Been there, done that!!
With my first child, a son, I developed pre-eclampsia at around 31 weeks. I was hospitalized and given steroids for the baby to develop. I delivered him at 33 weeks. He was very healthy and only spent a week in NICU.
When I got pregant again, of course they monitored me closely, but they can't keep it from happening. I developed pre-eclampsia again, this time at 28 weeks.
She had to be delivered by c-section at 29 weeks. She was 2 lb 12 oz. She was also healthy, she just needed to grow. She spent 31 days in the NICU.
No one can know if you will have pre-eclampsia again, it is more common to have it if you had it before, but many women have it with their first child and don't have it with the next.
If you do have it again, chances are you will deliver earlier than the last. My doctor told me that with each pregancy, the pre-eclampsia seems to come quicker, if you have it more than once.
My doctor did tell me that since I had it with both of my first two pregnancies, that I would almost certainly have it with a third. She suggested that I have my tubes tied after # 2, and I did. ( I have a step-daugher as well so we have 3 anyway.) With my second child I entered the hospital with a BP of 220/160. My problem was that even with medication, they were unable to stablize my BP and it was affecting her. I had a rough time with # 2 but she is completely healthy at 4 years old now. I would not do it differently if I could.
I know you wanted uplifting advice but you need to know there is an increased chance you will have it again. I suggest you NOT focus on that "possibility" and do what is best for your family. If that is having another child, then go for it. Be prepared for an early delivery, but focus on the baby, not the chance of pre-eclampsia. There is no test to say if you will have it again, just make sure your doctor knows your history and be sure you go to all of your visits. If you experience any of the effects from before ( I had headaches and saw spots when my BP got too high ) go to the doctor immediately. Make sure your doctor stays on top of things,checking BP and urine proteins.
Never the less, you may want to discuss your individual situation with your doctor just to see what he/she says. Everyone is different. I know I am glad I had # 2. Not having another child, even with the increased chance of problems, was never an option for me.
Good luck!!!!
Jessi