When our kids were little, and the neighbor kids were too, someone always hosted "9:00 New Year" We'd have dinner or just snacks, the kids would play, grownups would talk.... and we'd watch the ball drop LIVE in new york. which of course is 9:00 pm... plenty late enough for a bunch of tired parents and 5 and unders.... the champagne is poured, noise makers and confetti passed out... 5,4,3,2,1, HAPPY NEW YEAR! I swear in a houseful of friends and loved ones it's no less festive than midnight. Maybe a little more so because we're not dead tired yet. Then hugs and kisses all around and back home in bed by 9:30. Sweet.
Now my kids are bigger, so we go to a friends house, watch a movie, have dinner. Then games. Last year it was "just dance" on the wii. Parents are not exempt from making fools of themselves. Then we had a marshmallow sculpting contest. The hostess provided marshmallows of all shapes and sizes. (There's quite a variety to be had around the holidays) along with pretzel sticks and dry pasta to use like tinker toys. The winning entry was my husband's ode to burning man; a giant marshmallow man, surrounded by mini marshmallow people with their little spaghetti arms in the air... then he stuck him in the candle centerpiece and we all cheered while he went up in flames....
Midnight was noisemakers, silly string, etc....
fun stuff.