Staying with Grandma

Yes, you are "being wierd". We have 2 grand daughters that love to come to Mimi's house. Let grandma love on them all she wants. Just be happy he has a great, special relationship with grandma. All kids need unconditional love.

First let me congradulate you on your pregnacy ..my kids used to act like that but they usually got over it when i played games with them or just talked about being at grandmas house cheered them up.Reasure them they can go to grandmas house soon but you want to see him also and you love him very much and you miss him ...thats what i said usually worked ...good luck

I struggled with this too. My daughter spent a lot of time with both sets of her grandparents. They always go to do all the fun things that I didn't have time to, or couldn't afford to. When my son was born, to help out, they would offer to take her so that I could have time for the baby. This developed into a rift between my daughter and I and she started to resent her brother, since she was always being sent away because of him. And it affected her and I because she never had the time alone with me that her brother was getting.

My daughter LOVES her grandparents with she such a blind passion that it sometimes hurts me too. But one thing that I have come to realize is that grandparents and family in general are such a blessing. You have to be happy that your son has that place that makes his eyes light up. As special as it is to be a mother, being a grandparent is special too. Be happy that he is so loved and that he is able to love them.

I am a grandma also , a young one at that, but when my gradkids comeover it's almost like a vacation from home they both love visiting g-mas and g-pas, things are just different w/ them at their house. My one grandson use to not want to leave, but i gave my daughter tips on what we did for the evening and told her to express to him that when they get home they could do the same for a lil while and now he is fine w/ leaving. My other grandchild is only 8 months and i'd do the same w/ her. I know at times parents get busy, but just a lil steps will go a long way. I have 6 g-kids so i've been through about every senario you could imagine. Best of Luck and it will get better!!
Sincerely, C. O

hi,
a few things that I could mention check the admosfear of your home and the vibe, is the child friendly, confortable? children can sence things and we tend to unestimate them! wen he's home pay extra atention to what he does and what is it that make's him not want to be there? wen he's at granny's house watch what is it about that place he like's soo much and does he have the same home and if not Im able to?
I have 3 children 13, 3, 1 1/2 month old. my 13 year old love's granny's house (my mother) cause she spoil's him, she has a beautiful home, my 3 year old does not like is granny's house (my mother in-law) cause is small and child friendly.
Don't feel bad or gilty cause is not you! with the HELP of your mother find the root of the problem and fix it.

Hi J.,
If you think about why wouldn't kids like it better at their grandparents. They are spoiled and get whatever they want. There is little if any discipline and they get dessert even if they don't finish their dinner. Heck i'll live there if I could. Don't think to much about it. I find that both of my boys, 3 and 9 months, act so much worse for me than with anyone else. I know that is because they are most comfortable around me and they show me their true colors. Be happy that your son is so happy there. Good luck on your labor.
Chris

I think that it is wonderful that he has such a great relationship with his grandma, it makes it much easier on you when you need someone to watch him. My son is the same way he talks to my mom on the phone all the time and always asks to see her if he isn't talking to her on the phone he is pretending to on his play phone. I am sure when you pick him up at grandmas house you see that sparkle in his eye too when you walk around the corner. Don't read to much into it grandmas house is supposed to be the place to be! I hope this will help!

I know exactly how you feel! My daughter went through the same thing around the same age. She just turned two and she still loves to grandma and grandpas. The reason I think my daughter loves going there sooo much is because they spoil her rotten! She gets all the attention all the time and someone to play with her whenever she wants. I would try to not let it bother you too much because he still loves you more than anyone else.

The fact that your son's eyes light up when he goes to grandma's is evidence of a good relationship. Grandparent's should be fun and loving and should not have to discipline children. Of course he loves it there. Be happy he loves his grandma and don't pressure yourself into maining that glow 24-7 at home.

I once read that in order for a child to accept love and compassion from people outside the household that have to learn it at home. I have these same feelings today with my daughter and my ex mother in law. My daughter seems to like to be with her more than my mom. I think my mom is the greatest ever but the other grandmother lets my daughter get away with more, she would obviously like it over there more. The thing is that she can not really depend on the other grand mother. My mom she can. Your son likes it over Grandma's of course because she is grandma. But it is only because you have loved him so much and he knows how to recieve love and give it back. Kids have phases and stages, it will be sometimes that you won't be able to shake him. Enjoy the time you can get alone when he is over Grandma's and know that he always loves mom the best.

Hi J.,

I don't think you are being weird about your request and your feelings about your son staying with Grandma. My son is 21 months old and his eyes light up too when he sees his grandparents. I also stay home with him all day so I really think that because they see their "mom" all the time, that it is just a special treat for them and something new. Sometimes I feel like I am not even in the room when his grandparents are around, lol.. I wouldn't worry about it though. I am sure that he knows your the mommy and he loves you more than anyone in the world! Good Luck!

I think this is very common. If he was with Grandma and at her house all the time it wouldn't be "special" anymore. My 20 month old loves to see both Grandmas and is even excited when Dad comes home. If you left for a while (more than usual) his eyes would light up when he saw you, I promise.