Teenagers & Dating

"First love" is the toughest for them to get over. The only thing you can do is remind your son that there are other girls out there, and that maybe some day he and this girl will "find" themselves together, but for right now the timing isn't "right". Remind him that they are both young, and should enjoy their teenage years. If they truly love each other then maybe someday things will work out for them, but right now they need to take the time to "experience" life and "make sure" that they do truly love each other. Be supportive and try to find other ways to distract him from thinking about her. Good luck!

well 14 is a normal age to be into that. just go with the flow and keep an eye on things. Try not to be negative about it. You could let him know that at 14 it always seems like love but it vary rarely is the lasting kind.

HI C., I put a rule in my house because I didn't want to have my daughter dealing with sex at and early age but that back fired. Our rule was she couldn't date before the age of 16. Than she started dated her first boyfriend and they broke up it took about another month of supporting her while she cried and talked about her feeling. Than after the first month of their break up she was ready to move on. She started dating another guys until she realised she did have the right feeling for him so she broke up with him. The next day her first boyfriend Jack wanted her back and now they are together.
All I can say is just talk to him and lesson to him. Again make him busy so he wont have to much time to dwell on it. Pam

Remind him that he is young yet, and there are plenty more fish in the sea. Or try getting him heavily involved in his classes, hobbies, or activities to get his mind off of girls for the moment. Once he picks up his self esteem, he'll find his way through the heartbreak. As for you, brace yourself, it isn't the first or the last. Good luck and God Bless!

I hope this is helpful, but I have a different situation. I have a cousin who is now 16 and she talks to me about EVERYTHING. She and her girlfriend broke up and it was devastating. They remained friends, but then life goes on and her ex got a new girlfriend. Okay, so, teenage life is overly dramatic.

I tried to be supportive, because while we know that high school relationships rarely last, and are rarely forever kind of love, it is real love for them. I told her that sometimes love isn't enough, and it would be great if it was, but relationships are hard work. And it's okay to love someone, but you have to realize that they don't always love you back and it's not because there is anything wrong with you, you just aren't right for them right now. Maybe in the future you will be, but right now, they need to live and grow without you.

I think that I helped her, because she kept talking to me about it and kept looking for support. I talked to her as an adult, and I think that is what helped her listen the most. I also try to point out the good things in her life. Not list them all and overwhelm her, just pick one or two that can get her mind off of it. Distraction is really helpful too.

Good luck

I have found, that in this situation, being open and supportive is the best course of action. The worst thing that can happen is that he will be afraid to talk to you about it, knowing that you won't/don't approve and therefore, will have to start keeping secrets. If you are worried about the dates and what goes on during them, then be more active in where they go on their dates. Help him choose more populated areas to avoid any 'serious' situations. I read this article in Parenting Magazine that said that the hormones released during puberty provide more emotions and over-emotional reactions. If he says that 'I love her', let him know that you believe him and just be there for him. I've also found that alternatives (other hobbies and pastimes) are the best distraction. I work with teenagers everyday and I've made it my job to earn their trust. If they can talk to you, then they will feel more inclined to listen when you talk.

he is gonna love and hate just like we did when we was young maybe the girls mom is cool, so advise him to just not to put all his eggs in one basket and maybe you and him can have a guys night out like a basket ball game or baseball surprise him pull your son closer to you like you would do any man your in love with except your his mom.....Good luck

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listen and let him tell you how he feels sometimes respond and sometimes Listen lol