Summer Camp Offender (More Story) 9-1-1 Call

Updated on June 23, 2011
M.A. asks from Beaufort, SC
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OK. Before I took my son today, I went to pick up his BFF and was told (privately) by the other mom that one of HER neighbors told her that her son said yesterday that they were told that b/c someone called 9-1-1 "that kid" (mine!) was not allowed back at summer camp. Certainly not true, but this is how things start? right? Right!
I was SO mad that this leader took it upon himself to spread lies, rumor and otherwise that I decided my son was NOT going to apologize again and he was GOING. I decided that I would speack to the leader, as my son already apologized to him, me, the office staff AND the dispatcher!
The director had already called me and told me it was THIS group leader who "thought the child should have been suspended for a few weeks" or something totally arbitrary like that. She disagreed. We talked. It was fine.
Soooo....I took him to the camp. I talked to the "leader" who was IMO kind of a butt head and AH about it. I said I made him come today b/c even though he is mortified and embarrassed, he needs to face it. The "leader" stated that HE expressed to his boss that he thought there should have been more severe consequences but his boss disagreed, so my child was welcome and "whatever". ??? This is a kid who has NEVER been in any kind of trouble before in any way at school or this program!

So, I feel we did what needed to be done on our part and if I hear that there has been any mention of it by this guy in front of my son's peers, I will FREAK! This is an ex-teacher with over 30 years of experience dealing with kids and he has shown NO empathy whatsoever.

Am I wrong to be ticked off all over again?

Sorry--I don't mean to beat a dead horse here...but he kind of got me all bristled up again today. : /

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So What Happened?

OK--thanks for talking me off of the FREAK OUT ledge!
I certainly intend to monitor this idiots interactions with my kid. And, yes, I do see why they say (in School of Rock) "Those who can't - teach. and those who can't teach - teach gym. :)

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L.W.

answers from Dallas on

I would be upset too. It sounds like this group leader has his head up his butt. You would think he would be more understanding since he's worked with kids for all those years. It could be that he's burnt out on dealing with kids so therefore his tolerance level is not where it should be. I would just keep an eye on him. Sorry you are still having to deal with this. Seems like they are making a huge issue out of it for no reason other than it being a power trip for them.

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D.T.

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Nope, you are not over-reacting, this guy seems to have whatever is the opposite of a superiority complex (like he is one of those If I ruled the world types). You did exactly what you should have as a mother. The proper people received apologies, you talked to your son and all should be forgotten. Now it is a different story if your son was a cause of needing to dial 911 but that is no where near the truth. Where was this "Leader" when your son got on the phone and made a the call? I probably would have been a little less restrained as you when he pointed out that he had no authority in the matter but if it is brought up again today after camp I certainly would be telling the director what I think they should be doing about this guys job and his lack of respect for other and inability to take orders from the director. I would suggesting he should be the one taking a few weeks suspension.

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A.C.

answers from Wichita on

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A.G.

answers from Albuquerque on

Heck no! Talk about unprofessional! Who spreads rumors about a kid?! Your son made a mistake...one that millions of other kids have made ( I myself did it while I was a child) Your son understands that he was wrong. I think you dealt with it in an appropriate way. If anything it is this so called leaders fault that your son even called 911. If your son and probably all the other kids had been supervised properly it would have never happened. I'm mad for you!

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T.M.

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Your son did do something quite bad and there are consequences to his actions. I applaud you in correcting your son immediately. This teacher isn't really even part of the equation...if you hear anything else, then I would go directly to the director to address. However, your son's peers will not as easily forget about this incident. It will take some time to blow over...

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G.H.

answers from Chicago on

you go mama grizzly!!!! this guy has *branded* your son for life

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J.S.

answers from Hartford on

Everything was originally handled appropriately in the first few moments of the original incident with your son, the 911 operators, and everyone else involved with apologies and explanations and chastisements. This guy is beating a dead horse and trying to impose a far more severe punishment that doesn't fit the crime. If he continues, file a formal complaint against him for harassment. Show HIM no sympathy after this. He's being ridiculous. I don't care if he's had a bad day or a bad weekend, his opinion doesn't matter and the issue has been handled.

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E.L.

answers from Detroit on

If it makes you feel any better, my MIL is a 911 dispatcher, and she said that kids call them all the time, and they rarely apologize.

When my sister and I were around your son's age, we were playing barbies and they had an "emergency" and called 911. We didn't think the phone actually worked because the receiver wasn't plugged in. They called back and talked to our parents, and we apologized, but boy did we get in trouble!

I can't believe they're making such a big deal about it. Mistakes happen, I don't understand how someone who works with kids can have such a bad attitude.

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M.P.

answers from Sacramento on

I don't blame you at all. I think the whole thing was blown out of proportion in the first place. If he does mention it to your son or his peers again, I would go back to the supervisor and lodge a formal complaint against this man. That is just ridiculous. I had to do that with one of my daughters teachers. I have found that it is usually the ones that have no children who want to take these drastic measures when a child makes a small infraction. They are also the type to say "Oh my child would never _____" Ha Ha Ha - we'll see when you have kids....... ;0)

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P.K.

answers from New York on

Not over reacting. Hopefully, you made it VERY clear to your son that
calling 911 is dangerous. My husband is a NYC police officer and son
NYFF. 911 calls that are not 911 calls, take a lot of time. When they have
to send a car to double check, it is a waste of their time. What is someone
was being assaulted and car was busy checking out a prank 911 call.
Could spell disaster.

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P.W.

answers from San Francisco on

No, you're not wrong; I think after 30 years, it's time for that guy to get a new career. He obviously doesn't like kids much.

But let it go. Anger only hurts you. Just keep an eye on how this guy is treating your son. If he does say anything more about it today -- go ahead and FREAK!

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