looking! I also can't seem to keep my hands off him! I love his muscles, arms, the soft hair on his legs....just sitting on the couch after the kids have gone to bed I'll touch him here and there and that gets me (and him!) in the mood!

I think I posted this before but I'm a big fan of the "quickie". I think it helps to get in the mood when I know it's not going to last for 3 hours and keep me up late! Of course, there are times for that, but in general, I'm all about the quickie! Good luck!

Even though I work from home, I get myself showered and put together. I feel better being clean, motiviated to work and I like looking hot for my hubby.

We send text messages to each other, sometimes quite naughty, and those put the idea in your head for the day. We implement some sexy videos sometimes, toys, vary the places of play.

I tease him by the way I dress, when he heads out of town I leave notes in his bag, I've been known to "flash" him as he comes down the driveway or on his way out in the morning.

Whatever works for you. Keep a clear head, open mind and keep lines of communication wide open.

Have fun

Talk sexy to each other..

Little kisses and touches throughout the day help.

Also- if you aren't enamored with yourself figure out why- and make yourself desirable to you. Whether that means working out, losing weight, getting your hair and nails done, getting a facial, etc... Whatever you have to do for yourself to feel pampered and confident...

I like wearing pretty bras and panties- I workout- and I do love myself... I like my eyes, my lips, and my soft-soft hair.. My body isn't perfect, but I am curvy and womanly and I find that appealing.. As a result of investing in myself, and loving myself I find I want sex more often and I initiate sex more often...

If you want you- he'll want you- and you'll want him to want you..

Make sure you are showered before he gets home, it helps you feel sexy. Once he is home, flirt with him. His response to the flirting will help you feel connected. Sometimes you just have to jump in, the heat will come as you get into it. Men relate how we feel about them to how we respond to them sexually, so sex is very important for a healthy and happy marriage! Good for you for doing what you can to keep that spark alive! Sometimes when my husband wants to have sex, and I am not in the mood, I just do it any ways, and you know what, I always end up having a great time :)

I send my husband away, that usually gets me in the mood.....LMAO...

If i wear lacy, sexy lingerie under my clothes it helps to get me in the mood. A glass or two of red wine helps too. Taking the time to do my nails or something for me gets me there too :)

Try to be the best you that you can be, then accept and get over the imperfections. Do what is reasonable for a busy person to be fit: watch portions, skip dessert often, and exercise 30 min 2-3 times a week. Be happy with the result even if you don't look like a movie star. I have my husband tickle my back when I'm not in the mood and he is. We spoon and he rubs my body, i love the sensation and while it may not arouse me, it opens me up a little to being physical. Sexy lingerie. i get a kick out of what it does for him (the trick is have some that are easy to put on so you can do it on a whim. I have a lovely corset, guarder,and stalkings, but it never gets worn. I have some easy slip on ones that are also sexy and I'm more likely to dig them out) Never forget what a good vibrator can do. I like to use an external one (not a dildo) with my husband to catch me up to where he is. Works like a charm. We just got the personal touch massager (its not very obtrusive and make no noise) I recommend it . I have another one too thats more intense, I like to have it as an option. It can do a lot to make me want it when I wasn't at all interested before.

Good Lord! There is a woman makin' love for 3 hours??!! Well, more power to ya sista! She must think that a quickie is what I think normal is! lol
I can tell when hubby is in the modd cuz he can't seem to keep his hands off my butt. :) SO, a good thong, and I only own one, is often put on after the kids are in bed and that pretty much takes care of that!
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