What Birth Control Method Do You Use?

Tubal ligation (cut, cauterized, AND banded). No regrets!

But if he's that adamant, tell him to get a vasectomy.

It's great that you're sensitive to his needs and asking for suggestions. But I think I'd be wondering what's bothering him. This seems kind of out of the blue, and it seems a bit extreme to say that if you don't, he'll find someone else.

I'm willing to bet there's something going on that's really upsetting him.

My husband wanted consequence free sex without condoms, so he got a vasectomy. I get really angry on bc pills (and I mean constantly seeing red at the edge of my vision, screaming at everyone all the time angry) so there was no way I was going back to that. If he wanted sex without condoms, it was his job to deal with it. So he did.

Wow, sorry.
"In his view I must get on the pill or else he will "find someone else"?
Really?
Gotta say-Sounds like condoms are the least of your issues.

ETA (got so derailed by his insensitive comment, forgot to answer your question!) cheapest, most minimally invasive option? Vasectomy for him! Let him take the, eh, bull by the reins, and sve his own problem.

Ok. First of all....any man that says something like that is pathetic.
You don't "Find someone else" because your wife doesn't like BC pills. That almost sounds like someone who is looking for a reason to go.
Second, if he's so damn sure that he doesn't want kids then why doesn't HE take charge and go get a vasectomy.
Third, I am on Mirena and love it. BUT, in 2 years my 5 years are up and then my husband is going to go get snipped. I have been in charge of BC, pregnancies, breast feeding, and then BC again...now it's his turn! lol
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None since we found out we can't get pregnant without IVF.
I went off birth control when we started TTC when I was 32, 4 years later we did IVF and had our son and we haven't used anything since (it would have been a complete waste of money).
I'm 52 now and in just about in full menopause.

In your case you could get your tubes tied and he could get a vasectomy.
He can shove his ultimatums when the sun doesn't shine.
More than likely his grumpiness and attitude problem will not go away no matter what you do - he'll simply find another thing to blame and blame everyone around him but himself for his attitude.
If he doesn't realize that you are the best thing that ever happened to him and show major gratitude for having you in his life then don't be begging him to stay.
He can take his sorry behind out the door and see if he can find anyone insecure enough to put up with his BS.

Is there a reason he won't get a vasectomy? Or you get your tubes tied? You don't want more children and your age is reasonable to make that change. I think it's unfair for him to demand you use hormonal birth control. For me, I feel awful when I'm on it. He's not acting like a partner - he's making an ultimatum that he has no right to make. Let HIM get snipped. Frankly, it looks like he's looking for a way out.

10 years and then sudden anger and blame placed on you over condoms? Yeah, something is off, really off. I don't think it's the condoms, sorry. If they were the issue he would simply tell you, maybe suggest a larger size, a different style or brand. It's a simple enough conversation to have and there's many options to try. Anger and blame are WAY out of proportion. Heck, my husband and I happen to have several types of different condoms still sitting in our nightstands leftover from our attempts to find ones that didn't make him go to sleep from lack of circulation. He had real issues with condoms and never did he blame me or become angry and grumpy. I think you guys need to work on your communication skills.

That said, I now have a copper IDU. I love it! No more condoms, no more pills. 10 years of birth control with the option of early removal IF we decide we want more kids. It was MOST unpleasant to have put in, but that only lasted a few moments. Can't feel it now and have had no issues with it.

I would make him an appointment for a vasectomy. He'll never have to use a condom again. A copper IUD also works well and has no side effects.

Vasectomy. Made life so much easier.

Why hasn't he volunteered for a Vasectomy? Seems like an easy solution. Feels like something else is going on here.

I had a tubal ligation too but my DH volunteered to get a Vasectomy. I didn't see the point since I could have my tubal at the same time as the C section.

If he's so upset about it, he should get a vasectomy. Why must you be the one to suffer with hormonal methods. I had side effects from pills and terrible back pain from the Mirena IUD. So, don't give in if you know you have issues with those methods already. Go in to his doctor with him and discuss your options. Explain to them that you can't do anything hormonal.

