I had my first prenatal appointment today, i am 16 weeks and 2 days (since it's Health Department, they will not see you till your second tri) . Prior to that I did not even like telling people I was pregnant(I am still hesitant since I have seen many "missed miscarriages" lately) Well after doing the u/s the tech told me that she is 70% sure it's a girl, that usually by 16 weeks the "boy part" is clearly there and stuff like that. I am really not convinced. I had a HUGE feeling that it was a boy and even bought whole newborn baby boy wordrobe(hey it was too good of a deal to pass on ebay:)) So now people are asking if we know who we're having. And hubby says a girl . He does add that they gave us 70% chance, but people seam to miss that detail and talk about it like it's a sure thing. I told him that I'd rather not mention the % at all when people ask and just pay for another u/s later(you only get one at health dept) and say that we do not know yet. I really do not care who we have, because I believe that God gives us who we're supposed to have, He makes no mistakes. But our friends/family already going crazy with baby showers and pink stuff. What do you girls think about this whole situation????
My son was a girl 100% all the way up to week 34! I work in x-ray & got numerous ultrasounds all through my pregnancy.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I think it's too early when you have only about a 2/3 certainty of the baby's sex for people to be buying pink things and girl things. I wouldn't trust your own instinct and tell people it's a boy either. Simply tell them that you aren't sure. It's very early for people to plan showers and buy gifts at the beginning of the second trimester.
At 16 weeks it can be hard to tell, I had mine done at 22 weeks. If they say it is a boy they are usually pretty sure (hard to mistake), but if they say it is a girl the boy bits can just be hiding. At 22 weeks, they are usually pretty spot on, but a 70% chance at 16 weeks? I would buy mostly non-gender specific items until a later ultra sound is done or the child is born. If asked I would say we do not know yet.
In your situation, you just have to wait until your next ultrasound to really find out. It is way too early for baby showers, so tell your friends and family to relax. I would not be comfortable with 70%.
But do you really have to find out the sex? Why not have the best surprise of all and find out in the delivery room. It is amazing.
I have two children and never found out the sex prior to birth. Yes, I had a lot of yellow and green things but I realized something. If people know the sex in advance all they buy is clothes at showers. But if the sex is a secret, you tend to get more baby "stuff" (gear, toys, equipment, etc). You can always buy clothes later. Also, if you have another child in the future, you have gender-neutral newborn items already.
Think about it. Good luck!
I think they are awfully gutsy, or just naive.
Our firstborn was seen on the u/s at about 16 weeks also. They were 90% certain it was a girl. Well... our baby didn't arrive on time. At about 8 days past the due date, we did another ultrasound and non-stress tests, etc. Doc had thought we didn't want to know the sex... and he asked were we sure we didn't want to know. We said... YES. We want to know. The u/s tech told us 90% a girl....
And he told us otherwise. 3 days later our son was born.
Sometimes their parts are showing at 16 weeks, sometimes not. No guarantees.
I think I would just tell people you aren't sure of the baby's sex. Reading a U/S is not an exact science. It is your baby and your pregnancy, so reveal (or not) as much information as you want.
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I'd vote for saying "we don't know yet." There have been too many stories I've heard where people thought based on an early u/s that it was one sex and then found out by a later u/s (or at birth) that it was wrong. In fact, one of my friends had this just a few months ago -- an early u/s indicated girl when a later u/s showed that it was clearly boy.
I'm a fan of not finding out the sex anyway, so I'd vote not to have another u/s and just be surprised, but you do what you want. :-) And actually, if they're going to be giving you a bunch of girl stuff when it might be a boy, you may need to find out so you know whether it will be useful or just a bunch of stuff you'll have to return later.
mamas intuition is usually right more so than not :)
Sounds like you and your husband disagree on whether or not to tell and you can't really control what he decides to do....he's so excited. I would just make it clear at the showers that you are still uncertain about the sex and ask for gift receipts in case you need to exchange. Hopefully this won't seem rude to people, but you don't want to be left with a pile of pink! When people ask you then it's up to you what you tell them, and I would go with "not finding out". I didn't find out first time around and it was such a fun surprise.
