Wedding Attendance a Couple Weeks After Giving Birth?

You should be fine. Keep him in carriage and don't let people pass him around. It will be nice to get out! Have fun.

My sister came to my wedding when my niece wa a week old. Just play it by ear. If you feel like it, go. If not, don't go and don't feel guilty.

I had my daughter on Feb 9 last year and on march 3 I drove from Florida to NC for a wedding. I had a c section and felt fine. You won't really know how you feel until after you have the baby.

Don't make a decision now. Tell your brother if you feel up to it and are healing well, you will be there. You just can't plan. Your baby might need to stay home, you might need to stay home. You won't know until that little guy is here.

I'd be there, even with a c-section. Heck, I plan to be at my oldest son's football game with my newborn 8 days after my next c-section.

Wear him in a sling and it should be a-ok.

In my opinion, the newborn stage is one of the easiest to manage. Your baby will be totally portable, will likely sleep very well in a sling, and you can shelter him/her from too curious people.

I would call and talk with your brother. Let him know that you want to RSVP yes, but if the birth does not go smoothly or you're not healing well, you might not be able to come. But you should RSVP a tentative yes if you think you might go. It's the polite thing to do.

Respond yes and if you are not up to it (or the baby isn't) so be it. I'd just tell your brother this in advance. Also, don't feel bad about going for let's say half of the wedding. So to the ceremony and to part of the reception.

Can you get a hotel close to the venue so that you can take a nap or nurse?

I agree..RSVP your intention with the understanding that you'll need to play things by ear. You have no way of knowing how you'll feel and every woman's experience is very different.

You will probably be fine and ready to get dressed up and out of the house and feeling like a real human being for a few hours again! I had very easy recoveries and was always eager to get dressed and go out with the baby after a few days. Our youngest son was born on a Thursday morning and we went to a party with him (and our other kids) for a couple of hours that Saturday night. I was a surrogate and 3 days after I had the twins, I went to my monthly mom's night out and then a Halloween party the next night.

So..plan on attending and enjoying yourself but remember that every mom and baby are different and there's no one size fits all recovery plan. You could need a little more down time or have some minor complications where it makes sense to not go and if that's the case, I'm sure your family will understand and want what's best for you and your baby.

The other thing to consider is that first babies are notoriously late. You may very well be giving birth on 10/24, in which case you would probably still be in the hospital for the wedding and your husband would not attend. So I would remind your brother and your husband of that and make sure that whatever his role is, it's something that can be taken over by someone else if needed.

Do plan on wearing an outfit that is comfortable, forgiving, and that you can easily breastfeed in if you are planning on breastfeeding. An a-line wrap dress that will flatter your still-swollen belly in which you can go somewhere and loosen up the top to feed would be a good idea. I went to a few weddings with infants where I felt like I practically had to strip to the waist to breastfeed because I didn't pick an easy dress to wear.

If you and baby have no complications and you are not having a c-section, I don't see why you would not attend. But I would feel free to cut out early if the baby acts up or you need a break. Is there a place near the wedding you could go to, like a family member's home, if you and baby need a break? That would be nice.
My friend is due in a few weeks and intends to take baby with her and family to amusement park 3 weeks after birth. I know I took my 2 week old to a family reunion 2 hour drive away. Babies are portable and I would imagine you would feel fine after a few days of giving birth although maybe a bit sleep deprived. I think you should do your best to make it- a wedding is a big deal.

I was up and running that early with my second and third children. I've brought my third places within 2 weeks. Her first trip to Disneyland was at 17 days.
I wouldn't play "pass the baby" or anything mind you but I don't see a problem so long as you feel up to it. The baby won't care one way or the other. So long as it gets fed and changed and cuddled baby won't know the difference between the living room or a wedding.
Bring a nice sling and a stroller that the seat lies flat on, not the infant car seat, so baby can lie down and stretch out and not over heat.
There is really no reason not to go unless you don't feel too swift. But you'll be able to do a lot of sitting, which you'd be doing at home, might as well get some fresh air and sunshine instead ;)

Play it by ear. Pretty sure that is all that is expected of you.

GO!! have a blast!! Bring the car seat and bring the stroller....at 16 days old - the baby will be sleeping much of the time anyway...

