Hello there Mommies.
I need some advise.
My husband and I currently live in LA, not Beverly Hills but, not the worst part either. Husband was just offered a position with his current employer in Arrowhead, CA. This is close to two hours away from where we live. Ok, so here's my dilemma… he would like to move to Arrowhead or perhaps Hesperia and I'm not sure on wanting to go. I'd love to move into a bigger home (we've outgrown our home already and expecting one in September) but, I wanted to go as far as maybe Corona or Mira Loma but, ideally would love Covina though the houses are still a little on the high side there. I'd love to get out of LA since my oldest will be starting kinder next year and I know LAUSD is not the best (no offence intended).
So is moving to Arrowhead or Hesperia a step up from living in LA??? Are the schools that much better or is this a very far sideway move???
Here in LA I have everything close by, best hospitals, shopping, plenty of activities for the kids but, I have a small house, very little yard, lots of stairs and currently work full time. Hum… Hesperia and Arrowhead – I would be a stay at home Mom (big plus), I'd have a bigger house and a huge yard but, limited access to everything, I'd be far from the rest of my family (in LA), the weather will be really hot in the summer (Hesperia) and snows in the winter (lots in Arrowhead) and really I'm not trying to be silly but, there's rattlesnakes in both places!!! Now Arrowhead I believe would be "cleaner" but, I don't know if I can do "Town Life" or if I'd like my kids growing up that way either. Oh, big downer, both myself and my 2 1/2 year old get car sick (though I know how to control this a little) and naturally Arrowhead has lots of curvy roads.
Oh, my I need some help. Family says not to go because they don't want us to be far but, if it's best for my kids I'll do it.
Not too add too much pressure but, husband has until tomorrow morning to accept or decline this offer. ----- Thank you to all willing to help!!!
I lived in Riverside/Moreno Valley for a long time and ALWAYS wanted to move to Arrowhead, just for the snow! I say go!
Your husband has just until tomorrow morning and you are just posting this now???? You should have posted this weeks ago! Nothing like the last minute. Okay, so here are my two cents - MOVE!!! I assume your husband is the breadwinner, and you need to go where the money is. I assume he is getting a promotion and a pay raise? It's only a couple hours away, and I'm sure you will be near things - maybe not as close as you are to them now, but I'm sure there will still be everything within driving distance to Arrowhead or Hesperia. I'm sure there are good schools there - just do your homework. You should do a post and title it "Arrowhead and Hesperia residents" and ask about the good places in town to live and where the good schools are. Every town usually has good schools, so don't worry about that. You are obviously very close with your family, but most people in your situation would LOVE to move a couple hours away from family!!! It's just a couple of hours, so you can still see your family often. Your husband's career is the most important, so definately move and do what's best for him and his professional future.
Move.
2 years ago my husband got a better job offer, 12 hours and 3 states away from where we were. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, I was a young 22 years old when I moved from my hometown (born and raised), I had just had my first child who was only 8 months old when we left. I will never forget how hard it was taking him away from my parents, they will never get to see my kids grow up. We were living in an appartment, with the two of us sharing 1 car for both of our jobs. We now own our own home with a huge yard, have 2 cars (obviously we are still paying on these things),and I have been a SAHM since we moved here.
It was the best choice for our son to move, so we did. I don't regret it now. Not to say it was easy, some days I still get depressed and miss my hometown. Will a bigger house be better for your kids? Being a SAHM? Weather you can get used to, your family will only be a few hours away...you can still visit often. Of course they don't want you to go, but it is not up to them. You have your own family now to take care of.
Hi M.
I life in Ireland so I don't have a clue about the area.
You need to answer just one question, would this move improve your family's quality of life.?
If yes,go for it,all the rest is just details. You will regret it if you don't accept.
If no, then stay where you are.
Best of luck
B.
Hi M. - Covina is a LONG way from Arrowhead. I have some friends there and worked there in college....a little older homes but not the huge space it sounds like you are looking for. Although you could get a huge house in Hesperia, it is really not that nice. They built so much up there and nothing could sell and housing projects went bust. I have heard horrible things about the schools. Arrowhead is a "town" you are right and would take an adjustment....although beautiful and expensive I have a friend that works in Arrowhead but lives in Rancho Cucamonga and loves it. It wouldbe 35-40 minutes closer than Covina, has large house options, some great schools and your husband would head "up the hill" everyday (it's still a pretty long drive though). It seems like there really isn't a lot of time to weigh the options for you.
Last year we moved from Riverside county to Eastern Washington - the hardest part of the move has been leaving my family (mom, sisters, cousins) and friends who I spent time with multiple times a week. The weather change has been ok, different but ok (snowy winters instead of 110 degree summers). We are actually now living in less space, and downsized our cars. I just got back from a visit to SanDiego, and although it was HOME and it felt so good to be there, when I got back to Washington I was SO relaxed and enjoyed the quiet and slower pace. I don't regret the move at all, it's been good for our kids, and I am now making friends, and when the weather warms up again I am looking foward to lots of hikes in the woods (you'll get to do that in Arrowhead too!). Honestly, I think the biggest plus for your family is that you would be a stay at home mom, after working in several day cares I can tell you that kids are really meant to be at home with their mommies. Slower pace of life sometimes bores me, but mostly gives me time to enjoy my surroundings!
My stepdaughter has a beautiful home in Corona and loves it there.
Honestly to me its a no brainer. Move! No offense but I am stunned at how much houses cost in LA. Some of the tiniest houses cost more than the hugest houses around me here in Pittsburgh. I just can't see how the environment would make up for living like this. Especially when you have a family to raise. Your whole quality of life will be so much better.
