A 2Nd IUD, Norplant, TUBES TIED????

As I believe this is a total personal decision, but since you asked I am happy to share what I think. I personally wouldn't do anything permanent. You are still young. Life changes us a lot and who knows in ten years you man be with someone wonderful and the two of you may want to have a child together. Just last night I was with a friend that at 22 had her tubes tied because she was not going to have any more children with her then husband. She now is in a really loving relationship, only 30 and really wishes she could have another baby. With that said, if you are happy with the IUD why not stay with it?

Hi !
If i were you and your age ! - i would not recommend you getting your tubes tied quit yet ! - you never know what god has in store for you & you never know you may meet someone that would like children and doesn't have any ! You are still young enough to perhaps maybe have 1 more one day ! I have a friend who had this happen to them !
& now there trying to adopt !......
I think everybody should have at least "2" children, growing up alone with no siblings would really be sad....
I have 2 children - they keep each other company !
My neighbor down the st. Has 1 child and she is a spoiled brat ! ...have a great day !

I just recently had the essure procedure, which is an in and out of office procedure. No surgery, takes about 30 inutes and it is permanent birt control. You can do some research on line just google it. It is easy to do and like I said permanent. My insurance covered it, so maybe yours will too. Good luck.

Hey K., glad to know that you are
making a good transition to independent
living. If you know you will never want
to have children again, tie the tubes.
But, you really are pretty young and you
might be suprised at how your feelings
might one day change.

Since you're not sexually active right now...
why bother with any of it? Although you may
anticipate having more than one partner in the
next 10 years, you may decided not to have
them all at one time.

Take a break for a while, and do what's been
working.

Hi K.,

A short story for you....when I was 20 I married my high school sweetheart. At 22 I had my daughter and was completely and absolutely positive I did NOT want any more children, ever! My Doctor at the time refused to do a Tubaligation on me citing that because of my age and no real health problems she did not recommend such a "Final" solution to birth control. To my utter dismay, she said to me that even though I could not see it now that life has a way of changing our circumstances and until I either had more kids or got alittle older that I should wait! I did, and thank God! Two years later I found myself in a divorce due to a cheating husband. I still did not want more children and had been using the Norplant which turned out to be a good thing. It's easy to have inserted and removed at any given time. A year later and my to my surprise I met the most wonderful man! He had never been married nor had any children but he took me and my daughter as is and loved us anyway!! Today we have been happily married for 10 years and have two absolutely beautiful, wonderful little boys (age 9 and 5). It's not exactly what I thought my life was going to be like when I was 23 but I'm sure glad I followed some good advice and it all turned out for the best, esp. when left in Gods hands.

Hope that helps!

P.S. I had my tubal in 2002 after the birth of my 3rd child and have not regreted it for a second!!

I vote you keep your IUD since you loved it...just remember to protect yourself from STDs.

First let me say to each their own opinion but i had several friends who were only children and were fine (still are) they were in no way spoiled brats (its how the parent raises and teaches the child). Now as far as your deleima, i dont know anything about iud, or norplant. I got my tubes tied after my second baby (for many reasons), i was 23. as far as the age requirement and kiddos, i think it depends on the hospital and doctor. I have heard different things, i know at the hospital i had mine done at, the age was 21, didnt matter on how many kids. My friend had her baby at a "Catholic" hospital and they would not do it there didnt matter on anything, unless it was a medical necc. and hers was not she just didnt want any more kiddos. I will say this though, there are times i do regret having my tubes tied sometimes my hubby and i wish we could have another baby, but even without my tubes being tied it would not be possible. Since you are "young" and single your dr may advise against this. I would tell you to think long and hard before going this direction, make sure you are 100% and more sure you dont want any more kiddos, like some people said you may meet someone and might want to have another baby. The way i think with those other options is the same as some other people said they only protect against pregnancy, but i really dont know anything about them i went from the pill to the depo shot to being "fixed". Now (if you have the money) i was told by my dr, that it could always be reversed, you may have a harder time getting preggo though if you ever decided to. In the end, its your decision just pray about it, God will help guide your way (i always thought that if we were ment to have another baby God would find a way anyway regardless of what i did). Good Luck in making your decision i know its a tough one!!!

K., you seem to be a very upbeat and bubbly person. I would encourage you to take a little more time before making this decision. I understand your feeling re "no more babies;" but just for your consideration--what if God sends to you a most wonderful soul mate--he's never had children etc etc, you might regret the "permanent" fix--just a thought. AND, even though you seem to be on top, you have recently gone through a traumatic experience so please be aware that you are probably in a mourning period that can sometimes effect our judgment--been there, done that--anytime we lose anything or anybody of value to us, we experience a period of mourning, so I would encourage you not to make any permanent decisions until more time has passed-and maybe use a more temporary solution for now.
God bless...

I had an IUD and recently switched to the NUVARING. Ask your Dr about it. I absolutley love mine!! You change it out once a month, it's very easy much better than the pill!

Hello K.,
I would not go with anything you can not take back. I am 30 with 4 children and had my tubes tied. Now I wished I had not done this. You never know when you will meet MR Right and want a child from the 2 of you. You are young, but I understand where you are coming from. If you do remarry and then decide you want your tubes tied then i would do that. I know it sounds crazy, but believe me when you are in your 30s you will want another one no matter how many you have, at least it has been my experience.
I have a friend that used the Norplant and loved it. I never could use any kind of birth control. I hope you find your answer. Good luck

I would say talk with your doctor. You maybe think that you don't want any more children at 23 but things change. Esp. if you find someone else who doesn't have children. What if you meet your dream guy and he wanted more children but you were unable to have anymore b/c you got your tubes tied. My cousin curent situation. She has four but she has been with her b/f for years and now He has an itch for a baby but she got her tubes tied. They are looking into a getting fix b/c that's not 100% not even 50%. So think wisely before you make any decision. My hubby got fixed and for a while we were both regetting it. Okay sorry for my life story.
My opinion is to talk your doctor and see what they think is better for you.
And if I were in your situation I would get the Norplant.
gl

I would check with your Dr. I had a hysterectomy in 2000 and it was the greatest thing I ever did.