You can get a netting to go over the stroller/car seat so no bugs..brings blankets, hand wipes or even hand sanitizer for those who want to pick up and hold the new baby!!!

If you are determined to be tired, you will be. Attitude is everything. Sleep when the baby sleeps, get a schedule in place for yourself as well. If you are breast feeding - bring a covering for you to be able to nurse as well as purchase a dress or outfit that makes nursing easy.

You CAN do this.
YOU GOT THIS!

You don't have to decide now, just wait and see how you feel when the time comes. You might feel great and be ready to get out and about, you may be tired and the thought of getting dressed up and going to a wedding may be overwhelming. Just take it one day at a time after baby gets here and decide then. No point in stressing about it now. Congrats on your little one!

Unless something unexpected happens, then you should be fine. You will feel plenty well enough to travel an hour and attend a wedding, though you might want to go the night before and stay in a hotel so you don't have the drive on the same day as the wedding you will be sitting through. Won't your husband be doing that anyway?

If you end up having to have a C-section, the rules may be different. Or if you go well past your due date, it might require a little more effort on your part (if you don't give birth until say October 18th or something). But if you 2 weeks, you will be fine. Just plan to get a hotel.

Personally, at 2 weeks post-partum, I would be more comfortable in a hotel than in someone's personal home. There are caretaking issues (for your own body) that I'd probably prefer to have more privacy to deal with than I would likely have in someone's private home.

I would consider it, since it is only an hour away. I've attended weddings where people brought their newborns and they were fine. At 2 weeks old, he may do more sleeping than anything. My DD went to church at 11 days old and slept the whole time.

You might consider getting a wrap or other baby carrier that will keep hands off the baby and keep him close to you. I'd also discuss with your brother that while you really do want to attend, you may need to bail if you feel unwell or if the baby is upset. My sister's firstborn was a premie so he arrived before her baby shower. We did go on with the show, with some modifications to accommodate her new needs. She was 2 weeks out from an emergency c-section and did OK as long as she took it easy.

But, mostly, I'd keep open communication. I think you can do it. You just need to keep in touch. The wedding party may be able to allow you to use their dressing rooms if you need a break, for example.

I would go with the back up plan to be indoors in the event that the weather is not suitable for a newborn.

I was at a wrestling tournament for my son when my daughter was 4 days old. I kept her bundled when in cool or drafty areas and away from people as much as possible. Had friends watch her a few minutes while our son wrestled each match.

Play it by ear. Sitting can still be tricky at 2 weeks PP, depending on what trauma your girly bits sustain during delivery. It you are expected to sit on a hard folding chair, that might be a no-go. It would have been for me after baby #1 and #3.

Speaking for myself:
I would NOT want to go to a wedding, with an infant that is 2 weeks old.
Send your Husband.

With my firstborn, I ended up having an emergency c-section.
And with both my kids I was nursing.
And being that young, its not like they have their vaccinations yet fully.
Not to mention, you'd need to travel 1 hour away, to the wedding/reception etc. with all that baby gear etc.
Outdoor wedding, well keep infant under shade.
And not get him over heated.

Not to be a pain in the rear about this: but once, a couple from my State went on a trip w/their 6 month old baby. The baby got sick from a relative. They thought it was just a typical cold. But it turned out to be Pertussis. Their baby got very sick, ended up in the hospital, and died.
The baby had not gotten the Pertussis vaccination.
I know many people take their infants out everywhere with no problem.
So, it really is up to you.
Each person is different.

You can have someone, with a lap-top, Skype the wedding for you so you can "see" it.

Or if you do go, and being your Husband is in the wedding... make sure you have someone, be with you to help, if need be.
Is this the only child that would be with you at, the wedding? Or you have other kids to toggle too, in addition to your infant?
Your Husband will be busy, being he is in the wedding. So you'd need extra help, perhaps, from others.

RSVP that you have to play it by ear. And if you DON'T want to be handing the baby around, wear baby in a sling so it's "tied" to you and can't be easily handed around. Infants are irresistable, but you probably don't want to have the baby handled by a crowd.

Enjoy :)

You really can't make up your mind now. There are way too many unknowns here. When will he actually be born? How will you feel? Will he be an easy baby to take places?

Tell your brother you want to be there for him and you will if you are able to. Then decide that week if you and your baby are up for it. I'm guessing you will be at the wedding.

