Is around 8 when kids get all hormonal? My normally sweet easy going well behaved(mostly) boy is turning into a tween. He is the victim in everything. He never gets anything he wants and if you took his word for it he is very deprived. I try to take it in stride but some days I can't take the angst.. Is this the age boys get moody? How do you deal with it. He never asked for anything before and if he did and you told him no that would be the end of it now its such a dramatic thing its funny and irritating. I ALWAYS "yell" at him and not his brother,he never gets anything from the store, he has to to everything around the house...my middle son is wild wild wild so he is always getting "yelled" at(I do not yell so when he says that its ridiculously funny) he has more clothes than anyone in the house and I don't think just because i pick up milk or whatever I have to buy him a treat just becase he came with me. All he has to do is let the dog out and his brother can't hook her up or he would too. I have to go through this 2 more times...HOW?
I do not think this is a BOY thing at all. My daughter is 8 and let me tell you, I can't do anything right. Everything is my fault. She can't find HER stuff it's my fault, her water bottle leaks (heaven for bid I said it shouldn't leak) it's my fault. LOL you are not alone!
I've got O. of those at my house too.
I got REALLY rebuked for calling him "babydoll" the other day! LOL
SO grown up, put-upon and independent....until he needs a drink or something, then apparently he has broken arms and legs.
Geez... I thought that "I" was the worst mother in the whole wide world!! Mine is 10, and sometimes I wonder what happened to my sweet little boy. I was talking with his teacher the other day and she said all the boys in her class were trying out the attitude thing. Sometimes he makes me want to pull my hair out! If he pulls that stuff in public though-- I play the "I can embarass you like you've never been embarassed before" card. He usually straightens right up. If he's home -- I usually just walk away when he starts to argue. Take the energy out of the room.
Ah, your child will need to stand in line behind my 14 year old son - as he is the most victimized child in the world!!!! He does more chores than ANY of his friends, he has less privileges/electronics/money than ANY of his friends, he has less freedom than ANY of his friends. Etc., etc., blah blah blah. - because at that point I just tune him out.
Yeah, it is hormones, societal influence, and budding self awareness, all of that warped into one angst ridden, formerly sweet and cuddly, little boy.
I just agree with my son and tell him how mistreated he is what with his house, and pets, nice clothing, ample food, air conditioning, freedom, unconditionally love,Etc., etc., blah blah blah. - because at that point He just tunes me out.
I think miss the 5 year old version of my son the most. {Sigh}
God Bless
Happiness is a choice.
Sometimes we are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
If you are determined to be miserable, you will be miserable guaranteed.
It's the stuff bumper stickers are made of, but it's true none the less.
Child just needs a bit of perspective and maybe some one on one quality time to talk things out with you.
If push comes to shove, my son will get an attitude once in awhile and after talking with him has failed to make an impression, I'll tell him
"If you want attitude, I can 'out attitude' you any day of the week with one hand tied behind my back. I choose not to go there, because it's a nasty place to be." And then I give him 10 min to feel sorry for himself in his room and by then he'd better be over it.
We haven't have an attitude problem in a very long time but he's only 12 and I've got 6-8 more years to go. I knock on wood and hope they won't go badly.
Make him count his blessings.
Seriously, make a huge list of chores and show him how he gets off easy, and how much he is served daily by his family members. Maybe it's about time that his household contributions doubled.
He's old enough to donate clothes and toys to the less fortunate and to learn to be thankful for what he has.
I have so been there with my first. I have made it a point to teach my children to be thankful for what they have and happy for what others have. It is easy when you put it into a faith context. I no longer purchase toys for any of my children unless it is their birthday or Christmas. Clothes are purchased on a need only basis. We have practiced being happy for others and how to complement others on the things they have. You don't have to go through this with all your children, you just have to teach them before they show signs of envy.
You must have my son ! LOL ! Except mine is 11 but it seems this has been going on FOREVER. He thinks he is the only one to ever get in trouble, the only one without certain items, the only one who never gets to do anything, go anywhere, etc. He thinks I am ALWAYS yelling at him even when my voice is calm and low key. I think it just has to be hormones. But if we have to go through several more years of this I don't know if I will make it LOL !
prozac ... lots and lots of prozac. for them ROFL
I hate to tell you this ... but wait till 8th grade. WORST AGES EVER. Meanest creatures on the planet are 8th grade girls .... second meanest creatures on the planet are 8th grade boys.
It does get better though. Just keep on with the rules you've already established, and continue to be the parent. And as annoying and frustrating as the attitude can be ... ignore it. It's the equivalent of a 2 year olds temper tantrum.
can you take him to the soup kitchen to help out ? it would be very eye opening
