Twins and Sleeping

Just give her the bottle. It's not a big deal. She's probably hungry. Why would you let her cry and cry if she's hungry? You wouldn't let her cry during the day if she was hungry, so why would you at night? My almost 3 year old woke up for a bottle at night until she was almost a year. It was no big deal. Eventually she started sleeping through the night and I never had to let her cry. She's a happy and well adjusted little girl. She wasn't damaged in any way by giving her a middle of the night bottle.

We had a similar problem as well! My twin boys are 15 months and one is a great sleeper while the other is a light sleeper and was waking up 2 and 3 times a night wanting us to pick him up. We eventually, with the help of our pediatrician, got him to sleep through the night by moving him to another room and teaching him to put himself to sleep. We did this by putting him in his crib at night while he was awake but drowsy. He would cry once we left. We would let him cry for 3 minutes and go in for 1 minute to pat and shush him. We slowly increased the amount of time between our visits. It only took 40 minutes the first night and he slept through the entire night by himself! This was when he was 11 months old. He slept through the night and would go down without a peep until recently. He was sick for a bit and got used to me cuddling him so we are working on it again. He did sleep last night all night for the first time in a few weeks, so I think we are back on track. :) I think the biggest thing is that they learn how to put themselves to sleep. Once they master that, then it is easier for them to do it in the middle of the night and not need your help.
As far as your daughter wanting a bottle - every kid is different. She may not be ready to give up a midnight meal but the bottle may also be her comfort item that she isn't willing to part with! For us, my son's comfort item was us picking him up and cuddling! My mom crocheted a blanket for our boys to sleep with. It has holes in it so I don't have to worry about any suffocation issues. They grew pretty attached to it and it really helps comfort them if they wake up. Around a year old is when babies get really attached to things. I think it's important to try and get rid of the bottle so that won't be the item they attach to!
Hope this helps!

They may be twins, but they're still going to develop a little differently, and she may not be ready to give up the "mid-night snack" night-time bottle yet.

Try giving her mylicon before she goes to bed, and or put some of it and some cereal in the bottle with the milk/formula.

Just some initial thoughts.

I couldnt get on my other one I had to make a new one.. thanks for all the advice.. But I dont just let her cry I give her a bottle but its not that she is hungry she doesnt drink her bottle when i give it to her she taste it then goes back to sleep. she will wake up around 3am for that.

B.,

I have a similar problem. My boy twins just turned 3 and they both share a room. One is a great sleeper and the other one is a very light sleeper and dreams oftem. I don't have the bottle problem, but just that one twin sometimes wakes the other one up. I bought a sound machine and I found this helps. They eventually get used to one another. I wish I had another bedroom so I could split them up.

As far as the bottle problem goes I wouldn't give in to give her formula. I would continue the water or nothing at all. My girlfriend used to keep a sippy cup of water in her son's crib and when he woke up he would drink water and put himself back to sleep. Evenutally he outgrew the water all together.

Being a mom is the hardest job in the world and these little situations can make a person crazy! Be firm with the bottle and hopefully it will be a matter of days before she doesn't demand a bottle. I am sure it is a teething issue as well. Good luck!