I am 27 years old, my husband is about to turn 32. We have 4 wonderful children, 3 boys and 1 girl.ther ages are 7,5,3, and 17months. I recently started to ovulate after two years( because I breastfed), I honestly feel overwheled most of the time with my kids I mean I love them and all but I feel that 4 is enough for me, my husband wants to have one more child but in the future. I dont want to go on BC becuase of all the sideaffects that I hear, he doesnt want any work done on him and condoms is still a risk of pregnancy I mean thats how we had our last child.I adore my kids dont get me wrong but I just feel that I am good with 4. I feel that I dont enjoy them like I should.Also our economic situation is hard sometimes that we dont have enough for diapers.etc.. please if anyone has any advice onwhat i should do.
I've heard great things about the Mirena IUD from several friends that have it. No side effects, periods all but disappear, no worries. Also, not all people have any side effects from birth control pills. I've been on them a total of about 25 years with no side effects. Even if I had minor side effects, an unplanned baby is a BIGGER side effect.
Honey just becauser your young it doesn't matter your a mom that say's she is done with having kids that's all that need's to be said.I'm going on 31 with 3 kids had my first at 23 my last at 29.I feel fulfilled when I had my last baby placed in my arms after delivering her I knew my family was fulfilled.I use a non hormonal BC the VCF hubby uses no condoms doesn't want to get fixed & i'm not ready for a life changeing surgery.There are many weeks that go by because he refuses to let me use my BC he feels that we are married & should have free of BC sex I don't really I don't because my body can't hold another pregnancy so I refuse to be intimate with him since he just doesn't get it
I'm in the opposite situation. We have 3 children and I could see us having one more. Hubby says he's D-O-N-E! So, in my opinion it's up to him to take care of the birth control - whether temporary (condoms) or permanent (vastectomy).
I don't think you should have another child if you don't want one. There are many kinds of birth control out there that are not-hormonal. I've heard the Mirena IUD is a good choice. It lasts 5 years and isn't supposed to affect future fertility.
You need to talk to your doctor about options. Then, talk to your husband. Tell him how overwhelmed you are. How, despite how much you love your children, you feel your family is complete. Not to mention the fact that, by the time you're 50 your youngest should be OUT of the house!
An IUD would definitely give you a few years to think about anything permanent. Once you decide to go that route, there is another option than tubal ligation: Essure. Very small coils are inserted into your tubes and scar tissue forms around them blocking the way. It's an outpatient procedure. You can research it more at http://www.essure.com. I'll probably go that route when I know I'm done.
I agree, talk to your doctor about birth control, the symptoms may not be as bad as you think. Plus, if you are firmly against/can't afford birth control for you, I would advise charting your temperature to identify when you are ovulating (thermometer=less than 10 bucks). I have been doing that and using an ovulation testing kit, too, and the temperature thing is pretty accurate, believe it or not!
While researching your option you should look up Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome. It's better to have all information before making a decision when it comes to something this permanent.
http://www.tubal-reversal.net/post_t...n_syndrome.htm
http://posttuballigationsyndrome.blogspot.com/
http://members.tripod.com/~steriliza...mtoms_PTS.html
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/ma...ticlekey=51216
http://www.steadyhealth.com/post_tub...me_t58478.html
I know there are many women who have tubal ligations and have no problems afterward. I suspect there are many more who DO have problems, but don't realize the connection.
If you are hesitant to get your tubes tied, check out the IUD's. They are over 99% effective and you don't to have to worry about them. I got the Paraguard IUD after my second child because I didn't want the hormones. I love it! The only side effect is a heavier period and thats it! Talk to your gyno though....there are a lot of options out there in place of an invasive surgery!
You need some serious discussions with hubby; plus, you should make an appt for a consultation with your OB/GYN (include hubby) to discuss your BC options -- the advantages, disadvantages, and side effects of each method. Then you can make an informed decision about what is best for you and your family. All forms of bc can have side effects, but most women don't have any problems at all. I was on the pill for many years with no problems; also had my tubes tied after my 3rd (medical reasons made it necessary) and I've had no side effects from that.
Getting yoru tubes tied is permanent. You might want to consider an IUD or talk to the Dr about other non-permanent options. Maybe once the kids are a little older you will want to have another, maybe not. You should definately discuss this with your husband! If cost is a factor, look for a planned parenthood in your area. They can probably help with some lower cost options. the birth control pill has come a long way - you might want to try it. There are many women that use it that don't suffer the sideaffects.