I haven't read any of the responses yet but I wanted to comment on your husbands attitude- I *really* hate that men expect a woman to be in charge of BC. Obviously, we should take care of ourselves and don't leave it up to chance, but in my experience it is expected that the woman deal with it all. I was on Depo for many years before my Dr. switched me to pills because she was worried about new reports on bad side effects of Depo. I loved Depo because I never had my period and I had no bad side effects. The pills have been up and down. Now I am pregnant so I'm obviously not on anything, but I have already told my husband that I will not be going back on hormonal BC after our son is born, nor will I once we are done having children. I am not interested in a tubal ligation or any other invasive surgery. I feel that going through childbirth and pregnancy are plenty on my part. We can use condoms until I finish menopause or he can get a vasectomy if he doesn't like condoms (I personally don't either, but I am done with hormones). My grandmother died of breast cancer and her doctors believe that her long term use of BC pills attributed to it. I used hormonal BC for more than 10 years, I feel that's more than enough time for my body. I'm not saying this is the solution for everyone, it's just how I feel. But honestly, have you discussed a vasectomy with him? He has the power to change this situation too.

If you are both certain that you do not want more children, I would make a move to a permanent solution. There is no way I would trust condoms, especially if I was 100% sure I did not want to get pregnant. Too many little accidents can happen with a condom that makes me feel they are not fool proof in BC.

How about him get snipped? My hubby got snipped when our daughter was 2 and I was still so dead set on no accident, that I stayed on the bcp until I had a hysterectomy a few years later.

I know a hysterectomy is not a birth control option... mine was not done for that reason but I can tell you, I never felt better or more free and enjoyed sex more because I knew without a doubt, I could not get pregnant.

How about each of you getting a permanent solution such as him getting snipped and you get your tubes tied. I know my options are overboard but for me, I knew without a doubt that I was done and I did not want an accident so I did opt for more extreme measures in order to prevent any oopsie.

It is not fair that he is putting this all on you. It should be a team effort.

Well, I totally agree that his response is totally inappropriate. Sounds like a complete jerk---that is being nice. We were using condoms. Trust me, they don't always work. My son will be 3 next month. I found out I was pregnant by a wrong blood test completed and I was already almost 11 wks. If he is so against using condoms, he needs to take that step to get a V.
If you really want to be the one taking care of it, then there is Nuvaring. A friend of mine uses it. You insert it once a month and change it when it is time.

I'm also 33 and currently pregnant. I had a c-section with my first so I'm going to have another c-section. I plan to get a tubal ligation at that time. But that's only because I'm going to be under anyway. If I were in your shoes, I would have my husband get a vasectomy. It's a lot less invasive than a tubal so he should be the one to get it.

I have Mirena. It has been fine for me. Some women love it, some hate it. There is also a copper IUD that does not contain hormones, but can make periods heavier and more painful. That was not a good option for me.

The bigger issue though is your husband. What is his problem? Will he see a counselor with you? Tell you what is really going on? I just think his little temper tantrum is a red flag that there is something else going on here.

If it really is just about the condoms, I would suggest he find a surgeon for a vasectomy. Problem solved.

Well, birth control is only a part of this problem. He'll find someone else? Really??

I'm a talk-it-out person. I would be asking, "Where is THIS coming from?" If you guys are having trouble communicating, you might want to seek counseling.

My husband had a vasectomy. If yours is so hell-bent on having unprohibited sex, he should offer to do the same. However, it sounds like you might need condoms at some point, anyway, as he is eager to "find someone else". Jerk. And you do NOT want to oops upon another little life with that attitude.

Sounds like there are bigger issues than birth control. But by all means, please find effective birth control. Besides being inconvenient, condoms have a fairly high failure rate.

The best thing to do is go to your gynecologist, but here are the non-hormonal options I see for your family (there may be more, your gyn will know)
1. Vasectomy. It's outpatient for your husband. (permanent)
2. Tubal ligation (permanent)
3. Paraguard IUD (lasts 10 years)
those top 3 are all non-hormonal and might be your best bets.
Other options, but all have hormones and might not be as good for you:
4. Mirena - low dose hormones, but hormones none-the-less (lasts 5 years)
5. Depo shot (every 3 months)
6. Birth Control Pills (take daily)

Really, if you are sure you are done having kids, there is no reason to go back on birth control pills. There are much better options out there these days.

Paraguard copper iud. No hormones, my periods may be a little heavier but definitely not painful like someone below said. Lasts for 10 years. Just had my second one put in this month because my 10 year mark will be December and I didn't want to push my luck :)

I have a Mirena IUD. I love it! No periods.

We use withdrawal or condoms. But I'm an old lady and pretty sure my eggs are dried up since we've been doing this for 7 years without issue. My ex husband got a vasectomy after our 2 kids but I don't want my current husband to get one. He is 7 years younger than me and has a special needs 18 yo. If something were to happen to me, I would like him to have the option to meet someone else and maybe have another child. So I would suggest a vasectomy in your situation. Good luck.

