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My 5 year old daughter has always has "issues" with wearing sox and/or shoes since she was a baby. It didn't concern me too much at the time since lucky we live in southern CA and I'm always barefooted or in flip flops myself. As she's grown its gotten worse, she hates tags on her clothes, her dolls, stuffed animals, hates closed toes shoes, boots, jeans, etc. She hates sox's so much that she would rather get blisters on her heals then wear sox and I've turned me inside out and spent way too much on seamless sox that she still hates, nothing seems to help. This morning it was first day of kindergarten (and back to closed toe shoes) and she had a meltdown with putting on shoes. I finally got her to school by promising her I would talk to the teacher. I did speak to her and she said this is not uncommon at this age and that she would likely forget about it once things got started in the class. That's fine but, I still think she may have an issue rather then just a dislike for these things that bother her so much. Any moms out there with similar issues? What's worked for you? Has anyone tried sensory integration therapy, or anything like that? My next call is to the pediatrician but I'd like to hear what other moms have experienced and what does and doesn't work. Thanks for your time!!
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There is probably a Occupational Therapist at your daughter's school who can help her, especially if it is interfering with her ability to be successful in school. My son gets help from the school OT and it has helped a lot of his anxiety and irritability. Every school has a child study team. You can also see if your insurance will cover a private therapist as well. You would never even know that my son ever had any issues at all. Be aware that every kid has some sensory issue. It only become a problem if there are many of them or interfering in their lives.
I was like that as a child. As an adult I *still* have sensory issues.
My sons are also like this. I get the athletic seamless socks and it helps out a ton. I get shirts that are tagless, or I carefully cut the tag out.
As for meltdowns, it's something that will help in time as she gets used to them again for the school year. Most of this is normal though and not really sensory issues and will likely fade when she's older. The tag and sock seam issue is very, very common. Sensory Processing Disorder does include a lot of tag/fabric issues, but it also includes a lot more concerning touch. This helps explain it a bit:
http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/sensory-proces...
In my days it was called kids who just don't like tags and the confining feeling of some clothes. They get over it. It seems today everything has a
name and a therapy for whatever. I had a kid like that, she outgrew it. Some things carry over into adulthood. I always have and continue to hate
having my feet covered. I would just try to deal with it. Certainly if there are
other signs that concern you, talk to your pediatrician.
My almost 3 year old daughter also has some sensory processing disorder. We discovered this when she was an infant because she didn't like motion and had feeding difficulties. She did not go through a stringent sensory integration therapy but she has had an occupational therapist since one year old. She has tactile sensitivity so holding cups, utensils, as well as touching paint, shaving cream, and sand took her some time to get used too. She also walked late and partly because she was sensitive on her feet. She wouldn't walk on cold tile, grass or sand. The therapy is basically to slowly integrate these sensations. For hands, we would put a finger in the paint or cream, the next time 2 fingers, and so on. She now full on rubs the paint between her hands and loves it. For her feet we had to hold her feet on the tile for a few seconds at a time, then pick her up and cuddle her. Each day we did it longer until she did it on her own without thinking. Same with grass and sand. My niece had the issues your daughter has and did not receive any therapy because they didn't know this was a problem and they didn't mention it to the pediatrician. She eventually grew out of it but it took several years. My experience is get them into therapy as soon as possible because these issues can lead to greater problems if not addressed. Since she is 5, she would have to be evaluated through the school system if you want it funded through the state. Here is a good website that has a symptom checklist to see if your child has SID: http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/ Good luck!
I'm an adult and I simply cannot bear the feeling of tags on clothes. I cut them out as soon as I buy a garment... I do this for my daughter also. I don't like things being too tight & basically cannot wear bras at all. I don't have the sock issue but there are tons of shoes I cannot wear. It all comes down to sensitivity. I am extra sensitive and the little things cause me irritation and pain... I am an otherwise normal person. Healthy. No medical issues. It may be that your daughter is just extra sensitive.
Yes, my oldest son was VERY particular about his shoes and socks, MAN lining that SEAM up in JUST the right place, or GASP, just like you said BACK TO SCHOOL SHOES, also tags on the back of his shirts, belts, and kind of heavy outerwear......
I am pleased to say, after learning there WERE no options, you HAVE to wear socks and school shoes, you HAVE to wear a winter jacket, he grew out of it.
He is now a college sophomore and has not appeared to have any 'sensory' issues for over a decade.
If I had seen other problems as well (VERY picky with food, sounds, colors lights, social issues, etc), I def would have had him evaluated.
You know her best!
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I'm sure some kids just "get over it." But for others where the issue is more severe (and it's a neurological issue), that can take a long, long time and really interfere with their lives and any hope for success in school. With my 4yo daughter, she has meltdowns or explosions if something is not comfortable. She's currently getting OT. Some things are improving, others are still tough. I'm sure that by the time she's 20, she'll be able to handle most situations. But until then, I'd like to get her the help she needs to be successful.