I'd have felt overwhelmed and had a horrible delivery with my first but we had friends come to a big party with their 5 day old baby. Literally. It was their 3rd child. Old hat for them. If this wasn't your first, you'd certainly be up and out plenty after 2 weeks. So I'd plan on makign a big effort unless there are complications and/or someone is sick. Plenty of people are out and about after 2 weeks and an hour isn't far. It might be tough and liek I said I'd have struggled but try for the ceremony and a half hour even of the reception since it's your brother and it's not that far. You may have a smooth birth and of course still be tired but if nothing unusual happens, it should be doable.

I gave birth to my son on Dec 12 and had a 3rd degree tear (stitches). On Dec 20 we took him to London to see an old friend of ours that was passing through and to meet his family. We walked around, did some sight seeing, had the baby's picture taken with Santa at Hamleys toy store, and even went out to a nice meal at the local pub. I had moments of discomfort, some cramping (was walking around a lot), but over all I had a great time and the baby was just fine being out and about. I just used one of those snuggle carriers where the baby lays against your chest. He slept most the day.

In short I am saying go for it.

You should plan to attend. It's your brother's wedding and I think you'll regret missing it. As long as everything is fine during the birth and your baby is healthy, you should be able to make the trip.

Pack extra clothes for you and the baby - at this age, spit up and leaky diapers can ruin your clothes and the baby's clothes. Do a little research on the venue ahead of time so you'll know where you can go if you and the baby need a break or if you prefer to feed him/her in private.

Since it's your brother's wedding, I imagine there will be a lot of family members there. Chances are, most of them will want to hold the baby and you'll probably get the most rest you've had since the birth! Pack some antibacterial hand soap if you want to make sure people have clean hands before holding the baby and don't feel bad telling a sick family member to please keep their distance.

My husband's brother got married when my son was five weeks old. We went to the wedding, also outside, and had a very nice time. All of the aunties wanted to hold my son and we barely saw him all night.

I know women who have given birth and when they got released from the hospital they got in the backseat of their van and took off for family reunions across the country. They figured they were only going to be laying down at home and nursing the baby so why not go see family too.

I think that if you want to go you'll find a way. I would plan on going. Unless the baby comes late. Which it can happen.

you'll probably be fine, and it may well be fun for you to get out and about and show off your baby.
on the other hand, you might be feeling reclusive and just want to snuggle at home.
this is your brother, and presumably he's loving and understanding. can't you keep your options open? your husband can plan to go, but you should be able to make the call when it gets here.
khairete
S.

Base it on how you're feeling at the time. I personally wouldn't have been up for it after any of my own deliveries. I also wasn't up for driving... and if your husband is in the wedding party isn't there going to be a point where you have to drive? You have to make sure that you have the okay from your doctor to drive first in the event that you'll need to drive while your husband is dealing with groomsmen duties the night before the wedding and the day of the wedding.

I'd leave it very open and very vague if they are willing to pay for your meal with the caterer whether you eat it or not. Since it's your brother, I'm assuming he will.

An hour's drive might be okay, but you will have to be there quite a bit earlier because your husband is in the wedding party. So that can be a long day. The baby can sleep anywhere, assuming he sleeps at all - some newborns do, some don't. It's an outdoor wedding but hopefully there is a place to get out of the sun as you cannot slather sunscreen on a newborn.

You have no idea how you will feel, how fussy the baby will be, how quickly you'll figure out things like feeding/nursing and carrying all the paraphernalia. Your husband is in the wedding and will not be of help, and your other family members will be focused on the wedding as well. If your baby were older, I'd say you could arrange (through your brother or the bride) for a sitter to help you out, but with a 2 week old you might not be ready for that. And that's presuming your baby is on time. What if you are a week late? What if you have a c-section and are post-surgical? Your husband needs a back-up plan as well in case he is needed at home!

I think the sling is a good idea if it's not incredibly hot. You don't want to hand an infant around or having everyone cooing at him, but you don't want to be bound up and sweating with a tight sling. You will want to wear something that is easily adaptable to nursing if you are planning to breast feed - don't worry about a pretty, wedding-like dress -- you need functionality!

Good luck with whatever happens!

