In the last 3 meeks my 81/2 month old daughter has decided that she wouls rather sleep with me than in her crib. She was in a moses basket up until maybe 4-5 weeks ago, well now she thinks she can only sleep with mommy I nurse her and it's so easy to fall asleep during 3 am feeding. I love having her near me but my back is killing me from sleeping funny. I'm feeling very sleep deprived because of this. I'm about to put her back in the basket but shes just getting to big/long for it. Help please!
Well i'm still in the battle over sleep . The problem is she's in our room right now so it's hard to ignore her crying at 2 am. And as for letting her sleep in her crib for naps thats hard because me husband works midnights so he's sleeping till 3 in the afternoon. I still don't now what to do but one things for sure my chiroprator loves me since i'm there once a week because of my neck!
My daughter also slept with me while I nursed her. She started sleeping from 10-5 am at 3 1/2m old tho. I would recomend getting one of those arm's reach co-sleepers. They are awesome. The baby is still right there, but it gives you more room for a comfortable sleep. You can usually get a nice one second hand for 50-75$ Well worth the investment :)
Hey C.,
Let me give you some advice that my doctor gave me about sleeping with your baby. It is the number 1 cause of SIDS, i was doing the same thing. Even though it may be hard, leave her sleep in her crib, let her cry, it's good for her lungs, if she's not hungry, and you know that there is nothing wrong with her let her cry, she will eventually fall asleep and get used to the idea that this is where she has to sleep. Yes, i know it's heart wrenching, i hated listening to my daughter scream but it worked. If she needs you she'll let you know. Good Luck.
Is your daughter on solids at all? The reason I ask is because by 8 1/2 months, she shouldn't be needing a 3am feeding. Usually by this age, babies can go 8+ hours a night without a feeding. Or, if she is on solids, it could be she is waking up to eat out of habit. By 4 months my daughter was sleeping 12 hours a night and she is 9 months old now and still sleeps that long. She used to wake up at 2am and I would immediately feed her. Someone suggested letting her fuss a little bit instead of getting her bottle. Well, amazingly it worked and she hasn't gotten up in the middle of the night since. Just a thought, but I would definitely put her in the crib and let her fuss a little bit. More than likely, she will fall back to sleep, but it may take a few days. As long as she is eating enough throughout the day, she shouldn't need to eat in the middle of the night.
just curious if you've tried putting her in her crib in the day time when she's put down for a nap in order to start acclamating her to her crib?
We went through the same thing when my daughter was around 6 months old and we tried to transition from the cradle to her crib. We ended up cosleeping for a couple of months until we were able to ease her into her crib. Have you tried putting the crib in your room until she gets used to sleeping in it? We just kept it in there for a couple of weeks and then moved it to her room. She was never a good sleeper, and all I wanted was a couple of hours to myself. As a nursing mom as well, I start to feel "touched out" if she's attatched to me all day long. Anyway, she still woke up a couple of times in the night, and I'm lazy, so when she woke up, as long as it was after 2am, I'd bring her to bed with me. If you're not into the cosleeping thing at all, then just keep trying to put her back in the crib.
Good luck!
i dont know if this will work for you, but what i do is when the baby gets up for his 2 or 3 am feeding i just bring him to bed and nurse in the side-lying position. i keep the baby between my husband and i so he wont roll off of the bed, and i just go back to sleep. (i start him on the outside side, and i only have to stay awake for 15 mins or so until i can switch sides.) that way we all sleep better, and i dont get neck problems from falling asleep sitting up. some folks dont get into 'bed sharing' tho. just speaking from my experience. good luck! (and hopefully good sleep soon :) )
Let me just first say that I feel your pain. My son is 16 months old now, and I finally weaned him at 15 months and he is FINALLY sleeping through the night on a fairly consistent basis. What worked for me was letting him cry (it was sooooo hard at first--he cried for an hour and fifteen minutes the first night, but after we got through that first night, it got easier). Also, cutting those night time feedings as soon as he didn't need them seemed to do the trick too. My son also slept better on his belly - I know that's a big no-no, but he had great control of his neck and loved sleeping on his knees -- he looked so precious with his little diaper bootie up in the air!! Good Luck!!
I agree, leave her in there. If you bring her back it'll be just as hard if not harder later. Here's a suggestion my mom gave me when my son did this to me a long time ago...turn off your monitor! LOL! I'm sure you can hear her cry w/o it and the monitor only makes you feel worse.
Good luck!
S.
