C.B.
I hate to say it, but I'm not seeing anything wrong with her behavior. You admit that you couldn't go - would you rather than no one went? Or you just wanted his dad to go? I think you should be happy that she cares about your son's education and future. There is nothing wrong with her making a suggestion. It's not like she's trying to lay down the law - it's only a suggestion. Granted you may have physical custody, but your husband is still entitled to speak to your son's teachers and there is nothing wrong or illegal about the teacher listening to the stepmom's suggestions. As long as the teacher is not giving out confidential information, then she is not doing anything wrong. I don't think your lawyer has the right to tell the teacher that she cannot talk to the step mom at all. I think all he can do is inform the school that you have physical custody and that the step mom has no legal right to any sort of confidential information. I really believe that you are overly sensitive about this, probably because of the dynamics between you and the stepmom. While I can totally understand that you probably hate this woman, you're going to have to learn to put your hatred in the background, at least while you are co-parenting your son.