Weekend Activities

Updated on June 25, 2009
S.A. asks from Overland Park, KS
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Hi all amazing mothers, as we all mother of our children and we try our best for them in any way we can. In our family, we often go visit some places on the weekend. My husband and I are having a problem over this. Though he would come along but he often sits in a car or shows no interest in this. He even tells me we go out on the weekend too much. (Eventhough we are not going every single one weekend and always get home to eat.) I need to mention all of the places we has been cost no money at all such as librabry or park. My question is for those who has a husband working out side of the house on weekdays, what would you do on weekend as a family? Thanks for all your sharing. You are really good invisible friends.

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S.L.

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My family really loves board games. I am usually the party pooper and the one that wants to sit out. But this last week I decided it's time I put more time into my family. So I ordered a vintage game I remember from my childhood. It was made very limited in 1976 and someone had the entire game with no pieces missing or broken. We have played it 3 times now. It's very easy to get in a rut. But we need to do what we can to keep the family memories flowing.

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T.W.

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S.,

It might be good for you to remember that your husband IS outside of the house all week. Thus, on weekends he probably wants to stay home. Whereas, you are HOME all week and want to get out!!! I suggest making plans for you and your children and telling your husband what you will be doing and then add: We would like for you to join us? Accept his yes or no as final. If no, then you and the kids go do what was planned together. Your husband may decide that he wants to do this or that, but not all the time?

Hope this helps.

Take care and God Bless :)

T.

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H.H.

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does your husband ever have just alone time for himself like going fishing or hunting? He goes to work all week long and probably just wants some home time to veg out and watch tv or have a quiet night at home. I know my husband works a lot and a lot of weeks he works 7 days a week and works every weekend so sometimes he just wants some time to himself and will go fishing early in the morning and be home before noon and then he is willing to go out and do stuff with the family and we usually aren't ready to go anywhere before noon anyway so that gives him his alone time. He does take the boys fishing and hunting with him some of those mornings but there are times he just wants to go alone especially if it was a stressful week. Going to the lake with a fishing pole is very relaxing and he can sit there and relax. I do understand that you are home with the kids all the time and don't get out much with only having 1 car and just want to get out of the house and do something. You also need to take some time and go out for a walk or a drive by yourself or whatever you like to do that is calming for you. Get a babysitter once in a while and the 2 of you go out together without the kids once in a while. Talk with your husband and ask him what he would like to do on weekends. If he wants to sit home and relax then ask him if you can go out and shop or do something by yourself for a few hours while he stays with the kids. You don't want to do that every weekend but you also need to get out of the house and if he doesn't enjoy doing the outings you have planned then find out what he would enjoy whether it would be taking the kids fishing, going to a movie, park, or whatever. As for things for you to do during the week, is there a park near your house that you can walk with the kids to and get out of the house? Even walking to a nearby store or restaurant and buying something to drink or a snack can be an outing to get out of the house. Get involved in a ladies group at church or invite some other ladies with kids to come over and have play dates for the kids and visit with your friends.
Take him to work once in a while and get out and do things with the kids. Maybe plan one day a week that you have the car and plan outings for the kids and make sure you get out of the house that day.

I have been married to my DH for 17 years and we have learned that both of us need some time to ourselves and respect that. I have had other wives ask me why I let my hubby go fishing and hunting and take away from family time. Well I tell them that is a hobby of his and has always been part of his life and guys need time to themselves to wind down too just as we do and if they don't get that time then they will get grumpy and start resenting the fact that they have a family life and not want to do anything. There are some wives that dictate their family lives and the husband seems miserable because they either don't trust him to do anything on his own or they think he should be with them every spare moment he has. Think about it..they are at work all week usually working with other grumpy guys and have a lot to deal with making the boss happy then feeling the responsiblity of keeping their family happy so where is their relaxing time if the family doesn't allow them some time to be themselves? we as women like to have time to ourselves, whether it be going to get our hair or nails done, shopping, or taking a long bath, going for walks, or whatever. Guys get their hair cut and is usually a line and then their haircuts are usually less than 15 minutes so that isn't really relaxing for them.

What about him getting a scooter or small motorcycle to ride to work? They are fairly cheap and get 75-100 mpg. My husband just got a small honda rebel 250cc that we bought mainly for the gas mileage because he drives 30 miles one way to work. He never had the desire to ride a motorcycle then he was looking at scooters to drive back and forth to work to save money on gas. I told him he would like a motorcycle better and the rebel is a great bike to learn on. He loves it and watches the weather everyday before he leaves for work and rides it if there isn't a chance of rain or cold weather. He plans to buy a bigger bike in the future but for now we are enjoying the 75 mpg this one gets.

C.B.

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S., in your situation i really don't think it's too much to ask to go out on these short free little trips on the weekends. especially since you don't have access to a car most days, i think hubby doesn't realize how important it can be to get "OUT" sometimes. is he not interested because he doesn't enjoy the activities you're doing? if so, maybe he can help you plan something that HE likes to do. if it's just a case of being lazy or not wanting to spend time with his kids, well i would say you should just insist he keep coming until he learns to appreciate them. good luck!

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K.B.

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I think small day trips are always fun and something out of the norm.

My son and I go to Weston, MO a lot. We always pack a lunch and eat at State Bend Park, then we walk around downtown Weston and look in the shops. There's a small playground there too.

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J.J.

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One of our favorite free activities is to go to Crown Center. The last time we went we saw the free lego exhibit. Then we head over to the Westin to see the waterfall fountain. The kids also love to take the link over to Union Station. There is a small model train exhibit there that's fun. You can also cool off with the spray fountains across Grand and bring a picnic lunch. By the end of the day my kids had all kinds of family fun and are totally beat.

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A.B.

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When I read your post, I see a husband who is being selfish with his time, thinking he should have free time on the weekend without his family. I don't think that is reasonable since he has a wife and two kids. Maybe I am misunderstanding.

I think the most important part of what you are saying is that you and the kids are stuck home all week without your husband, since he is at work. I think, then, that is important for you all to spend time together on the weekends. Maybe a nice compromise is to go somewhere one weekend day and stay home for the other. Of course, you cannot make your husband agree, but it would be the most fair thing to all parties concerned. I hope you can work something out!

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K.V.

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Hi S.,
Have you ever thought maybe you could go out by your self or with a friend? Also, I wondering about date nights for you and your hubby? This very important that he still feels important to you. So what do you think about these ideas?
My best to you......K. ____@____.com

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