--sorry that this is long...another midwife's answer--
L., in reading your post, it sounds as if you are already sensitized. Is that correct? Sensitization happens when positive blood from the baby is introduced into your blood stream. Your body sees these positive antigens as foreign cells and develops antibodies to attack them (just like when germs from a cold enter your blood stream and you produce antibodies to fight the cold). Becoming sensitized during your first pregnancy should have no effect on that baby, but can have dire effects on a pregnancy IF you carry an Rh+ baby (and it is possible to have an Rh- baby even if your husband is Rh+) AND IF your body detects the Rh+ blood in the placenta.
If you are *already* sensitized, you should never receive an additional shot of RhoGAM. At the beginning of each pregnancy, an antibody screen is done with the rest of the routine lab work. If if is reactive, that means that fetal blood from a previous pregnancy already entered your system and your body has begun antibody production. RhoGAM is of no use to an isoimmunized woman. HOWEVER...RhoGAM is essentially an immunization that is effective for approximately 12 weeks. An antibody screen performed within 12 weeks of receiving RhoGAM will come back positive as a result of the drug itself, so further testing MUST be done to determine if you are truly sensitized (isoimmunized) or if the screen is picking up the antibodies present in the RhoGAM.
A new lab test is being developed to determine the baby's blood type before birth. If you are sensitized, then I can't begin to imagine the worry that you've been through with your pregnancies. Not all Rh+ babies conceived by sensitized Rh- women miscarry. It is very challenging, indeed to have such a high-risk pregnancy.
Now, if you were not sensitized, and I misunderstood your post, being Rh- does not make your pregnancy high-risk. The use of RhoGAM has caused the sensitization rate to drop from about 17% to about 1%. RhoGAM is a blood product, but there have been no reports of blood-borne illnesses resulting from its use for the past 30 years. Also, none of the immune-globulin drugs like RhoGAM or Bay-Rho(D) contain mercury (though they used to).
~V.
P.S. RhoGAM is made from the blood of women who are sensitized, so if you happen to be sensitized, your blood is very valuable. That's a freaky thought, isn't it?