Tubal Reversal After Two Complicated Pregnancies...

When i had my last i almost dies(i hemmoraged(sp)really bad and needed emergency surgery)I was told by my dr's not to have anymore and since dh already had the big V done i didn't need my tubes done....i have thought about wanting another one but i just couldn't risk my life again for another child.I have 3healthy happy children.Do i still have the urge but i think back to what happened with Dennis and it passes.To be honest..personally if it was me,i couldn't risk it.2complicated pregnancy,maybe this one would be normal or maybe it could be worst than the last one....
i'm sorry i'm no help..but good luck to you
J.

I've heard of Dr's reccommending tubals while doing a cesarean, and I always think it is reprehensible. A person simply is not thinking clearly while they are having surgery! If it had been suggested as something you should consider during the pregnancy, then that would be appropriate. But to reccommend it at that point--especially since you had the strong possibility that the child being born at that point would not make it--completely WRONG.

Anyway...from what I understand, pre-eclampsia becomes less likely with advancing age. Did you have pre-eclampsia both times?

If you really want to have another child and your husband is on board, I would encourage you to get the tubal reversed and go for it. But I'd also encourage you to make sure you are on top of your nutrition and exercise prior to pregnancy and throughout. There is some evidence that exercise, vitamin C, and vitamin D may all have a role in preventing pre-eclampsia, though some women do everything right (as much as is humanly possible) and still struggle with complications. But at least if you are healthy and eating well you know that you did your best and your baby has the best shot.

Hugs & good luck.

BTW, I have 4 kids....so I understand that "urge." ;-)

Progressive eclampsia is a big problem, both for any child you might carry, and for you. I understand the biological urge to have more, but if I were you, I'd be thankful for the two you have, and your own health to care for them.

I look at my two and wish I could have a third, but it's more important for them to have their mother around than to have a third sibling.

I'm really sorry your doctor scared you into doing something like that. If I were you, I would go with your instincts. If you are willing to have another pregnancy and are able to handle bed rest or anything else like that which could help carry to term, then I don't see why you shouldn't. Doctors do NOT have all the answers! They are, in fact, HIGLY fallible humans who happen to have medical training - that does not make them better or smarter than us. They do not live your life, they cannot feel what your instincts are guiding you toward.

By the way, my sister had severe pre-eclampsia with my first nephew - he was only 3 lbs., 14 oz. and that was 17 1/2 years ago. Her second son was over 8 lbs. and she carried him to 40 weeks without a single issue. He's now 11 years old. Two years ago, she gave birth to a very healthy baby girl without complications. She's again pregnant and having a lot of issues, but they're probably more due to her having undiagnosed (until now) diabetes - the doctor is fairly certain she had it before pregnancy but didn't know about it.

So having eclampsia issues once is NOT a guarantee of future issues!

I would talk to your Dr. Talk to a couple of Dr's. get all of the facts. I had pre eclampsia w/ the first and they said it usually only happens w/ the first, back problems and bed rest, any my second was wonderful. I had my 2nd earlier than we wanted but I got those urges and she has been the best blessing I could have ever recieved. I thank God for her every day. I have always always believed in the gut instinct. I think God put it there for a purpose to lead us in the direction that we are supposed to go. My husband's mom, had 4 children youngest 10, eldest 20 at fourty four yrs old w/ an abusive husband and got pregnant with with Scott. The Dr's told her to terminate it and she refused. Where would I be now if she listened to them. I am not telling you to risk your life. You do have 2 kids to think about. But get all of the facts from several Dr's and see how your heart feels. I think that is the only way to make a good sound decision.
Best of luck and Merry Christmas
Diane

Did they just tie them or laser them off? I know my mom had hers done like 10 years ago and they lasered them off just curious if they tied yours or did the same thing...But honestly my first pregnancy I ended up on bed rest baby was breech whole pregnancy and I have a muscle condition called hypermobility syndrome and with that i had a big chance of premature labor sooner with each baby I have lucky I was 37 weeks 3 days when my water broke 6 days earlier than my planned c-section...All very nerve-racking but we intend on having another but my situation isn't as dangerous as yours I would maybe ask another doctors opinion see what they say, best of luck :-)

I can relate to the urge of wanting another child. I think just about everyone goes through it at some point or another. You have to work through this. There were solid reasons behind your making the decision of having the tubal done...and those reasons probably haven't really changed. What HAS changed is you. WE all "forget" the pain of childbirth, and we gloss over the fear and panic that we experience when we have a baby sooo early. You were blessed and your child is here, alive and thriving. It is natural that you feel like you want to have another, but you need to really think about what that would do to your family...how does your husband feel about you risking not only your LIFE but the life of ANOTHER baby? How would you take care of your childern if you had to be in bed throughout your pregnancy? If not you...who would step in? What would you miss? How would you feel if you lost a baby? What would you do if one of your chidren got hurt and you had to choose between taking care of yourself or them? If you managed to get your tubal reversed what happens if you don't get pregnant or miscarry? I guess these questions are a bit harsh, but my Sister in law just had a baby at 29 wks and lost the twin. my other Sister in law lost a baby before she managed to have one healthy happy little guy 2 mo. early. Both of them almost died in the process. Think long and hard about what would happen to your children & husband...then think about how selfish you would be to risk it all because you have an urge that you can direct towards the children you have been blessed with. It's not about what you want...it's about what you HAVE!! Count your blessings, be happy with what you have, talk to a counsler if all else fails. Good luck and happy hoildays!

PS I had eclampsia with all three of my pregnancies...so anyone that tells you it only happens once...is really lucky and their doctors don't have all the facts.