I'm 21 about to have my second baby. I've thought about getting my tubes tied. The thing is I heard that since I'm young, the doctor with not tie my tubes because of my age. Is this true?
thanx so much everybody for ur responses. i am so glad i decided to join mamasource. it gives me a chance to get more opinions from other moms. not just from my mom and mother in law, lol. well a friend told me that there was something they can do for me that is an alternative to having ur tubes tied. she didn't know the name of it but i think it's that iud thing. can somebody help me out with that? is it uncomfortable when they put it in? i'd appreciate some advice on some birth control other than the pill. i have a tendency to forget to take it. any advice?
Just a quick note to remind people that even iuds and tubal ligations can fail as birth control.
I actually got pregnant while using the IUD, and had to have an abortion because my health could not stand another pregnancy.
Though the ligation I had a few years later has never failed me, I have heard of instances when it did.
You are VERY young. Only your doctor can answer that question. Why don't you ask your doctor? Good Luck.
I was in the same situation, but I was 26. My mid-wife told me that I was too young and that I may want more children some day. She was right, I re-married a man who did not have any children (I had 2 at the time 10 and 5). I had another baby at 32. Now, I have an IUD. It lasts around 5 - 6 years. If you choose to have more children, your doctor just pulls it out and your good to go. My sister also has one and we both have not had any problems. It is not as final as tying your tube, just another no maintanence alternative. Talk to your doctor.
yes it true am 26i have two kids wanted the same thing my doctor want let me he say i was too young
Cindy took the words out of my mouth. I was 25 & had a tubal ligation ( cut & sautered not just tied) after my 3rd baby. My doctor didn't want to do it but I convinced him I had reached my limit. An IUD is a much better option for you. You can always have it removed, costs less than a tubal & you won't have to worry about taking a pill or spoiling the mood by having to put something in/on. It does NOT prevent STD's. You should speak with your OB/GYN about it. There are also different versions of the pill that you take less often. Having your tubes tied is very final. And congrats on the new baby!! ( I know he/she isn't here yet, but still!)
yes it is true you are too young for this procedure. no ethical medical doctor will do it. nowadays they have injections that are given once a year not to get pregnant. instead of taking the pill. talk to your ob-gyn and see what other options you have.
I worked in the OB/GYN field for 10 years and although a doctor may refuse to tie your tubes there are physicians who will perform the procedure but will counsel you on the fact that you are very young and you do not know what the future will hold. You may think you do not want any more children at this particular moment but you have no way of knowing how you will feel say 10 years from now. I don't know if you are married but if you are not you may meet and marry someone years from now and want to have a child with this person or you and your current partner may desire more children in the future.
All I can say is think very carefully before making such a life changing decision.
Probably because you are young and so much can change in the next 15-20 years, where you might want to have another child. It is pretty permanent and at least expensive to have it un-done. Have you thought about other birth control- I have heard alot of good things about the IUD suggested by the other mom.
Listen to your heart!
A.
I know when I had my 2nd child my doctor wanted me to be a 1000% sure that I did not want anymore children. He was willing to do it but really wanted me to think about it. Think in 5 years you are only going to be 26 and your kids are going to be in school. And you may get the itch to have another baby and you would not have that option if you tied your tube. Just make sure you are very very sure you do not want anymore. I will tell you that I was glad that I did not because I decied to have a 3rd who just turn 4 and I am so happy that I did not tie my tubes after my 2nd. Just think really hard about the years down the road. You never know!!!
I've heard mixed things on this. But I'll tell you what worked for me. I never gave up. I asked in the beginning of my pregnancy and than really started to bagger my doctor towards the end. Funny thing is my doctor is head strong too. I kid you not for the last 3 days of my pregnancy everytime he saw me..he asked if I was sure. Checking to see how far along all, he would ask... I was prepped for surgery and they were fixing to roll me into the operating room and he asked. If you are done.. than you are done. Don't let them change your mind or talk you out of it. I was 24 when I had my twins and they are all I will ever need. I couldn't be happier. But just a heads up, if you do... most including myself have had odd cycles since. I was worried and asked around and I was told it will take a bit for your body to readjust. Good luck and congrats on the new baby.
Hi A.,
I am thinking that you already had your baby, anyway congratulations.
I am a mother of two myself. I am thinking about having my tubes tighted, of course I am 30 years old. I just don't know what to do. I am on birth control.
Well anyway, I think you should wait for now and go on birth control until you are sure. That is what I am doing now.
I hope this helps.
Good Luck with the new baby.
Tina.
HI A., im twenty three and i have three children. i asked to get my tubes tied after the second child and the third and my doctors told me no. because of my age. and i wasnt sure if i ever wanted to have more even though i am positive of it now. i found that it all depends on the doctor. as for the iud, i have tried the mirena iud. i would reccomend it for anyone. it was great while i had it. it had hormones that almost completely eliminated my periods and i never had to worry about getting pregnant or taking a pill every day either. it was extremely uncomfortable to get put in and it cramped like a period would for about a week and then nothing. i loved having it and unfortunately i had to have mine removed because i got sick i am going to be replacing it as soon as i find the right doctor to do that. i would look into it and make sure it is right for you. and even though expensive i found that its one of the best things on the market along with the nuva ring but that doesnt last quite as long. god luck and congrats.
they will tie your tubes if you are at least 21 with 2 children but if they for any reason feel that ou are not sure that you dont want any more children then they wont.
