C.O.
J.:
How long are you going to be here?
What are your interests?
Are you driving here or flying?
I will assume you will have a rental car...I would STRONGLY suggest that you use the metro for DC.
How many kids?
Ages of kids?
http://www.wmata.com/rail/maps/map.cfm?
You can purchase tickets in advance to make your travel around the city easier.
DC:
the National Mall
http://www.nps.gov/nama/planyourvisit/maps.htm
This will include The Jefferson Memorial, Iwo Jima, Vietnam Veterans Memorial...sorry - you can't do a White House tour...thank 0bama for that one....and all the "representatives on the hill - no matter what party they are with!), Tide Water, Lincoln Memorial, Washington Monument (not sure if it is open again), Arlington National Cemetery....in this alone - you can spend at least 2 to 3 days.
The Smithsonian Museums
The Spy Museum (not free)
http://spymuseum.com/
National Harbor - Oxen Hill, MD/DC...lots to do..restaurants like Ketchup...
http://nationalharbor.com/events/upcoming/
Inner Harbor - Baltimore
http://innerharbor.com/
I would do Pennsylvania - Gettysburg if you are into history. Which is about 1.5 hours from DC.
Virginia:
We have a ton of stuff here.
Udvar Hazy Air & Space Museum - parking is $14 - entrance is free. This is a FULL day experience as well, unless you rush through museums.
Bull Run
Manassas
Thomas Jefferson's house- Monticello - it's about a 2.5 hour drive from DC and well worth it.
http://www.monticello.org/site/visit
Hope this helps get you started!!! If you would like my contact information in case you get lost while you are here - please send me a PM and I will give you my contact information!