i thought that 20 weeks was usually a safer time - 16 weeks sounds really early. i think with that and the fact that they said "girl" (like others said, a boy is more definite), i would be hesitant. worst case, you "did" warn them - if it turns out to be a boy, you're already prepared. and they are the ones wasting their money, not you lol. don't worry. someone sometime will have a girl if you don't. it won't go to waste :)
Our ultrasound tech was convinced we were having a girl -- 100 percent certain -- but we still went ahead and had a 3-D ultrasound done just to be certain. We had to pay for this on our own, but it was worth it just to get the second opinion. It sounds like you're having a girl, but you can always wait a little longer and do the 3-D to find out 100 percent.
I was told at 13 weeks with 90% accuracy we were having a boy. That was on one of the higher tech machines they use when they're measuring the fluid in the back of the neck for d/s. They were right. I found out for 100% certainty with both my kids- girl first and boy second- at my 18 week appt. Most doctors wait until 20. It can't hurt to have another- should only cost about $100. I always said the % when I found out about our son...but then again my gut was right with both kids...I knew- just like you feel you do. If you've got an entire wardrobe for a boy..and you get all girl things at your shower...you're set either way. Have fun!
Even if I had a girl I'm not crazy about pink. It's never been a favorite color of mine. Just tell them you are not sure yet.
If it were me I would tell people that you just don't know what you are having since the tech couldn't really tell and it was a bit early to be sure. Then go with a few gender neutral onsies and sleepers to get you thru till you can get out and get gender appropriate clothes once baby gets here.
Just don't stress - keep the tags on all of the gender specific items and hopefully people will give you gift receipts as well - just in case you have a boy:) As long as you are thrilled about having a baby (boy or girl) and that you baby is born healthy - really the gifts and such at this point is not a big deal
My second child was a boy - but everyone - including me - thought he was going to be a girl. To the degree that when the mid-wife told me I had another boy I told her she must be confused:) We had no boy name picked out - but since he was so close in age to my first son - we had plenty of boy stuff.
For my last child - EVERYONE thought for sure I was going to have a little girl and everyone bought me pink stuff. Well - I had a 3rd boy - so I spent some time returning gifts and replacing pink with more boyish outfits. It is all okay. Nothing to stress about:) Enjoy everyone's enthusiasm and then you can all have a good laugh if your son has to come home from the hospital wrapped in a pink blanket and wearing pink booties!
Good Luck for the rest of your pregnancy!
T.
Dear L.,
I think your friends are jumping the gun and I would ask them to hold off for a while. Also when you trust in God what other people think really doesn't matter.
Congratulations and good health. Blessings....
If you u/s is not clear,cut and dried I wouldn't be saying either way until you have the next one done. As for those wanting to have babyshowers for you, that is awfully nice however, what if it is a boy? You should also discuss with hubby not to be telling everyone because you really aren't sure, and he is going to be disappointed if it turns out to be a boy. The early u/s isn't the most accurate. If anyone wants to have a shower for you just ask in a nice way to please wait until you are absolutely sure of what the baby is, this way they can buy what is needed for boy/girl and not items that you are going to have to give away. This way they will be saving their money.
Good luck darlin' and I hope everyone understands!! Congratulations to you and your significant other. The only thing I wish for is a very healthy baby, whether it be a boy/girl!!
If you don't want people knowing what the sex is - just tell them you don't know. Ask for yellow, green, tan or other colors that can be used for both. Eventhough I was told it's a boy, I'm still getting stuff that can be worn by both... I do have stuff left from both my boys & girl if I want the blue/pink stuff.
Sometimes u/s can be wrong when they are that early in the pregnancy. Also, sometimes a mothers feelings are wrong when it come to what we are carring... I thought this one was a girl, but the u/s says it's a boy.
But hey their is nothing wrong with a boy wearing a little pink or a girl wearing a little blue... no one will really know the difference unless you tell them.
Congratz on the baby - I hope you have a healthy little one... no matter what the sex is :)
