Seven Month Old Who Wakes 3-6 Times Each Night!!! HELP!!!

Updated on March 21, 2008
M.L. asks from Concord, NH
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I have a seven month old baby girl who wakes every night at 10 am (like clock work!) then every 2-3 hrs from there looking to nurse and sleep close to me! She won't go back to sleep on her own..wants me to hold her and nurse till asleep. Once asleep, I place her back in her bed only to have her wake an hour or two later and the cycle happens all over again. If my husband tries to help she freaks out and gets hysterically crying only to settle for me. (Yes-she is a mommas girl!) I am a stay at home mom and she spends a lot of her time with me day to day. I have started to "shhhush" her and give her a paci. without picking her up...but things are not getting any better! She is in our room till she can sleep through the night due to her having to share a room with her big sister. I can't have both girls up all night!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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L.J.

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Hi M., I have a soon-to-be 6 month old son. I was nursing him and he also would wake up 3-4 times a night to nurse and be with me. What my doctor suggestion was to give him an 8oz bottle of formula right before bed so that his belly was full. It might be that your daughter just isn't getting enough milk at each feeding to feel satisfied through the night. How's her weight gain? Although this did help my son sleep at night, I unfortunately made the decision to switch 100% to formula because he wasn't putting on as much weight as he was in his first few months.

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M.C.

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I am having the same trouble with my 6 month old as of the past few weeks. She previously was a great sleeper. I recently started solids and wonder if she is having a hard time digesting them or maybe it is a growth spurt thing. I have taken to bringing her in the bed but am not satisfied with that solution while we love to have her close i feel i am setting myself up for a battle later on. I get the feeling that she might know if she screams loud enough she'll be in like flynn into our bed. Even in our bed she will wake up and screams/cry a bit so it does make me think she is having tummy troubles? Will as pediatrician at 6 month visit next week. Not sure what to do myself, but i feel your pain.

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R.K.

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I too was a stay at home mom with my little one.. we had a similar problem with her. She had a gastrointestinal problem that caused her a lot of pain which led to over night screaming sesions... (and becasue i was home with her all day, Dad could't do much to help) my point is, up until she was about 10 mo old, she would wake every night and scream.. and i would hold and comfort her. So when we sorted her tummy out, I think she had got used to the cuddles every night and would still wake up at least 3 a night, just to be close to me. It's easy to say to let her sleep with you, but in my opinion that doesn't solve the problem, it only delays it until later-- sooner or later she's going to have to sleep in her own bed, and the longer you wait the harder it will be.

My daughter is now 22 mo old and we've only within the past few months have gotten her to sleep through the night. We tried crying it out, but that seem to make her worse during the day (clingy, moody, etc). In the end, I used the same routine with her every time i had to go into her room. I would say the same phrase with her (it's time to go night night) and would and pick her up the first time for only about a minute or less, then if i went back into her room, just reassure her with words and pats. I never let her cry for more than 2-3 minutes.. and after a few nights of real temper flaring the cries turned to whimpers and now I might hear her stir when she wakes, but she stays quiet and goes black to sleep.

Hang in there and ultimately, do what's right for you and your little one.

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G.M.

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Sounds just right for a breatsfed baby. It's hard and it's a big commitment, but you are doing the right thing for your baby. All of that 'sleep schedule' stuff you see in the mainstream books (or here, or anywhere else) usually refers to formula feeders. Your baby needs to nurse at night because she perfectly digests the perfect food you are feeding her. She's probably going through a growth spurt and just needs to eat more often to increase your milk supply. Try bringing her into bed with you for a week or two until your milk increases and she can drop one or more of those nighttime feedings. Feeding her lots during the day will also help you make sure your supply increases to meet her demand. Try 'Nursing Mother's tea, too.

You're doing just fine!

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B.G.

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Maybe she is going through a growth spurt.

My duaghter is 13 months old and still wakes up at 4 AM to breastfeed.

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K.V.

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Can you just let her sleep with you? This is what we do and it works well.

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L.P.

