My hubby is scheduled to have a vasectomy mid June. I'm just curious have any of you wives been able to go into the room and watch? It's not in a hospital just done in the office. I was at my girls field day when he had his first appointment so I didn't get to ask. Thanks!
He told me he wants me in there. I'm a nursing student so medical procedures are very interesting to me. And Samantha that wasn't an option for me bc of complications. Plus it's MUCH easier for a man. Yes he wants me there in his wife, why wouldn't he?
My husband had one a few months ago and wanted me in the room with him. It wasn't a problem, just ask the doctor.
Ugh! I didn't have my husband in the room with me when I had my ovarian cyst removed. Don't do it.
I wanted no part of it, frankly. I had an 8 month old baby to care for and plenty else to do. His best buddy (who'd already had it done years ago) took him out for a couple of drinks first and drove him back home after the surgery. I was really glad the guys had each other and I just got to take care of baby solo for a couple of days while bringing bags of frozen peas to and from the freezer. :)
My father performed those in his medical office/ surgical center but wives were told to wait in the waiting room or to drop off/pick up afterwards.
It's not common for wives to sit there and watch any kind of procedure.
I had a tubal because I never wanted to be pregnant again so didn't do the vasectomy route.
If hubby wants you there the doc will probably allow it depending on the size of the room the procedure is being performed in.
and as a nursing student myself ... HELL YEAH that would be awesome to watch :)
If your husband wants you there and you don't mind and the doctor is alright with it then I don't see why not.
My husband has never had one but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want me there if he did.
It wouldn't bother me if he wanted me to be there - medical procedures don't upset me.
My ex had one and I'm pretty sure I would not have wanted to watch. However, after divorcing I'm sure glad that he got one so he couldn't have any more kids! Good luck.
Nope. Pretty sure my husband wouldn't want me to watch even if I could have (and would have wanted to).
Nope, I just made the appointment.
I wouldn't think a Dr would allow you in to watch unless your hubby requested it! I certainly had no interest in watching when my hubby had one? Do you really want to watch? Why?
Seems like a pretty private procedure and he doesn't need a babysitter or someone who might make him uncomfortable. It's not the sane as a hubby going into a delivery room with mom.
Make sure you follow ALL Dr directions unless he wants a longer recovery. Also follow up with samples for the lab until he has no swimmers. For my hubby it took about 4 samples over about 6 months to truly be clear.
I used to work in a vasectomy clinic, counseling patients and their spouses. I also counseled women about to have tubal ligations. We did not have spouses in the procedure room, but I and the other counselors accompanied our patients. The patient knew there was someone knowledgeable and supportive but with no medical responsibilities - we talked softly, held hands, reassured, even joked, depending on what was best for that patient to keep him or her calm and relaxed.
You can talk to the doctor, but you need to consider that sometimes it's worse for he patient to have a spouse there. The patient worries about whether the spouse is going to be okay, the spouse has to completely contain her reaction to what she's seeing, and not everyone is good in those situations. Some people are squeamish, some tend to panic in medical settings, and it's not always an objective or unemotional situation to see your loved one cut open, even with the small vasectomy incision(s). If a patient were to faint, for example, and the spouse panicked, then the doctor has 2 people to deal with. Even done in an office, this is surgery. You may be the most helpful by holding your husband's hand when he goes in, and then letting him put his trust in and focus on the doctor, assuring him that you will be there in the recovery area.
I think it depends on the doctor. My husband's was done in office too and it was really quite fast. My husband did not want me in there, it would have made him so much more anxious, but if your husband does he should probably be the one to ask the doctor about it. As others have said, it's pretty fast. My husband wasn't put under, just local. We were at the office probably an hour total, maybe less.
I am not sure i would want to watch my DH have a vasectomy. I had my tubed tied after my third child so it didn't have to be an option for my DH.
My husband had a vasectomy a few years ago and the whole procedure took a grand 15 minutes. He was in and out. I did not go into the room with him as he was place under anesthesia and would not have even known I was there but when he was finished, I went back to the recovery area and he was sitting there with three other guys who also were patients that day and all of then had dozen bags of peas on their crotch! I burst out laughing because it really was quite a scene! As far as my husband's overall recovery...He was very swollen and in some pain the first day. The second day was better and by day three, he was back at work and doing fine. He was walking funny for about two days but he had the procedure on a Friday and by Monday, he was at work.
Just ask the doctor. I would think it would be okay. I was with my aunt when she had 6 teeth extracted. TBH I was with her for the first 4 then I felt like I was going to pass out and I left the room drank water and came back in the room when they were stitching her. In my defense, the closest thing I have ever done related to medicine is work for a pharmaceutical company😉
If you were just wanting to watch because you missed that episode on the Discovery channel, I would say not to do it
But if he WANTS you there, then you should be there.
Interesting question. All you can do is ask! My husbands took all of 20 minutes, it was super simple. He did it on a Friday and was back to work on Monday.
yes i was in there and I had a grand ol time. The urologist and I were cracking jokes the whole time using all these fun terms and it ironically set my husband at more ease. I was just going to chill in the waiting room but was asked to come inside. I chose not to watch because well male genetalia are just strange and I just didnt need to see it. we've been married 12 years I know what it looks like. we joked though if the wife gets to snip the vas kinda like the father snips the umbilical cord. although i did not.
ha! no, i didn't, and my dh didn't ask me to. but if he'd wanted me there, i'd probably have gone. especially since you're a nursing student.
:) khairete
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I was there my hubby got his done.The puff of smoke when the doc cauterized the tubes was awesome! Just make sure your hubby follows the doctor's orders on recovery.
The doctor wanted me to go in with mine. It grossed me out big time and I felt bad for him, but I did have 3 kids for him, so you know :).
