Sleeping in Own Bed - East Lansing, MI

Each night gradually move further out of her room. Start in bed with her one night, the next move to the floor right beside her bed, the next move a little closer to the door, and so on until you are completely out of her room.
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I actually have been having the same problem, and now I am fed up. So in last 3-4 night I was able to just train her by leaving her in her crib and letting her cry it out. She gets so tired by 30 minutes into her meltdown that she sleeps like a baby should...through the night. This is really something that I told my husband and we had to bite the bullet sort of and it is working thank God because I am really tired and haven't had a decent night sleep in last two years because of this problem. I slept in last two days the best ever since she was born.

Its worth a try, and she may not get used to it easily, but give it at least two weeks before you either quit or try something else.
Good luck!

It's best to talk to her, on her own level, when she's wide awake. Tell her that it's time for her to be a big girl, and sleep in her own bed. And, that it's time for you to go back to sleeping in your own room. Maybe make her a part of an adventure, like choosing some special big girl bedding. Then, it's time for a clean break. There is not much else you can do to make it any easier. You might consider placing a baby gate at the door, to discourage night wandering, too. Chances are, she'll try to come get you from your room in the night, otherwise. And, toddlers being the curious little souls they are, she could get distracted from her mission, and get into things she shouldn't. This was a concern I had, when we switched my son to a big bed. The gate gave us the peace of mind of knowing that our son was safe in his room all night. Plus, he knew it was there, so he stayed in bed.

We just transitioned our littlest out of our bed. I had to sleep on the couch for about 2wks while DS got used to sleeping just with Daddy. Once he was fully asleep, we moved him to a crib (he's 2 but he is developmentally delayed, so we felt a crib was the safest bet if we weren't going to be right there) After waking in the crib for a few weeks, we started doing naps in the crib, putting him down awake, and letting him play or flick the light switch until he just couldn't fight sleep anymore.

We are at about 50-60% right now with Falling asleep at night in his crib.

Good LUCK

Whatever you do, there is bound to be a meltdown. But before you throw her into a room by herself, help her to learn to love the bed. Play in or around it with her, read stories there. In a few days or so of this, when she is ready for bed, read stories and/or talk about the day you had together (wiht her under the covers, and you next to the bed, for example). Get her thinking pleasant thoughts. Then tell her she is going to sleep in her great bed and you will be very close. Make sure there is a night light in there! Once you say goodnight, let that be the last of the cuddling and comfort. Getting her to stay will not be easy. But from what I have learned, you need to be strong. She will cry, but she will not be hurt (in fact, you will feel more hurt then her!). You will have to probably guide her back to her own bed several times in one night, for several nights. But after you say your "Goodnights", don't try to comfort her anymore. Direct her back to her own bed and try not to show emotion (this worked wonders with my son)... but was SUPER HARD on me... sometimes almost unbearable. But it worked. within days he was sleeping there and knew there wasn't any wiggle room. I hope this helps. ;)
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There are many times in parenting when major meltdowns can't be avoided! If you feel this is going to be a traumatic experience for your child, try tapering down. Night one sleep with her, day two tell her you're going to 'sit' with her till she falls asleep, day three sit at the end of the bed until she falls asleep, day four sit in chair in her room, day five move chair close to door, day six, sit outside her door with door open, day seven close door and sit outside. Of course, add a couple days in there as needed. I had to do this with my daughter also. I think all in all it took about two weeks to retrain her with it all. Try buying her something special for in bed too, I used the fisher-price aquarium music box. It has lights, music, and bubbles. My daughter is now 3 and sleeps in her big girl bed by herself. Best of luck.

unfortunatly i did the same thing with my son. He will be 4 in august. i was a single mom, so there was no problem with him sleeping with me, considering i'm scared of the dark and i love cuddling with him, lol. i was ready to get him in his own bed, and i bought him a race car bed and i gave him his own room with a tv and still he'd rather sleep with me. so i moved his tv in my rooom and took the mattress off his bed and put it next to my bed. i dont have a frame for my bed, so it just sits off the ground. that has been going well for a couple weeks now, he still throws a fit when i tell him to lay down and he cant come up here with me, but i ask him would he rather sit in his bed or sleep in his room in the hdark by himself... he almost always lays right down after that. just two days ago i moved his tv back in his room, but he'd rather sleep in my room still, when he tells me to bring the tv in my room, i tell him, either he can sleep in his room and watch tv, or he can sleep in my room with no tv... he still choses my room, but i'm seeing results, hope this helps!