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Our 27 month old has recently taken to hitting us when he gets frustrated. We put him in a time out when he does it. I really didn't think he would even get the concept of a "time out" at such a young age, but this passed weekend, he hit me and I said, "You are going in time-out for hitting Mom." He sat and cried for the 2 minutes and I went over there and said, "Jacob, look at Mom. Do you know why you are in time-out?" He cried, "Yea." I asked him why and he said, "Mama, hit." So, it seems he knew why. I asked him to say sorry to me and give me a hug and he did. The next night, in the bath, he raised his arm to hit me again and I said, "Jacob. Don't hit. What happens when you hit Mama?" He lowered his hand and said, "time out." and didn't hit me.
I almost died. I know for a fact that I don't think Jacob understands a lot of what we tell him, but you may be surprised what they pick up. Even with the speech delay - she may understand...you know?
If you don't feel you are ready for the time-outs - OR if you don't want to use that sort of discipline - I would suggest taking her little arm when she hits you and tell her. "No". Then, show her how to use "nice hands" or "gentle hands" or whatever. Maybe by actually showing her, she will realize it.
Good luck and you aren't alone in the terrible-two's. Our little guy is there RIGHT with your daughter. Oh, how fun. lol.
T.