K.L.
My situation was a little bit different but I can relate to what you are feeling. My husband and I adopted a 16 month old boy from Russia. While we were in Russia my husband carried our son in a Baby Bjorn everywhere we went. I was afraid I might slip on the snow and ice and fall while carrying him so my husband carried him. Because of this he immediately bonded with my husband. I can remember sitting in our living room the second day we were home with him, crying and telling my husband that the baby didn't like me. My husband reminded me that he had been the one so physically close to our son, by carrying him, for the first week so it was natural that he would bond to him first. After I calmed down I remembered what we had learned in our adoption classes about bonding. I made sure I fed him, bathed him and made a lot of eye contact with him. Before I knew it he was as comfortable with me as he was his Daddy. Now my husband says our son is a Mama's boy. It's not the amount of time but what you do with it. Have your husband wait and let you bath her. Try to focus on doing all the things that strengthen bonding while you are home with her. I think it's great that your husband has the opportunity to be so close with your daughter. He probably felt the same way you are now when she was born and you were the main person providing for her needs. Many Dad's either don't get the opportunity or some don't even want the opportunity to spend so much time with their children at a young age. Don't worry, as your daughter grows and matures she will love and appreciate everything each parent has done.