My coworkers and I often make food to share at work. I am gluten free and sometimes cannot eat everything that they bring - This does not bother me one bit, I just bring my own food and enjoy it with them. However, one of my coworkers who is not gluten free has been making me "special" gluten free food and bringing it in to work - even when she is not bringing food in for others to share. Tonight I got a whole meal. I think it is very nice of her to think of me and make food just for me, I just think it is a little weird? I really don't want her to keep doing this, the food is not good and I feel obligated to eat it. Sometimes, she gives it to me to take home, then I don't have to eat it.
So my question is, do you think it is a little odd that she is making all this gluten free food for me and how do I deal with it - I really don't want it but, I don't want to hurt her feelings she is a nice girl.
She does not have family who are gluten free. We have talked about it.
And, yes she is making it just for me.
We do talk about food and recipes etc... so maybe she just wants to share with me her recipes - I don't know.
Is she eating it herself as well, or really just bring a dish for YOU?
Either way, if you want it to stop, next time just respond with, "Oh, no thanks _______. I brought my own lunch." She'll probably get the hint... if not, just keep politely declining the food and eventually she'll stop wasting her time and groceries.
HTH
T.
You could say, I really appreciate your foray into Gluten free cooking but my diet needs make me very picky about the food I eat and my tastes. Although its nice you bring me food, please don't make that special effort anymore. I am really better off making my own food. It would be benificial if you would not do that.
She's a food pusher.
I mean, she is making it JUST for you, and then for you to bring home.
I think you just have to tell her that while you appreciate it, you already have a meal cooked at home and don't like to waste food.
And you don't want to freeze it, you don't like it frozen.
Or just tell her, you appreciate it but please don't, anymore.
You have no room in your fridge.
You can't pay her back, and its awkward for you.
You have your own food and have to be very careful about food prep.
Per your Doctor.....
I don't think it's weird. I'm gluten free and people do that for me. I always am grateful but feel so badly because it's expensive and burdensome for others. I think you should let her know how much you appreciate it but that it's really not necessary as you are always prepared and follow strict guidelines.
Take her out for coffee or an ice tea some afternoon as a "thanks" and tell her you think the world of her for being so kind making food for you, but all the attention is more than you are comfortable with. And since she loves to cook so much, she really should to spread her generosity around and cook/bake for other friends or coworkers for awhile. Tell her you also enjoy making your own food, and don't want her hard work to go to waste, especially since other people who don't enjoy cooking would be so grateful to receive one of her dishes.
'thank you! you are so sweet. i have to tell you, though, i have a picky, picky palate, and have a long way to go to figure out what even i can fix for myself that i like. please don't go to any more trouble on my behalf any more.'
khairete
S.
Maybe she has a family member who is gluten free so she just makes a bit extra to be nice. Tell her "You are so thoughtful to think of me but I really wish you wouldn't go out of your way. I am always prepared to provide my own and I hate to have too much food that some gets wasted".
Start saying, "No, thank you."
"Ohhh, THANKS! I brought this amazing ______ I made and I'm just so excited to eat it. I'll save this for later."
Later: Dump in trash at home after a small taste so you can tell her what you thought of it.
Be honest about what you think of it.
"It was okay....it tastes like your still learning to work with________ when it comes to GF cooking. You'll get used to it."
Some mild constructive criticisms might be enough for her to get the point, and you don't have to hurt her feelings.
Let her know that you have gone on a diet. She probably needs friends.
A little wierd.. maybe. I think she's just trying to be nice and friendly. Tell her that you do appreciate it, however, it's not necessary.