In response to Stephanie.....to each his own with opinions. I have an only child, 13 yr old girl. She is not a spoiled brat. She is a very intelligent girl with a good head on her shoulders. She is a black belt and in advanced orchestra. Not all only children are spoiled brats.

Susan

I dont think there is a age or child limit for medicaid to cover your tubes tied. I DO NOT recomend the implant. I had it and I regret it. I now have my tubes tied and am sooo happy I am done. Either stick with the IUD or get fixed.

I don't know for sure, but I think the only reason they suggest not having the IUD if you aren't with one partner, is that your mindset would be well I am covered for pregnancy and not worry about the STD's. If you tie your tubes you will still have to worry about that.

I had a neighbor that never had any children and threw a fit at 21 to have her tubes tied and she finally found a doctor to do it as she never wanted children. While it is odd to me, it seems it ought to be your right. A friend of mine who had two children by 21, threw a fit with her doc to get her tubes tied. So you could get it done I am sure.

There is going to be a lot more cost in having surgery for your tubes being tied then for the IUD. I think if you liked your IUD, then I would make a doc explain to me why you aren't to have multiple partners. If it is only the STD thing, then you will face that with your tubes tied as well. Then if some wild chance of having another child comes around, it is no biggie, and if it doesn't and you find a special person maybe they can get the old snip snip ;) by the time your next IUD comes around- also they have the 10 yr IUD too...

I am with you though.. I love my Mirena!
Good luck!

I said that I wasn't going to have anymore children at that age also. I had one little boy about the same age!! Then one day I met the most wonderful man...the man of my dreams and almost 8 years later I have two more children. Two beautiful girls that I would not trade the world for. You are way to young to say no more kids, especially when you are single. I would go with the IUD or some other type of birth control. Besides I just had a tubal 9 1/2 months ago and if I could go back I would not have EVER had it done. It hurt sooooooo bad!!

That's a bit strong for a 23 year old to say. Yes, right now you feel this way but you will change and the change may mean an additional sibiling for your daughter with a new partner. You said you liked the IUD, go for another one and keep yourself safe from STDs. If you still feel this way at age 30 then seek to end creation possibilities. It's that old saying *I don't want or I will never....* and then you do. Besides, find out who you are and enjoy life. I was an only child and it is not fun, yes I was a brat at one point but lost both my parents and had to change. My saying was and is *an only child is a lonely child* even if we do excel in life. S.

I can highly recommend the tubal ligation. It was an outpatient procedure, with a day or two of rest. I was not back to 100% activity for about three weeks, but I could work, drive, take care of my kid, all the necessities. Though my husband had had a vasectomy, it was a relief to me to know that I was for sure not having any more kids. My insurance paid for it in full. I did not have any copay. I did have to go through some hoops with my OBGYN, to reassure her that I knew what I wanted and that I was absolutely certain about having ZERO more kids.

i would go w/getting your tubes tied. i got mine tied back in 1999. i have 2 daughters ages 8 and 9 (11 months apart)... now you know why i wanted my tubes tied...LOL anyway, i was 20 when i gave birth to both of them and my dr. told me i had to be 21 to get my tubes tied. had my youngest on 9/8/99 and on 9/24 turned 21...had to wait like 4-6 weeks before they would do it...so finally in november of '99 i got fixed. PTL! no worries! i love it! i am really glad i chose it! good luck. peace~A

I think you should wait to have your tubes tied since you are 23. That is a big decision and you are in such a transition time that you might want to wait and not make any huge decisions like that. (like you're not having to make enough already!) I am on Loestrin 24 Fe and love it. No periods. Low dose of hormones. I've never beenable to take birth control before butthis one is different. (for me at least) Good luck to you!

M.
(single mom too....of 4 kids ages 10, 8, 5 yr twins)

Go for the 2nd IUD. Use condoms with your partners to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections. Make sure they get tested for STI's also. If you have had success with the IUD, you already know how it will respond in your body.

I love my IUD and also got it in 3 months before my then husband and I split up.

Just be careful with your future sexual partners.

Hi K.
I wouldn't get Norplant, weight gain (significant amounts) is a common side effect and you can't get it removed like the IUD if you don't like it. I really think the IUD is the way to go.
But since you're single you need condoms, too, of course.
If you were my little sister, I would say wait on the surgery option. Good luck to you!

You may have a hard time selling a GYN on sterilization...mine didn't want to after my daughter was born, and I was 35 and married. He said I was still "young enough" to have another, although I knew we were not going to. State your case, and see what your dr. can do for you to get insurance to cover it. It's the only 100% method...so be VERY sure this is what you want. I applaud you for taking responsibility...not all 23-year-olds do! I have a feeling you've had to grow up very fast...be sure to ask questions whenever you need to--that's what we're here for. Best of luck to you--

I believe the reason they stress the importance of one partner with respect to the IUD is because it in no way protects you against STD's. Thus, it will still be a necessity for your partner to use condoms. You will find yourself in the same situation with the Norplant or a tubiligation as both prevent pregnancy but not STD's. So, I'd say, if the IUD has worked for you and you're comfortable with requiring your partner to use a condom, then stick with what works. Good luck!

A.