Single Mom W/special Needs Child Leaving Unhealthy Relationship

Firstly, congratulations on your sobriety and being such a courageous woman and good mother. DO NOT STAY. It would be for all the wrong reasons, just follow your insticts and know it will all work out in the end.

Go to WIC (Women and Infant Children's center). If you are in the valley there is one on Sherman Way and Reseda (northest corner strip mall across from walgreens next to CVS) also one in the back corner on Sherman Way and DeSoto shopping center (near library). They will provide any nutritional needs for your child including formula. Just ask and they will tell you how to apply for and where to go to for financial aid, food stamps, housing, and medical insurance (medi-cal or Healthy Families) for your baby and possibly yourself.

There is a place in Northridge or Winnetka where you go to recieve all this but I can't recall the location. DO NOT WAIT! Go to WIC. Leaving your boyfriend will be the best move. Hopefully, one day he will get clean but until then you cannot risk the well-being of yourself or your child. If you leave while the baby is young it will be less disruptive for him. I hope you have family and friends who support you but even if not there are surrogates to be found all over this world.

I only wish my best friend were as courageous as you to take her three kids and leave her unhealthy relationship.

I don't know you but I love you for all that you represent. Good luck and good health to all three of you.

I think you should follow your instincts and move on. Yes, it's a risk either way, but I think staying would only lead to worse consequences.
Check out AA for some resources. And if do you leave make sure he knows it's For Good, that there is NOTHING he can do to make you stay or get you to take him back.
Good Luck, you've put in Plenty of time. Cut your losses and move on it will be a huge weight off your shoulders. Kids don't need money they need stability and an addict can't give that.
Sincerely,
B.

Hi M.-
I am sorry it's taken me so long to respond to this. I have a friend who runs a non-profit organization specifically for families in your situation. Their org is called Stillpoint Resources. They do wonderful work and have helped so many people. You can email her with your story and needs at her personal email, ____@____.com

I hope they can be not only encouragement to you, but they will have specific wisdom and resources for your particular situation and needs.

God bless,
K. Ortiz

M. sometimes we choose people just like we are because we think since we are alike maybe God sent them to us,so you become co-dependent in the relatoinship.Stop giving yourself superficial reasons why you should stay with the farther of a abusive relationship before it become worst!Go to a shelter that will help you and your son get into a safe place,start with the blue pages in the phonebook and ask for public assistant in your area,ask the women in your AA meetings or call ____@____.com blessed not stressed for 2008!