T.M.
I am so sorry that those "gilrfriends" did that to you. Do not. retaliate, their time will come and it will be unfortunate.... You do know they are not your friends, probably some jelous women. I think It is great you are trying to rekindle your relationship with your man. You were together for a long time, some marriages dont even last 4 yrs!!! If he beleives you that you did not cheat on him and you can talk openly to each other. Iwould ask him once and for all to tell you what is the matter and tell him your fears about the sex issue and accept what he says, trust him just like he trusts you now. you guys went through alot with what those girls did. It really could be that he is tired and stressed and if that is the case you need to keep doing what you are doing and love him for everything he is. making love is done in alot of different ways, you dont always have to have penatration. sometimes just holding hands, kissing, hugging etc means making love. i would be comfortable in who YOU are and be there for him. ask him straight out if he finds you attractive and if he is IN LOVE with you. if he answers yes then I would just love him and be there for him just like you were married "in good times and bad, to love and to cherish" best of luck. I would also go out and make new friends. Girls need girlfriends.