J.B.
I would just send a breezy "reply to all" like this:
"Hey (Step-brother) thanks so much for checking on the plans. Because you already agreed to do the food we didn't want to bother you with the remaining details but rest assured that everything on your list has been planned. Great minds think alike because what you suggested is what we sorted out."
If there is anything on the list that wasn't already assigned or needs editing, add something like:
"Just to avoid confusion, I have slightly edited the list below based on past discussions. If anyone has any questions, please let (your sister) and me know. Thanks so much - we really appreciate that we've all been able to work together to plan this special day for Dad!"
Then leave it at that. No need for hurt feelings here.