Toddler Tantrums - Grayslake,IL

You have to have a total willingness to leave when you are out in public. Cart full of groceries left in the aisle and everything. It's not that it will magically stop the behavior, but other people in the store will sure as heck appreciate it, and it will ultimately deter behavior. At home my tantruming child gets shut in his room (which is safe) until he can come out and behave like a real person. Yesterday he was in and out probably 7 or 8 times.

And honestly, you just have to wait a little. Three year olds are terrible. Much worse than two. They can really commit to the tantrum : ) Assuming you consistently respond to the tantrum calmly, but with clear direct expectations about what is and isn't acceptable behavior, you will have a pleasant child again when he's 4.

Finally, to pre-empt, please don't resort to spanking. Heaven knows that I want to wack my kid when he's screaming like that, but if he doesn't get to hit me, I don't get to hit him.

Good luck.

be a strict mom..i've always been more strict than most think i should be (including my own strict mom), and my house is ran off a 3 chances rule or no warnings....period, after 3 chances of doing wrong they get punished, after that every offense is automatic punishment (within reason) telling me no is a BIG no no, slapping, hitting, stuff like that.

i had a pretty little time out chair, that my daughter would have to sit in facing the wall, if she fought it, i would "seat belt" her in so eventually she'd learn she WILL do what she's told. her fits would include screaming, hitting, pulling her hair OUT, screaming, banging her head on the wall, so one day i wrapped her up in a blanket like a swaddled baby, and sit and hold her so she couldn't 'fight back' turn on the tv, and ignore her (she thought i was ignoring her).

i also am a big fan of EMBARASSMENT during her 2 and 3 year she would throw those nice little fits in walmart, we'd be shopping and would have stuff in the cart she would need and want, for every minute she spent screaming, was another item i would put back on the shelf, one day we got down to the LAST item and she finally stopped, then asked can i have my stuff back? .....of course not! told her that her consequence was to not take anything home for her that day and had to put her last item on the shelf. she TRIED throwing her weight in the floor like a lot of kids do, when she did that, i scared her cause she expected me to cushion her blow, i did a bit, (enough she didn't actually get hurt) but still let her hit enough to get her attention, that was the last of that. one day she sat down in wal-mart and started kicking and screaming for that barbie, so i followed suit, she said, mommy!!! your too big for that! i told her so are you, when you stop, i'll stop...now all i have to do is look at her just right and sheknows not to do it.

she told me not to long ago that she fell out of her chair at school for leaning back and has a headache from the hit.....asked her do you expect me to feel sorry for you? she said yes, i told her, i don't and maybe next time she wont do it again.

i can be mean....but the kids dont run my house.

Restrictions - if my 3yo DD has a tantrum I give her the opportunity to chill on her own, or I start removing privileges from her...obviously things she loves to do, play with, etc. and keep it relative to the time frame. GOOD LUCK! I heard there's no more terrible 2s it's terrible 3s now! Ain't that the truth! :)

For our little guy, being tired will set him up for more tantrums/emotional outbursts. Offering choices, rather than saying (if at all possible) can help. Letting him know ahead of time what you expect is also good but keep it simple. And follow through with your threats (if you say, I expect you to sit in the shopping cart while I pick up some groceries. but if you yell and scream we will leave the store---then leave the store, groceries in the cart as is, if he starts hollering). Give him words and echo his feelings--that does not mean giving in; just say I know you're frustrated and angry that you have to stop playing so you can wash your hands. Sometimes, using the same level of distress to echo those emotions can help, but don't ramp it up or be patronizing.

Most tantrums are triggered when you say"no" about something. If you EVER give in, it reinforces the belief that he will get what he wants eventually---all he has to do is keep upping the drama. The best way to stop them is to ignore them. Turn your back and leave the room, if possible(they really want to see you paying attention).If you're in the store, just turn your back. Other moms will surely understand (and probably smile or give you a thumbs up). I've had kids get up off the floor, follow me to another room, then throw themselves back down on the floor and start over---too funny! It's really very basic. Kids do what works, and they stop when it doesn't work.

I have perfected the LOOK. They know when mom starts to count, they better straighten up because I do follow through unlike dad so they just keep going.

1. it's all about the follow through, don't threaten or tell them to hush repeatedly and not do anything because they will continue.
2. at home i do discipline my little one. She has a time out corner with a chair just her size, she gets her little hand patted, and if she wants to fall out she get to go lay down.
3. Count her down either holding up my fingers or outloud.

In the end, the tantrums may last a few seconds or get shut down quickly.
4. Make an odd noise and she stops.
5. Perfect it at home if you want it to work in public.

Check out some of these disciplining tips that may give you some lead as what may help your situation....good luck!!

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