I had a really rough experience with CafeMom when I first became a mother. I didn't care for the micro-groups, all fixated on having only their own opinions handed back to them. I've been in child care too long to think there is only *one* right way to parent.
A few years ago, I was on a listserv for a parenting-based yahoo group which I choose not to name, out of the fact that these people do live in my community. And then one on unschooling. While the unschooling one was more for attaining information, and was 'okay', the specific-parenting type one was so sanctimonious and the moderator had some pretty specific ideas about a theory which was rather open to interpretation. I didn't like how people who didn't do what she did were "put in their place", and apparently, according to her, she was willing to share her 'knowledge' and 'educated' a lot of strangers in how wrong and offensive their rather benign comments were.Unsubscribed!
I have had great luck on the boards of a site for people dealing with loved ones who suffer from Borderline personality disorder. But I think that comes from so many of us having had so much counseling.:) And trust me, if you don't have BPD people in your life, you don't want it. Far more drama than on this site. Over there, people would trade you for the naggy mother-in-laws that I hear about here!
I have to admit, I have a weakness when it comes to trolls. Esp. the obvious ones. I don't like them, and I'm not particularly nice to them. However, I did get a little comeuppance recently, and will just steer clear of their posts. And I do get a bit uppity about those people who just seem to have amazingly ridiculous problems I would give my left arm to have. I guess this just makes me work harder at trying to be a good person and keep my mouth/keyboard shut!
We love you, B..