Talking - Tampa,FL

My three year old son is the same way. Feel privledged as she could be the other extreme(speech delay) and then you would have something to really worry about. I must get asked "why" 100 times a day. I wouldn't worry about school as she will learn rules and social etiquette as she approaches kindergarten age. Just keep instilling her manners, such as not interuptting others and listening to what others have to say and it will all come into place.

IT IS TRUE HER OBBESSIVE TALKING HAS IT'S UPS AND DOWNS. USUALLY KIDS THAT TALK WELL AND ALOT, ALSO UNDERSTAND MORE AND ARE VERY OBSERVANT. THEREFORE, SMARTER, ADVANCED. BUT IT CAN BECOME A PROBLEM AND AS SHE GETS OLDER WILL BECOME ANNOYING TO YOU ALSO. TEACH HER NOT TO INTERUPT OR SPEAK WHEN OTHER'S ARE TALKING. TEACH HER THERE ARE TIMES TO BE QUIET AND TIMES TO SPEAK. TAKE HER TO A LIBRARY. STORY TIME IS FUN FOR THEM, YET THEY MUST BE QUIET IN THERE. START NOW AND YOU WON'T HAVE A PROBLEM LATER.

When I read your post, I had to smile because I remember the days when my son, now four, first started talking at 9 months and never stopped. My daughter, now two, started talking at 10 months and also has never stopped - in fact, she probably talks more because she has a big brother to teach her the ropes.

When my son first started pre-school at three, his teacher wanted him screened for ADHD because he talked TOO much, but my husband and I asked her to wait a bit longer to see if the daily routine of her class structure would make a difference. It did and within three weeks, he was quiet when it was appropriate. In fact, he became the teacher's favorite and the class leader because he engaged everyone in discussions and shared his observations about life openly and freely. He's very much like my husband in that way.

My son sometimes has problems with interrupting others when they're talking, especially if he's just met them, but we know it's just the excitement of meeting a new person. He thought just saying "EXCUSE ME" was an all-access pass to break into someone else's conversation, but he knows better now and that just comes with age and constant reminders.

Now, we're working with him on what NOT to ask people. He recently asked a lady in our doctor's office waiting room where her husband was, and she told him that she didn't have one. Because she had a little girl with her, that just threw him totally off (in his little mind, EVERYONE has a Mommy and Daddy) and he kept pursuing her whole life story. She was visibly irritated and I was very embarrassed. I told him that other people's lives are their business, not his and if they want to share with him, they will. It was a hard lesson for him because he's very open about sharing with others, which is actually a very good system of accountability for me and my husband. :)

At night, when he's over-stimulated, he used to babble on, but I've since told him that while Daddy and I will always listen to what he has to say, others may not all the time because it's not about how MUCH he says, but HOW and WHAT he says that will get people interested in listening to him. Now, we can actually see him THINKING before SPEAKING and it's great.

Patience, love, understanding, and guidance is how you'll get through this new and exciting time. Blessings to you and yours!

Maybe it is just the name Morgan -- I have a 5 year old talks constantly as well and her name is Morgan. I dont really have any advice other than to tune her out. My Morgan is now in Kindergarten and has been in preschool for 2 years and had no problem when the teacher started to conduct class. Just have patience I am sure eventually she will slow down. She might get in trouble a few times and that might be all it takes to curb the extra chatter.

Good Luck

My girl will be 3 next month. She started talking at around 10 months- always VERY advanced for her age. At age 1- she was at a 2 y/o language level. Now that she is almost 3- she NEVER stops. I love it though! Maybe we should get them together and they will keep each other busy and drive each other nuts w/ their own voices :)

M.

Dear S.,

Here is an idea. When your daughter tells you something. Stop her and repeat what she said and let her know that you fully understood what she said.

I took a course at a Dianetics center about communication and one of the theories regarding someone that won't stop talking is that they are feeling misunderstoof or not understood at all. I thought it was pretty simple and have used it with adults that talk non-stop.

Just remember she is little and kids go through many, many changes and most things they eventually grow out of. But having a highly communicative girl is actually a huge PLUS.

D.

Good day Sara,
Maybe have her draw out what she expressing through conversation. Make a picture of that story, idea or thought. I think it's wonderful she's so expressive and out going. Just give her time to grow out of likeing to hear her own self. She's going to be a hand full, I bet.
Good luck......

Hey S.,
I have a five year old son and he too is a talker, he was much more so when he was younger, but, as he is getting older he knows when he has to be quiet and when it is time to talk. The quiet game is great but what we did was set a timer, when I would say ok, Mommy needs 2 minutes of no talking, I would set the timer and if talked during the two minutes I would ignore him until the timer buzzed, then we made it longer.... It worked some what, I think though that the best advise, is the more time that goes by the better Morgan will be. Also more interaction with other children and adults will help too.. Maybe going to the mall, they have an indoor play area, that is GREAT! Matthew loves it, he plays and meets all kinds of kids.... Good luck!
M.

