Okay this is the age old tale of over involved mother in law. My husband and I have roommates they are our best friends and they help us with our kids. The problem is they are expecting a baby soon and we are expecting our 3rd child not long after.
My home is large but we all admit this is going to make it a bit crowded and our friends have agreed to move sometime next year.My mother in law doesn't think this is soon enough and thinks they should move before my baby is born. Everytime we talk to her she ask when are the moving. It's getting really iritating. I understand her point but how do I make her understand our side of things and basically butt out?
I kind of took your guys advice. I went at it from the money angle. I reminded her that I can't work until after the baby is born and they are giving us money to stay here. Then I simple told her if she was willing to fill in the funds and babysitting help that they were giving us we would ask them to leave. She hasn't brought the topic up since. Good luck with your MIL"S.
I would not beat around the bush with her. I would just tell her that this is between you and your husband. (Especially if you don't want to discuss it.) My MIL is the same way. I just have to tell her strait. She usually gets mad, but gets over it. I also have to communicate with my husband when she says things to me b/c she goes to him and asks him the same questions trying to divide us in our decisions. Good luck
It sounds just like my MIL... "well that's not what I would do". I hate when my MIL tries to butt in and put her two sense where it doesn't belong. I put my foot down with her and told her how things are going to be and that if she didn't like it tough. (a little nicer than that, but that's the main point) She has totally backed off. She realized that she can no longer control my husband because of me and has basically stopped talking to me. I totally prefer it that way. Good Luck with your "monster in law"
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Be blunt. That seems to be the only way that will work. Tell her that they are moving out next year. Hopefully she will get the idea and back off. By being blunt I do not mean in a nasty sort of way, but just be very frank with her. She will get the picture.
It sounds like you already have your answers. As long as your friends pose no danger to your children, I don't see what the trouble is. You have to put up with your mother-in-law, so I would just listen to her views on things, and take them into concideration, and then, only you as the parent, can make the final decision.
Mother-in-laws - why are they so medly? Every time I think about my ex-mother-in-law I just want to drive to South Carolina. Thank God i'm saved. As a mother-in-law myself. I don't butt in my daughter's relationship. I learned from my ex and wow I couldn't believe the things she was saying and basically telling her son to do to me. And then speaking to my grandmother, her mother in law did the same thing, at age 21 she told her son to beat my grandmother and he did just that until she got away. With mines it only happen for 2 1/2 months and then i got away. But the bible clearly states that when you marry that you are to forsake your mother and father and cling to your wife/husband.