I can understand you wanting your tubes tied... I was in the same situation a few years back. I was 19 when I had my first child then 21 with my second. I considered a tubal because I figured I would never have any more kids and was very happy with both my kids. Well, needless to say I meet my husband and he wanted to have a baby. I'm so glad I didn't go though with it. Currently I have 5 kids! I finally had them tied because I felt that 5 kids were PLENTY! Don't you agree? ha,ha
Anyway, I had a friend who had the IUD and she didn't like it. She was constantly having really bad and painful cramping that she had it removed. Myself personally, I was on the Depo provera it's a shot every 3 months. I LOVED IT!!! For many years I didn't have my period (awesome)I would only stop when my husband and I were trying to have another baby. Then it took almost a year of trying and waiting because after so long on the depo shot your body needs time to regulate in order to get pregnant. You might want to look into this option of birth control too. Now unfortunately, my tubes are tied so there no need for me to get the shot, so sadly I get my period every month(yuck!) I hope this info is helpful, but my advice to you would be NOT to do anything permanent. You just NEVER know when you might decide to have another. From my experience, I'm glad I didn't do it and I found another option to prevent it(pregnancy) until I was TRULY SURE! Congrats on your new sweet baby!
A.
I think you're doctor would probably want to have a conversation with you about it being that you have 10+ years of more baby making to go (should you decide later down the road.) I'd suggest not doing it; you never know when you may want more children. Even if the thought of having more seems way off base TODAY you'll be disappointed if your life changes down the road and you wish you could have more.
Hello A.,
That used to be the case and I thought so too when I had my second child at 23. But it is not true and if you really want it done as long as you are 21 they will do it for you. That is what my doctor told me. They will ask you over and over again if you're sure since you are so young, but they'll do it. Hope this helps.
H. Mays-Mentor SHALI Team
there are a lot of reasons i would say just wait...but i was 22 when i had mine and i love it, i will NEVER be able to AFFORD another child, and I do not have to ever worry about it again. Believe me, if i won the lottery and could have more kids, i would adopt anyway, there are too many unwanted children out there. And also I LOVED being pregnat and delivery, but I was also sensible and responsible about it.
Good luck, and just make sure you are very very sure.~Kim
The Answer to that question is really mostly yes. Though he may do it. I was 30 When I had mine done and my doctor did not want to do it. I explained to him three kids I am done. So he did tie them for me. I am glad I had them tied but there were times I did want another child. So now I am considering Foster parenting and or Adoption of a little Girl.. So your really never sure... Good Luck
I had thie same problem. Because I was young...I was 25 when I wanted it done. I was SURE I didn't want anymore kids at that time. BUT I am SOO happy that they refused for me to have it done. I am older now and felt that I could handle a lot more. I have had 3 more kids and can't imagine my life without them. :)
I have had other friends tell me this. My friend who has 3 kids and is barly in her 30's told her doctor that she wanted it done and they are telling her that she is to young even at that age. But ask your doctor.
Have you considered an IUD?
My cousin had 2 children when she was a teen, and wanted to have her tubes tied after. She went through counseling and everything for a long time before the dr agreed that she really was ready and this is what she really wanted. When you are young, you never know if you are going to meet someone you will want more children with so that is why they tend to discourage it when you are young. But they did let her but after several months of going to a counselor.
For your question referring to the IUD, there are two kinds ParaGuard (copper IUD), and Mirena (hormones IUD).
The ParaGuard is cheaper and can be left in place for up to ten years. The side effects are heavier periods (one Mom even had hers for 10 days HEAVY!) Also some users might have a copper allergy. Some people do well with this method, but there is a higher risk of ectopic pregnancy with this one than the Mirena.
The Mirena is more expensive (I called around and the cheapest was $500 and the most expensive 2,000 w/o insurance). Mirena can be left in for five years. It has hormones so at times it reduces periods sometimes elminates them completely. This is a great BC (birth control) for those who are senstive to hormones (like the pill) the IUD contains just enough hormones to prevent possibility of ectopic pregnancy. Also the hormones sometimes alleviates cramping associated periods.
All in all I personally have decided to go with Mirena. I will be getting it inserted next Monday. I've heard nothing but good things about the Mirena, even though it is pricey.
Hope this info has helped.
Well, i am 26 years old and i have my tubes tied they recommand that you wait two more years and then come back but in the mean while you will be on birth control and yes one is the IUD which is very good it really works. But let me tell you a little something about me I got my tubes tied after I had my second chld I was married to the man that I had kids by but on my daughters 1st birthday he past a way 4 years now and since I remarried and the new husband is a great man But he only has one child she is 6 years old and he talks about having more but he knows that I got my tubes tied and know sometimes I see women with new baby's and i get very depressed and we have talked about get tht surgery done where they (Doctors) can help me get pregrant but it cost a coulpe of thousand of dollars which I and You know that you can't put a price tag on children but I feel that I let him down even though he knew before we got really involved that is what I did but he has been a good man about it. So I just telling think about things that can happen and i hope that nothing does but keep your options open. hanks for Listening I new here and in Gainesville. I love this site. H. I hope it helps you.