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My youngest daughter is also 7 mos old and she basically follows this pattern as well. Occasionally, she'll make it until 10:30 before the first waking, but sometimes it's as early as 9:30.

She's #3. My eldest was a pretty good sleeper. She ate at 11pm and 3am like clockwork until she slept through the night at 13mos. Otherwise she was happy by herself in bed. My middle child was a terrible sleeper who was up for hours almost every night in the middle of the night for his whole first year and never slept through until 18mos of age.

For all the children we've done consistant bedtime routines, no light or talking in the night, swaddling as long as possible etc but they each have their own needs and patterns at night.

I don't think it's too strange or unusual for a 7 mo old to need this kind of night time parenting, although it is exhausting. What I discovered when struggling with my son's night time issues was that if I really had to (and with him I did) I could bring a child to sleep with me in the middle of the night and still sleep. I am a very light sleeper and I like my space. I never wanted to co-sleep, but it became a matter of survival with my son.

I was afraid that this would mean he'd always need me to sleep, but because I always put him to bed in his own bed at night this wasn't the case. As he eventually slept longer stretches in the beginning of the night he was spending more and more time in his own bed. This meant that when he did finally sleep through it WAS in his own space! What a relief! I now happily goes to bed in his own bed and stays there all night, except on rare occasion if he's very sick.

So, with my 7 mo old I am doing the same. She goes down in her own bed (which is also still in our room until she sleeps through) and stays there until she needs me around 10. I am typically in bed already at this point because, let's face it, I'm tired! At this time I bring her in next to me and nurse her lying down. She goes back to sleep this way and stays there for the remainder of the night. I barely notice or remember when she eats--typically two to three more times--before we're up for the day at 5am.

Each time she starts to thrash and fuss I try the paci first. Sometimes that's enough. If she's hungry, though, she'll spit it out and fuss some more and I'll know she needs to nurse. When she's done I make sure to pop her off and pull down my shirt so that we don't get in the habit of all-night nurse fests!

At the moment, this affords me the most sleep with the least number of disruptions possible. It's much easier than getting up out of bed and sitting to feed her somewhere and getting up again to put her back down (carefully) and walk back to bed several times a night. She is less disturbed and so am I. Of course, we have a king-sized bed, so we can afford to spare some space for her, too!

Good luck. It is tough to be disturbed for so long, but it's really not that unusual. Babies sleep is designed to be light in the first year and they really do need to touch and comfort of mom in the night, even though it might drive mom nuts!

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M.T.

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I, too, can reassure you that you are not alone. My 6 month old follows the same pattern and sleeps in his crib in our room so as not to disturb his 2 year old brother. We tried "cry-it out" a month or two ago, but I just couldn't let him cry for 45 minutes to an hour (which my pedi says I should have waited longer). Anyway, everyone has their own opinion on sleep - I am one that does not want my child in my bed because I don't want to delay the problem until later to work to get him out. We just started taking an active approach to getting him to sleep through again. We have started by dropping the nighttime feedings one at a time. At first my husband would pick him up to help soothe him (if I did it he just wanted to nurse... I am also SAHM). Then we started to wait 5-10 minutes before picking him up. He has started to put himself back to sleep and I am down to just feeding him around midnight and around 5 am. He is still waking at 10pm (probably because that is around the time we are going to bed and he can sense us in the room), but my husband puts him back to sleep by rubbing his tummy and I don't feed him. It is still a work in progress, but he is sleeping for longer periods at one time and has already dropped 2 feedings. Good luck!

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C.L.

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have ur daughter sleep with you in ur bed next to u (in btwn u adn ur husband) for a while adn it will help her to wake up less and nurse her right there. she will go sleep and easy for you to just stay in bed and nurse her.. it will works for a while then transtion her back to her own crib in while later. i did the same with my son. he wakes up in middle of night. he sleep with us on our bed and it help him to wake up less...just nurse few less time during ovn. not bad. and drink mother's tea... nursing tea... i like weleda's nurisng tea.. taste better than yogi;s nursing tea.

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