J.M.
Hi K.:
I agree with Michele S. Don't make the mistake of trying to pick your sons friends for him.He will learn to recent you for it. What are you afraid of? Hes an intelligent boy,someone for the others to look up to. Hes a leader...Not a follower,or he wouldn't be where he is now academically. Part of maturing,is allowing him to make decisions on his own.If hes anything like my son was,he will drop them, himself. My son use to go through friends quickly, in his early teens. He'd tell me..."I don't hang around danny any more" He acts to stupid.If these other boys are trouble,or act to imature around your son,he will soon find them boring,or not on his level,and move on.You need to give your son some credit,where credit is due.He hasn't given you any reason to doubt his ability to make good choices thus far. It could be these other boys,idolize the fact your son is bright,and fun to be around,and while no one expects your son to be their mentor,he could make a difference,in the direction they both decide to go. Great idea to invite them over for a night of pizza and video games or a movie. This allows them to witness what caring parents your son has. Your nice,and know how to have fun,and they know you personally now,so chances are they will be on their best behavior,so they'll be asked back. As parents,we should guide our children,however take care not to become their dictators.I wish you and your growing son the best.