Update on Previous Post?

I know what you mean...there have been posts about abusive husbands, kids being abused, etc. and no update...there are several I still wonder about.

Oh, I'm going to be flamed for this one! Apologies, up front!

BUT, many questions are posted as a dumping ground.....we help relieve the moment of angst.....& then the mom moves on. Which is a good thing for her, but quite often leaves all of us hanging. Is that bad? For the most part, "no"....but in the case of your example....I agree, it would be nice to know what the end result was. I applaud Laurie A for her suggestion to PM the poster.

The flip side to the angst of the moment would also be when we don't give supportive advice & are on the other side of the fence. In that case, the mom is not happy with us....& has washed her hands of us (to some extent). I am finding more & more....with the prevalence of flaming on this site....that if you don't agree with the poster, then there's going to be heck to pay! & it's rarely in the form of a nice update.....Peace, Mamas!

Very sweet of you. You can go to your profile, retrieve your post to her and possibly send a personal message. You will make her day, so nice.

I don't know why. I try to respond to questions in the what happened.

I always worry that as soon as I stop checking for an update, that is when they update, and here they are thinking no one cares. :(

I don't respond with an update to questions that I received no answers to. I also don't respond if I get my answer months later because by then no one will remember me asking the question.

I think if you respond to a question it should inbox you if they post in the what happened box.

In my case, when I have posted something.. sometimes. I still haven't decided what I am going to do in regards to the situation I may have asked about and therefore, I have no update to give..

You can send her a private message and ask her.. .. If you responded to her question.. go back and look through your answers.. Or go back and look for her question..

Push on her name and it will allow you to send her a message..

Ive asked a couple questions but didnt really think they had anything worth following up with. I posted a while back about my grand daughters preschool has them wear just socks, no shoes, and had a lot of comments, but there really isnt anything new or different to say. School hasnt started yet, Im just the grama, so Im not exactly going to fight one way or another, and dont mind eitherway ,which I said in my post to start with. So, there really isnt anything to follow up. But I was pleased to see how many took the time to comment. I do wish we could get a notice in our email when we have a followup from someone. I have to scroll back page after page to find the persons name sometimes and private message them to see what happend. And sometimes the name has changed and I cant figure out whos who.

I don't post questions very often, and if I do, it's more of a light hearted topic, so I either forget to update or just don't think anyone cares about seeing a follow up.

I know what you're talking about, though.

I guess I didn't know if people went back to questions or if that was just me! Sometimes I think no one will ever see the SWH part because it seems like things don't get as much attention after they leave the first page of questions. I agree with the poster who said they should send something to let people know when there is an update. That would be a really nice feature.
Good question!

If it was something that people reacted to in an emotional way I would update. I have read questions about kids in abusive situations or in medical conditions or a mom in particular who couldn't get her son from Mexico when he was sent there by his dad without her permission and "couldn't" get him back. I check them for updates from time to time and honestly, haven't lately, but wish they would update because I genuinely worried about their situation... and some I still worry about.

Hi L.-

When the sight was mamasource...periodically in the daily digest there would be a 'so what happened' posted in with the questions. I know they were not necessarily from questions that I had answered, but I could 'click' and read the whole thread...

Would be nice if we had that feature here...

Michele/cat

I have quite a few that I wonder about, but I'm pretty lazy about my own updates.

In part, it's the format. On boards where you can post more than once, I often have whole threaded conversations, updates as they come, etc... but this board the Qs get lost. Even a week ago is (I'm going to scroll, 1 moment) 37 pages back. There's no "bump" feature, there's no 'update to thread' mailed out to people. I can't get any more feedback from people (much less have a conversation outside of PMs), so I get lazy.

In part, it's that the vast majority of my Q's either have no update needed (JFF, inquiry as to how others do things, or if they know about x,y,z after saying how I do, or what I know about x,y,z, etc), OR the situation is unresolved. Yup. Still in an increasingly abusive marriage. Check. Whee. Same ole, same old. (Trust me, if things actually got and stayed better -for at *least* a year or more, or if I finally throw in the towel, or my line in the sand has been crossed, I'll be posting new questions about the changed situation. But as it is... just treading water.)

In part, it's because the situation changes. Back in Febuary I posted a Q about my son's "asthma" after staying in the hospital for a week... and my premise was wrong. Since Febuary we've been hospitalized, gee... I'm not sure how often. A week here, two weeks there, ALL of May and part of June. That Q&A was *extremely* helpful to me in the beginning of this journey, but it's really become a journey.

In part, I just don't think anyone would notice &/or care.

Sum of all parts = I don't update very often.

L. - thanks for the reminder! I dont ask a lot of questions but I'm inconsistent on the "what happened next" part.

thanks for reminding me that this is a community and not just a clearing house for information.