I have used that old-fashioned thing called a diaphragm since I became sexually active, and I've never had an unintended pregnancy. I also did not want to use hormonal BC, and when I had Mirena for about 3 months after our second child, I do think I had some side effects, confirming my concern. Now, I do think my husband can feel it and kind of prefers without, however he doesn't have strong feelings about the matter.

That said, I agree with the others that something else seems to be going on, since you and your spouse have used condoms forever and he is suddenly getting grumpy now about them. Living with a spouse who is miserable due to side effects of birth control wouldn't be much fun for him, would it? And if barrier-free sex is 'the best part about being married,' there is a REAL problem in his attitude. Sounds like time for him to figure out what is really bothering him and for some extra support for YOU.

Wanted to follow up on the essure suggestion ... I has them inserted and after 3mos got checked (can't remember if it was ct scan or what at hospital) and the scar tissue hasn't blocked one of the Fallopian tubes. Went back and did same scan after 6mos and still not blocked.
OB/GYN had me come in and did a pretty darned invasive ultrasound. The darn essure thing (basically a plastic/silicone type circular, pill type thing) was finally found floating around in my uterus. BIG waste of time and VERY expensive.
Also had uterine ablation where they scrape out lining of uterus ... No more periods. Still hormonal effects but no blood.
Anyway, finally got what I had originally wanted ... Tubal ligation ... Yeah (best thing ever). After like 7days of no lifting I was good to go.

My BF offered to get cut but I didn't want him to in case something happened to me or whatever I wanted him to have option of having another. (I knew that I never wanted to be pregnant again)

Now on to the matter at hand ... As everyone has said, something is up with your husband. Please at least get yourself some help.

Tell hubby while you understand he doesn't like to wear condoms, under
no circumstances will you tolerate threatening to "find someone else".
That's crossing a line.
Now, having said that, I can understand why he doesn't like using condoms.
Offer up that he can get a vasectomy & you are looking at a diff method of
birth control.
Personally, I think the best is the IUD. Easy insertion, no major problems
& no periods (which I don't think can be good but for short term 5-10
years )is a good, viable ption for you).
I would definitely call your doc about getting the Mirena !!

tubal ligation :) BEST THING EVER :)

I love the Nuva Ring like Gamma G mentioned. But, I also think something else is going on with your hubby. I would look into tubal ligation syndrome before you go into something like Essure. I would also look at any side effects and see how they would work with your body and before going with an IUD of any kind. I did this and realized that an IUD is not an option for me, and I have seen first hand too many issues with a tubal, so that isn't an answer for us either. But, my hubby is responsible for remembering the Ring and putting it in and out, and it makes bc a joint effort instead of just mine. (he is opposed to a vasectomy so this is our option right now.)

First off, if my husband said he would "find someone else" if I didn't go back on BC, I would slap him silly. There is more to this. If he is making those types of comments, I would make he wear a condom anyway. Not sure where he has been.

I was on BC for the first year. That was the worst year of my life. I was all over the place. Headaches, being nasty. The I got pregnant. I tried BC after our second child because I didn't want anymore. Found out I can't take BC because I have migraines and BC can make migraines worse. So condoms because hubby didn't want anyone near the "manhood". Oh brother!!!

I am in full blown menopause now. Yay!! So bitchy, hot mess is back in style!!!

Check into the Mirena IUD. It's pretty easy, helps with periods, doesn't cause hormonal changes or weight gain, extremely effective for women who have had children. Effective for 5-7 years (although I have had mine now for 12...). It's easy to place in the doctor's office and easy to remove should you choose to have another child later on (and you don't have to think about bc).
Good luck!

Well, that's just sad.

Google Nuva Ring and see if it's something you could try for a while.

They come in the mail in a fridge box and stay in the fridge at home until you insert one in your vagina. They stay there until it's time for your period then you remove it.

IF hubby feels it during intercourse you can remove it then reinsert it afterwards. Don't forget to put it back in though...

If you are certain you never ever ever will change your mind about more children then research having the Essure Procedure done. The doc goes in and inserts a spring like thing into the tube. It promotes tissue growth so you basically grow your own plug in the tube.

The doc will have you come back a few weeks or months later and they run dye through the tube and use ultra sound to see if any dye at all gets through the tube. Then you are completely unable to have more children.

NO surgery other than a hysterectomy is completely 100% guaranteed but this procedure has a pretty high success rate.

I have Paraguad. It's a non hormonal iud that goes into youruuterus very easy to DeAl with. Periods moderate to heavy for a day then spotting for 3. Can not feel it boyfriend doesn't feel it. And does nnot mess with my body like hormonal birth control does. I wish I would of gotten it sooner