my husbands friend (brad swears...alot. every other word is the f word. my husband (ray) spoke to him and brad said he would stop. brad came over and the swearing didnt even slow down, even after my husband brought it up to him. when should i step in? what should i do? anyone else have a similar problem?
I don't have a similar problem but I think you should mention it to Brad. Maybe he will listen if he hears it from you.
hi C., i dont know how you can get brad to stop cursing... maybe make him a star chart? or give him time outs? just kidding, though you probably should talk to him yourself... that aside, i think its more important how you react if and when your son does pick up some words. my 3 year old picks up everything, and lots of our family and friends are/were trashmouths. we learned very quickly that if everyone laughs when they say the words, they will repeat it a million times, and they save up for when you are in public, like at the pediatrician!!! though its hard, because it really is funny, just dont react when they say it, just turn away from them (which btw, i have found works for a lot of things) ...theyll usually forget about it in a few days. my son still comes out with a well placed "son of a BITCH!" once in a while, hilarious, but we ignore it. hth, D.
I had the same problem with my father and brother. They didn't even realize they were doing it! I say take the bitchy mom approach. EVERY time he swears, interrupt and say "watch your mouth" EVERY time. Your constant interrupting should be enough to make him more aware of exactly how often he swears. It will also annoy him to have to stop talking every minute or so, and he'll control himself. If that doesn't work, then just tell him he has to leave your house. He and your DH can go to a bar or something if the guy wants to swear, he just can't do it around your kid.
My son repeats EVERYTHING. It is mortifying when he swears in public, and I make sure to "thank" my dad each time it happens.
Take a stand n stay firm. . . Its ur house.
I'm a young parent too with a 27 month old. I think it is definitley time for you to say something to him. He is in your house with your child and he needs to know that he if he can't respect the fact that there is a young child there and not use that kind of language; then he is not going to be there. If you want to take a more subtle approach, try a swear jar. Every time he swears in your house make him put a dollar in swear jar and eventually he go broke and get the picture.
meh
i like brad
I am a mother to both a 24 yr old and an 11 yr old daugher. No one is a bigger cusser than me, but guess what? You couldn't PAY either of mine to swear...even when they were little! They knew not to do it and even now, my oldest is a mom to a 4 yr old and even he knows better than to repeat such words. I'm mortified when I hear kids cussing and it's even more shameful when they are out in public. Those must be the one's who's parents got such a kick out of hearing them cuss that it became a funny game that never knew any end. I never played that game with mine. They'd never be able to sit down and they knew it! (smile) The only thing I can venture a guess on is it's all in how you handle it...and them.
We had the same problem with me, my hubby and his friend who is always at our house. As soon as they say it I say "Watch your mouth." It's just a reminder. We've gotten much better since we remind each other all the time. I have a "parrot" 2.5 yr old who would walk around going "Oh da*n it" and "oh sh*t". If your son start this don't make a big deal about it. We just tell Aidan "We don't say those words." and move on.
my bro inlaw used to do the same thing, and i have a 2 year old, and an 8 year old, my husband always asked him to stop, and it never worked, finally i had to put my foot down. i looked my bro inlaw straight in the eyes, and i told him this is my house, and u will respect us and our kids. dont use that language in front of the children. and u know what?? it worked!! try it out