You don't have to make a decision right now. This is your FIRST baby. Give yourself a break. If you have the baby and feel like you can tackle going to a wedding then go, if not, stay home. I think everyone will understand. Good luck.

I'd go as long as I was comfortable to sit in the car all that time. Get a sling, wear the baby at the wedding. Bring hand sanitizer if you're freaked about people holding the baby. Know where a hotel is close by if you need a break.

Honestly, I don't understand people's fascination with staying home for weeks without taking the baby out. This would be a fantastic time to show baby boy off to relatives. When we went to my family's for Easter after having dd, I super enjoyed eating with both arms. At one point my husband like "where's my daughter?" and I said "eh, someone'll bring her back when she cries or poops."

I went to a wedding 2 weeks after an unexpected C section.. you will be fine. Have fun.

Hi, L.:

Yes, you and the baby will feel up to it.
Your baby will sleep right through everything.

Focus on yourself right now.
You have the wedding on your calendar.
You can worry about the wedding after you have
the baby and get in a routine.

Good luck.
D.

Absolutely attend! Assuming that the birth is relatively uneventful, all you have to do is sit there and let people flock to you while you "hold court". I attended my sister-in-law's wedding a few weeks after the baby was born while my husband was deployed. Just make sure that if you're breastfeeding, you have a nice nursing dress on; don't make the mistake I did of wearing something that required I get almost completely undressed in a bathroom stall to nurse the little one. Best wishes to you and to the bride and groom!

I had my youngest son on March 12 and a very good friend of mine was married April 6th. We went. Another friend was married on May 5th, we went to that as well.

I had a c-section so my recovery was a little longer than it was with my naturla birth 4 years earlier.

My baby slept and ate through the ceremony and reception. I had a great time!

I told my SIL that I wasn't going to be able to make it to her wedding, but the baby came a little early, so we went to the wedding when baby was two weeks old. The wedding was about an hour away too. Nursing was a little tricky, and we didn't go to the reception. But it is nice that my daughter, husband, and I got to go to the wedding, and we are in the wedding pictures!

I should mention that my 6 year old nephew happened to have a cold that day. Why he coughed directly into my daughter's face while I was holding her is beyond me. My daughter caught her first cold at the wedding. It was no big deal, but just be aware that germs will be aplenty. Good luck!

I had to attend my cousins wedding less than a month after giving birth. I think it was 2 weeks. Maybe 3? I was a bridesmaid. I did sent the baby off with the in laws for the ceremony (since I was in it) but then we had her nearby at the reception and left early. Honestly, I did not really enjoy the wedding but it was doable and I was glad to be there of course . and ugh I look so fat in he pictures! Oh well :)

You don't want to miss your brothers big day. I'd plan to make an appearance and keep expectations low.

You have so many responses this could be a duplicate.

Attend if you had an ok delivery and you feel ok. It's a big event in your family so try to make it. If you do go, ask your brother if you can have access to the wedding party suite. That way you have a private and quiet place for nursing if you're doing that or just to get away if you need. Also, wear the baby in a sling so he/she is covered. Everyone will want to see the baby, but he/she is new and needs that closeness to you. Don't feel obligated to offer the baby for holding. Listen to your gut too. If it says the baby stays in the sling most of the time then do that. There will be many other times for people to see the baby without all the noise and commotion of a wedding environment.

I think it depends upon where the wedding is. You said it is an hour away. Does anyone live closer to the wedding site - someone that you would be able to go to their house if things aren't going well - like parents or your brother? I would want an "out" in case you aren't feeling well or the baby isn't doing well in that environment. Keep your options as open as possible. You don't know when the baby will come for sure. You don't know if you will need a C-section or not. You don't know how you will feel - physically or emotionally. You don't know how the baby will be doing - sleep schedule, etc. Lots of things up in the air and I'm sure everyone understands. Also, just throwing this out there, my Dr. said to keep baby in the house and basically away from people for the 1st 2 weeks of life in order to avoid germs until his immune system really kicked in. Baby might be a little young for an outing where people are going to slobber all over him/her.

Babies don't always arrive by their due date. My doctor lets women go 14 days past if there are no complications since inducing raises the risk of cesereans. Theoretically, you could possibly still be in the hospital. I think you should feel fine by the wedding if you truly have at least two weeks (baby could come a few days early also), but if born late you might not be.