I have a daughter who is now 7. Sounds like her- extremely intelligent and has a motor mouth to this day. She learned to read by age 3 and in Pre-K they were blown away. Never sounded out or stumbled on a word as most of us do when learning to read. To this day she reads on a 5th-6th grade level- excellent comprehension skills. If you are not introducing her to reading- you might be missing out. As for the talking, I don't believe there is not much you can do at the age of 3. (Mine used to also talk in her sleep- talked so much). Still talks too much. As for the class room it was disruptive and we did have to discipline her at home for the past two years. (She settle down for a few weeks- then pick back up again- get a note or phone call- then she'll be good for another few weeks... (cycles) and leveled off eventually. She's now in 2nd grade and this is the 3rd week of school and haven't heard anything from the teacher. Usually we would get a note by now.

Hi, I'm D. and also a single mom.

Your daughter sounds like she is very smart. I think she is talking so much because it is her way of expressing herself. Being that she is so smart and advanced she probably processes things very quickly therefore she gets bored easily however talking she finds stimulating because it involves people listening and hopefully she wants them to talk back. The point is that she probably talks so much because she isn't as stimulated by other activities. Instead of trying to quiet her find other ways to try and channel her highly expressive self. The trick is to keep her challenged, redirect her focus, once you do you stimulate her quick learning process and the moment that happens she may be so intrigued in her new process that she may actually stop talking so much. She'll be too busy. The big advantage is you'll be encouraging her special skills and will continue to encourage her to be ahead of the crowd. That is how leaders are created. Good luck sounds like you have a little champ on your hands!

Hope this helps.

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My daughter does this to some extent. This time in their lives they realize they can communicate about anything and THEY DO! What I had to do was put her into her room for "quiet time" I set the kitchen timer for a specific time and when it beeped I came to get her. I would start small and increase it. Since she is in daycare maybe do it for a few minutes while you're cooking dinner. That was she has to intertain herself and she gets a little no talking time. If she talks to herself at least it's out of earshot and maybe she'll realize she doesn't need to talk all the time since there isn't anyone around. I guess it's worth a shot.

Hello S.,
I was a singe mom also, my son now is 14 and still has yet to stopped talking. :)
I used to talk to him as he was a baby, never the baby talk which is why he was also advanced in yapping. Read to him all the time and told him everything I was doing (IE: I am making a sandwich with toast from the toaster ETC.) which is one reason he got in trouble at school. Do not ever discourager her from talking. She apparently has something to say. Have you tried to sit with her no TV no Radio and just listen? Maybe try to explain to her that she needs to listen also, it will take time to teach her that. It will work if you work at it. Do not get upset or angry at her it will shut her down for the wrong reasons. I found that gentle words like �Morgan it�s time to listen not talk� or something along those lines. I do not know her, but do her words make sense, does she make complete sentences. Does she know what she is saying? Perhaps ask the day care to do the same thing there as you do at home. I believe that children now and days are taught to not talk and be quiet all the time. That�s all fine and good in school and it is a hard lesson for all of us. I believe that my son has a better understanding of how the world goes round, he�s not shy, speaks up in class and seems to be well rounded I think that is because he started speaking so young. I did a search on the web and found this, it�s for teachers but it may provide some ideas.
http://backtoschool.about.com/od/educatorscorner/a/nonver...

Good luck with your little talker. M.

Embrass this. I know parents with 3 year olds that can barely speak! Don't try to discourage, as this is her way of learning and this is the reason she is so advanced. I agree with the other response, work on her reading if she isn't already reading on her own, this will be a good way to "funnel" some of the energy.

Good luck!

Hi S.-

I have a great book for you to read. The name of the book is Personality Plus. I have a friend with a 6 year old daughter who loves to talk. She woke up her mom one morning because she was bored and needed someone to talk to. My friend read this book and it has really helped her understand her daughter and deal with the non-stop talking. I hope this can help you just as much!

C.

Good morning S.,

I also have a 3 year old (Boy) same as your daughter he never is quite,(that's normal) think on a diferent way Morgan is healthy and thats good, enjoy this stage at leat you have only one I have 2 (alexander 3, ad Ashley 1 year 6 months) but things will change and you don't notice when. Also you can buy games like if you have computer there are games like Angelina Ballerina very cute, Elmo,etc, show her how to do it and them live her alone for a short time go back check her,that will be a quite time for her to think about the games, and she will feel like big girl (she is playin alone).buy water paint give her proyects, when they turn 3 they want something new every day to learn, I now it's not easy with time, but only have one, enjoy her, I'm not single but, my husband work at night so I don't have his help same as you. Tell me how is she doing.

Good Bless your family
Y.

You will be happy to know that this is very common in 3 year old girls as their vocabulary is broadening. I just took a Child Development course. My daughter is the same way although she is almost 4 now and outgrowing it.

My daughter Morgan, who is 4, is the same way. She's not in school or daycare yet, so I can't help you there, sorry. But what I do if I need a moment of silence, which I'm sure you miss as I do, for a phone call or something I give her a piece of gum or hard candy (not very often on the gum or candy, but it is good for that real important call) or water in a cup with a curly straw. These tricks buy me some silence. Hope that helps in someway. :)