A., I can so relate to you! My dtr who just turned 5 never spoke almost her entire year of school (last year). I'm an Occupational Therapist so I knew developmentally she was fine. They wanted to have a Speech Pathologist Eval her. but I declined because I knew they would not be able to get anything out of her and I was afraid it would stress her more. She was fine at home and with her close friends but in public she wouldn't say a word. This was so frustrating for me. We weren't able to get her pictures taken because this would freak her out. She was also very hypersensitive to sound. We ended up getting her ear muffs to help reduce the loud sounds when needed (ie., movies, Disney etc...). She was able to make some friends in school even though she didn't converse with them very much. So, I worked very closely with her teacher to try and decrease her anxiety. Some suggestions are to have her involved in the classroom without speech, ie., line leader, paper passer, chair keeper...Then slowly grade the activities to include very limited speech. The other thing that worked really well for us was to have her Grandma go to class with her a couple of times. Not me, because she would view me as her safety net. Her Grandma helped reduce her anxiety and draw her friends into conversation. I am happy to say that this year she has made huge progress! I can remember one time when we were in Lowe's and this elderly lady was behind us talking to my dtr and asked her how old she was. My dtr then told her what grade she was in and how old she was. She was so surprised herself that she started to giggle and look at me. Of course, I was joyous that my dtr talked to a stranger. I didn't think that was the appropriate time to discuss stranger danger either :) My dtr is now in full day kindergarten and doing great. We were fortunate enough to go to Montesorri so she has the same teacher and some of the same students. She is talking to all her classmates, still some limited conversation with the teachers. SHe has really come out of her shell. We even had her first birthday party with her school friends and she even allowed the photographer to take her picture at school without crying. Is she 100% outgoing, No, but that's okay. I did get a really good book called Helping your Child with Selective Mustism by Angela McHolm. They had some good tips on how to help your dtr. We also involved her activities that we could participate with her. She played soccer this year and has yet to speak to her team mates, but she's out there! Look for some parent and tot activities so she gets exposure to other social situations with the comfort of you present. I know how you're feeling but you can help her. If you need any advice or support, please drop me a line...Good luck to you and your dtr...L.